Which way to go?? need advice from both angles

[bAaM]

Ok so i have put it here cause i am not pro or anti circ cause i dont know enough about it.

A few months ago we had some trouble with DS foreskin getting stuck and had to go to the hospital to get it pulled back.

He is 6 and has had continuse infections, so we when to see a pead about what to do and they said it was tight and very long and they would recomend him be circ'ed. I am in the air and dont know what to do, i have asked him and explained what they will do and all he wanted to know is if he got time off school:rolleyes: so he doesnt realise.

I have tried stretching it in hot baths but an hour after the bath it hurts again, i have no idea what the risks are or what the pro's are??
Or what i can try before i go down that track??

Please dont fight and get my thread closed cause i really want to hear my options. So please just give me the info and leave it at that.

U dont have to agree with everyone.

Thanks in advance

Alicia:flowerz:

[Stack]

Im not usually for circ. But given your circumstances it will probably be alot more comfortable for your boy if you did IMO. I think the main arguement against is a moral one - peoples personal opinions on the subject. Thats not to say that there arn't risks involved. On occasion to much skin is removed which can lead to sexual problems later on. It has also been thought that circ can make sex less pleasurable for men.

There are some interesting articles if you type it into google.
Goodluck and I hope you come to a conclusion that your happy with. :)

[readytogo]

Hard one I'll give you that!
Personally I think if your little man is getting constant infections and you are unable to loosen the skin with warm water then looking at a circ is a definate possibilty. Like any surgical procedure there is a risk of infection immediately after it is done, but once fully healed then minimal. There is the better feeling with a foreskin for sex, but I'm sure thats not really on your mind seeing as he's 6! Ultimately its your little mans comfort and it wouldnt hurt to see what the paed says in regards to his growth over the next few years.
ie
Will it become tighter?
What are the risks of continual infections?
Will the growth of the penis be impeded?

The best thing is research but be wary of certain sites if you use the internet look for a neutral site if you can. Good Luck

[shed]

I think you will find that most of the fights are actually about Routine Infant Circumcision, not medically indicated circumcision, so don't worry about that! No one would deny a child the proper medical treatment.

Can you get a second opinion to help you make your decision?

Must be awful, you poor thing, my thoughts are with you both.

[Everyday]

I personally would get it done, the older he gets the worse infections he will have.... You can get Circumcisions done up untill the age of 12 with the Plastic circumcision device. It is painless - well nearly... but much less pain then cutting!!! I will PM you a site to look at this is where i had my DS done and my DH had his DS done also.

If you do get it done just make sure you are vigilant with cleaning and pulling the skin back in the bath EVERY night even for months after the procedure as it could re -attach.

[LizzardLover]

Ok this might sound silly, but as i've only got a girl I have no idea.... can they do a "partial" circ? I mean, if they say it's very long maybe just take off some of it and that will loosen the rest or something?

If thats not possible i'd probably go for a Circ because I would imagine as his penis grows the discomfort will increase.

[Whippet]

It's horrible that your son is suffering.

I chose to not circumcise both my boys. I felt that they were bought into the world with all their parts functioning properly, so why change anything?

However, your son is suffering some complications and I'm sure he's often quite uncomfortable. I see it as being similar to having an apendix removed (not a fantastic comparison, but all I could think of right now) Even though a child can live a happy and healthy life with or without either, when a medical condition steps in it's time to consider surgery.

If I were in your shoes I'd be weighing up my option like you are now. To take away my childs pain, I would certainly be considering surgery.

[mum_I'm_hungry]

We haven't circumcised our son, but if there was a medical need and I thought he would be more comfortable, I wouldn't hesitate in having him circumcised. It wouldn't be pleasant, but it's about medical need, not aesthetics. Just as we didn't hesitate in having my daughter's ear infections sorted out (grommets, adenoids etc.), I wouldn't hesitate about this, though I would get a second opinion if I wasn't sure. Perhaps you need to put aside the fact that it's about his penis and think about it as any other body part that you would be treating if it needed medical attention?

:hugs: for your little man. Whatever you decide to do, I hope his infections etc. stop soon.

[bAaM]

Can you get a second opinion to help you make your decision?



We are going public and i have heard that there is only one doctor here that does circ ops. So i dont know how i could get another opinion??

Wouldnt cutting be quicker?? If he was under when they did it??

He is a real ruff head so wouldnt that other thing be painfull and uncomfortable??

I have no idea what to do:( What if i do this and then it goes wrong and he can never DTD he would hate me:hissy: I just am so lost about it all atm.

[serendipity22]

when to see a pead about what to do and they said it was tight and very long and they would recomend him be circ'ed.

I think it being long is a very poor reason for circ.

As for it being tight, that is not unusual for a 6 y/o,
retraction sometimes isn't possible till puberty.

There are definitely some docs who are too gung ho about circumcision.

Also nobody (except the boy himself) should ever attempt to retract the foreskin, as this can lead to infection.

[Leeny]

This thread is quite old- the OP has already found the answers needed.

Thanks to all who contributed.