A new section - support after pregnancy loss

[Bron]

Well, I asked for this, and here it is, magic.

I thought that it would be helpful to have a section on bubhub for those of us who have lost a baby either through a miscarriage or an ectopic, and who need to talk about it. For those posts that don't fit in with trying to conceive again.

So, here is a safe haven for you all to seek support during those difficult months after losing a pregnancy.

Feel free to create as many new threads as you want - this section is for you.

:hugs:

[deb&patrick]

Fantastic to have this area available, although just a little late for me! given that I am preg. again. When I lost my baby at 14 weeks I didn't really have anyone who I could talk to and something like this would have been great.

If you are feeling lost and unsure about whether you can have another baby( which is how I felt) be reassured that your body will know when the time is right again - just 8 weeks after my m/c I find myself preg. again (sure it was an immaculate conception:D but thats another story!)

Deb

[Tea Lady]

Great idea Bron. :)

[MilkOnTap]

What a great idea! A section like this would have been brilliant for me when I wasn't ready to TTC again after losing my two bubs... This is fantastic!

[Lunar]

Ally just wanted to saY how much I love the little saying in your signature.
I too am a mum who has m/c.
We started TTC a few months before our wedding in 04 and it was a month after our wedding I dicovered I was pg!!! But by the time I took myself to the DR to have it confirmed I was no lunger pg:crying:
My periods were always to the minute! So I ended up bleeding more than 3 weeks later. This being christmas time.
The very next month I was pregnant again!:smiliedance: but this was not to be either and we lost that baby at nearly 10 weeks but the baby had actually died when he was 5w3d gestation. My body did not want to let him go.
So I had to have a D&C that was very hard. Knowing when I woke up that it was all over and there was no longer anything inside of me:gloomy:

Then it was 4 months later I fell pg again! This time it WAS meant to be! And the gorgeous baby you see in my avatar was born march 11 (10 days late mind you!) but I didn't mind waiting extra long for her, God knows I already waited long enough!

Thanks for listening guys!
I am very glad that this section is here now for others to share!

I know that I have a new baby now but the pain of my other babies that are not here still exists in my heart.
I know that it will never go away, I just have to be strong for the 2 beautiful girls I have with me.

[MilkOnTap]

Thanks for that Kris... Congratulations on the healthy pregnancy!!!

I know what you mean about 'Knowing when I woke up that it was all over and there was no longer anything inside of me' My second ectopic ruptured, so I knew my baby had died and it wasn't so difficult for me to want to accept treatment. But my first ectopic hadn't yet ruptured. When I was taken into theatre I felt guilty; to me, my baby was still alive and allowing a doctor to remove it from my body was abortion...

It is now almost 11 months since I lost my first bub, and 8 months since I lost the second. Milestones are hard, but it gets easier with time. My husband has been really supportive and is keen to continue TTC when he gets home...

Cheers again for the new section - :thumbsup:

[min]

Bron - great work setting up this new thread. The support I got from Bubhubbers after my m/c last year was incredibly important - it really, really helped.

Cheers

Min

[hoping4another]

Bron- Thank you sooo much for setting up this section as you know i have had many question since my 2 m/c and now we finally have our own little place to come to and know that our's in this section know how we are feeling this has put such a smile on my face:D after my rough 3 weeks... Thankyou:hugs: :kiss: ..
so i am sure you will Konw where the first place i will come now when i am in the forum...

wendy

[maybe1more]

Hi all, we all know only too well that heartbreaking news that we dread the hear, the loss of losing a much loved baby:crying: its rips your heart and i we wonder what we could of done to prevent this, and the truth is, went didnt do anything to jepodise our babies, god just needed more angle in his garden to look over us:kiss:

Time is needed in aid to heal, we have our good days and our bad day, but trust me ladies there is light at the end of the tunnel, i know it doesnt seem that way but there is. When i found out i lost my baby at 11 1/2 weeks i was completely shocked, as being my second pregancy i thought i would be ok as id been thru this before but i can happen to anyone. Then to find out that my baby has desintergrated and a tumor had taken over the baby was even worst (called a molar pregancy) I had to have weekly blood tests (for 13 weeks) untill my hcg levels were below 5 and then wait 6 months (with monthly blood tests) before i could TTC again in case the tumor grew back (if id did i would of needed chemo) but my levels when down and all was ok, apart from the agonizing wait:rolleyes: .

After all that i got cleared in January this year and fell pregant the same month:smiliedance: So hang in there, the gold at the end of the rainbow is waitting!