Ugly

[polony]

I am feeling so ugly today. It doesn't help that I am not feeling well, but blugh!

For some reason, what I see in the mirror isn't how I look. Does anyone else have this? In the mirror I look fine. I look nice. I don't mind how I look. But when I see how others see me (dad was playing with the video camera tonight...) I just think, "Oh yuck! Do I really look like that??? Look at that pot belly! Look at the profile! Gross!"

Is it normal to be like this?

[Kaileysmum]

Sorry your feeling so down honey. I feel the same way a lot of time, Ill get dressed look in the mirror and think I look ok, then dp will be mucking around taking photos and ill look at them and think "oh my god, is that what I look like YUK". We all have our bad days where we feel yuk, especially when we are sick. Hope you feel better soon matey...Until then have some big :hugs: :hugs:

[MilkOnTap]

I'm having an ugly day too. I got my hair done yesterday with a few chunky blonde foils, but they turned out brassy and now I feel like a BOGAN. Bleh! I'm sure tomorrow I will feel better once I dye the suckers out again!!!! :thumbsup:

[mum2paige]

It sucks doesn't it! The best thing I do when I'm having one of those days (or weeks) is try to have a bath, read a trashy magazine, and do a face mask. Just that 30mins of quiet time to myself is fantastic.

I felt so gross after bubs was born, didn't want to go out in public...am getting better though, I actually went out to dinner with DH and DD for the first time tonight!

[JnA]

I have a theory that when we look at ourselves in the mirror we 'hold' ourselves. That is, best angle, tummy in, shoulders back, relaxed face, nice smile, bright eyes etc etc. and we exude confidence because our bathrooms are our sactuary (well, mine is anyway) and we feel 'safe' there.
When we get photographed we aren't always 'holding ourselves', the angle might be 'wrong', we may not exude such confidence, our eyes may be half closed and we may be halfway through a word that makes our mouths look all funny (can you see what my flaws are?).

I always avoid photos.. There are hardly any pictures of me anywhere, I *hate* the way I look in photos, I used to say, 'I have the kind of beauty that moves'.

Lately I've been looking at the few pics I've had with Jade and noticed how big I have gotten, instead of cringing and tearing the picture up (as I used to do) I now am using them as motivators to lose weight. (They may be empty motivators, but I can't bring myself to tear up a photo with Jade in it).

I hope you have a better looking day tomorrow.

[JaYdEn&CaYLeE'sMuMmY]

i feel the exact same...now that iv had kids and im not the size i used to( i was quite skinny) i feel even worse &i always look tired and run down.. even when im not tired.. my eyes still look tired and has bags... does any1 know how to get rid of tired looking eyes? it would help alot!

[Vespera]

Oh yeah its normal. I look at myself in the mirror before I go out and then I catch sight of myself in a shop window usually want to go home.

Girls are definatley harder on themselves than men. I wish I could be okay with myself like DH always is

Hope you feel better tomorrow :)

[Pixie]

ohh yeah that's normal it sucks... chin up ;)

[razzle]

.. my eyes still look tired and has bags... does any1 know how to get rid of tired looking eyes? it would help alot!
Cold teabags on the eyes works wonders!

Everyone has their ugly days... :hugs: to all the fellow uglies out there!!

[MissSparkle]

Oh honey don't worry. Everyone has days when they "feel" ugly but to ur DH ur probably the most beautiful woman alive (they should definately be thinking that after we all gave birth to their children!!)
Photos don't capture ur essence. They r a snapshot of physical appearance when ur not always prepared. Seeing someone in person u see their physical appearance and their personality shines thru making u all that much more beautiful.

[polony]

I don't have a DH to tell me I'm beautiful :( I don't even have a DP :(

Maybe that's the problem~

Oh, and just to add, I am not a shallow person, I can see inside people, but vanity can sometimes get the best of me....

[mysonroger]

i feel the exact same...now that iv had kids and im not the size i used to( i was quite skinny) i feel even worse &i always look tired and run down.. even when im not tired.. my eyes still look tired and has bags... does any1 know how to get rid of tired looking eyes? it would help alot!

not only am i mysonroger, but also known as queen eye baggy baggy. i have tried it all from changing my diet through to applying Preparation H hemarrhoid (spelling?) cream...all the rage on the catwalk a few years ago. nothing works when its genetic (as opposed to just having a late night). the only thing that stood out was that stuff....****e! what's it called. you apply it under your eyes and it sets the skin so its not baggy. it truly is amazing, but it just hides it for a few hours rather than resolves the problem. but great for parties, photos or if you're expecting to bump into an ex......
i always look tired and have aged a lot due to my bags, because the baggy skin is wrinkly now....like a scrotum. i'm going to get an eye job done in a few years , to drain the bags.

[SassyMummy]

I agree that we "hold" ourselves in front of mirrors. I do it all the time...I stick out my chin (so there's no evidence of a double-chin...lol) and style my hair just so.

If I'm infront of a full mirror, I'll pose so I look my skinniest, prettiest and sexiest. I also fiddle with my clothes until they're absolutely perfect.

Later when I see a photo of myself on that same night...I think "OMG! I look horrible!".

We can all pose to look perfect, but as soon as we move and let go we obviously look a little LESS like what we had hoped for.

When you think about it though, people would much rather spend time with someone having fun and just letting go than someone who's constantly adjusting their top/hair/lippy etc and who is constantly posing.

When you see photos and whatever, just think about how much FUN you were having, and whether looking perfect is worth missing out on the fun or not. Chances are you'll choose fun over posing anyday! :D