Advice on getting dad to see kids.

[nalf]

Does anyone have any advice on going through the process of getting a father to see their children more often?

I have two children, one with psychiatric issues (age 11), one with developmental issues (age 9) who need to see their father more often. I also need them to see him more often as I have no other support.

What I would like is for him to see them one weekend every fortnight (or I would settle for one weekend every two months) plus for him to have them for four weeks when he is on his annual leave (he gets five weeks annual leave).

He has every excuse under the sun, like he is too busy or has other things to do. I have no custody orders or any paper work.

Any advice would be welcome!

Thanks.

[claireandbailey]

Good luck is all i can say.

If he doesnt want to see his kids is it really worth him having them?? I think you;d have to weigh up the pros and cons of making him see them, like will it really be beneficial to ur children to see their father get made to see them not by his choice.
I dont know if legally you can make him have them but its worth a shot going to legal aid and see what they say.

[Jo_Jo]

Good luck is all i can say.

If he doesnt want to see his kids is it really worth him having them?? I think you;d have to weigh up the pros and cons of making him see them, like will it really be beneficial to ur children to see their father get made to see them not by his choice.
I dont know if legally you can make him have them but its worth a shot going to legal aid and see what they say.I feel for you, but as a mother who has dealt with this, you cant make him and its not worth it anyway if he dosent want to be a part of there life more its his problem, he is the one that misses out on all the stuff that goes on in there lives and them growing up, sure i know kids do want that time with there dad but they have to be let know that this is his problem and he has some issues and that you dont want them around him untill he deals with those issues......and i know it is hard when you cant get a break and have no support maybe you can reach out as in parents without partners or some sought of parents group you have to make that step but otherwise us mums have to go the hard yards and beleive me it will get a bit easier as the kids get older, i mean in another 8 years these kids will be starting to get out and about in the world and it goes very fast, i take solice in that when my oldest turns 21 when i watch her blow out her candles i can say to my self i new i could do this and i knew the kids could too and im so glad to say i tuffed it out and look what he missed out on, you are doing a great job!!!!!

cheers...jo