Should I feel bad about this?

[Lipsmacker01]

I need your opinions again bub hubbers!

Ive just enrolled my 15 month old girl in family day care and on top of this today Ive had a realllly bad day! Nothing has really gone my way up until now. Finally got the beef casserole stewing away but up until now my girl has been so clingy and just wants so much of my attention.

The thing is I kind of feel relieved that Im going to put her in someone elses care (will be part time leading to full time). I really need a break and feel like Im going insane being a SAHM. I dont think I will get another opportunity to work full time in a while because we will be TTC #2 fairly soon and once they arrive I will be home for the both of them.

I really feel like I lost it today...had lots on my mind and yelled a fair bit at my poor girl :(.
I dont do this all the time but think I really need to do something about this. I kind of think that it will be good for my girl to experience being with other children a bit more as she is so used to being around me.

Is it alright to be feeling a bit guilty of putting her in family day care? I know Im going to miss her heaps.

Sorry for the long post!

[Fuchsia!]

Yep i think its normal to feel guilty. To be honest when i put my DS into school (only 1 day) i felt relieved too. I looked forward to having the day to myself.

Do what you think is right for your circumstances. If you don't want to do it you can always take her back out :)

[monkeytoes]

:hugs::hugs::hugs:

You do what you have to do. I'm sure your little girl will love family day care. And I'm sure she will get a lot out of interacting with other people:yes:.

And from one SAHM to another I can tell you I have some really ****** days too. Today is one of them:hair:. My 2 yr old has been whinging since about 9am.

Hope your day gets better.

[Mama2Mia]

i too am considering to putting our 12mth old in day care soon (as soon as she is a stable walker).....

i think if you can afford to do so and you really need it, there shouldn't be anything wrong about it. Some mum's definitley have more demanding kids than others or some just need a break every now and then to keep their sanity!

i love being at home with my 12mth old but sometimes 1/2 day off as mum would be sooooo great! i think i'll miss her too much leaving her for a full day so i'll start off with half a day first and see how i cope without her!

don't feel guilty....you're doing what you think would benefit you and in turn it will reflect in you as a mother because you'll be more relaxed and more calmer by the time you pick her up

[Entropy]

Not sure if I should comment, as I am not a SAHM, so not really in the same situation!

But honestly - don't feel guilty - really!! My DD has been in family day care 3 days/wk for about 6 mths now and while I am not a SAHM, I really struggled with the guilt of having her there. If I was at work (or the rare day I was home & she was at care) - I was guilty for not being at home with her. If I was at home with her - and she was being horrid - I felt guilty for not being happy to be at home and enjoying my limited time with her...

Had a loan of a book from a friend called "Mother Guilt" by Ita Buttrose & Dr Penny Adams. Am not a huge fan of self-help books, but it did at least give me a laugh & not feel so alone!

[Lipsmacker01]

Thanks ladies for responding!
Im having a much better day today! Casserole turned out great yesterday and Ive tried to put my girl on only 1 sleep today as a trial maybe that might help her. DH came to the conclusion that shes not clingy but just too eager to learn and wants to try lots of things...needs to stimulate her mind. This on top of looking for child care for her and worrying if Ill burn the casserole and worrying about housework as DH goes to gym everynight just took a huge toll on me!!

So much better today. PS she slept through too last night unlike the previous night. I think I should make some more me time. Looking forward to work now going to a meeting tomorrow to discuss what dept Im working in. So exited and looking forward to my girl mixing and playing with other children. Hoping she gets a lot out of it :) Thanks again bub hubbers