Public Changing Room Etiquette

[Pixie]

OK today I used one for the first time ever...me and DP went in together the other 2 mums in there nearly died lol...DP got all the things ready for me and I changed Eliza...next to me was another mum and she said "how old is your baby?" and I said "ohh just over two weeks and smiled" and carried on we were in a rush as we were meeting people for lunch and I just wasn't thinking then DP whispers in my ear..."babe you should ask how old is her baby" and I am like :o so then he puts everything away and then I wash my hands and look at her baby who look DARN CUTE in her winter woolies and I said "aww don't you look cosy and cute" and smiled at the mum who glared at me :(

And we left I was like gawd what am I meant to be saying to the mum's and dad's in the changing rooms? DP said you are so rude Nataliya you have to stop being so shy now you have the baby lol.

So what do mums say? I need social changing room chit chat help pwese!!!

[Bron]

You could try something like "Well, you're lucky I've got clothes on actually" ;)

[Pixie]

LOL ya good point Bron :D

[jkate]

You could try something like "Well, you're lucky I've got clothes on actually" ;)


:D I like that one


I am no good at chit chat either sometimes, but then other times I can have a good chat. That women was strange she started talking but then didnt want to :confused: . If someone ask me how old my kids are, I ask how old their kids are. Then try to find a common link, sometimes work sometimes doesnt. Good luck with your chit chat :ecomcity:

[diamonds22]

lol I think you said the right thing...i cant really figure out why she glared at you?? you didnt say anything rude and you sounded polite...lol way better then me..i'm such a snob..if I don't know someone and they starting talking to me i usually just ignore them or answer short answers..so they get the hint that i'm not interesting in talking to strangers..not cos i'm shy...lol i just dont want to chat with them! (mean i know dh gets up me for it)

[tickle]

Don't worry DM she was just jealous that Eliza was sooooo much cuter than hers.;)

[Ana Gram]

Hang on I'm confused, are you talking about a nappy changing room or a clothes changing room?

[WeThree]

i think shes talking about the nappy change room chelle. :)
i always strike up conversations with mums in the change room, but im not put out if they dont ask me how old my bubs is or anything like that, but i cant help asking 'how old is he/she' 'what is her name' 'oh she is so cute!' stuff like that, particulary if it is a new delicious baby :) most people are just as friendly back, or start the conversation first, but one or two are rude like diamonds ;)

[Pixie]

A nappy changing room

HL do you think???? lol her baby was pretty cute lol

[Pixie]

Ahh ah fank ewe Erin lol I am just so shy when it comes to meeting new people etc...think back to the first meet lol
Yeah lets hope I don't meet diamonds eh lol she will scare me JJ Diamonds please don't hurt me :D

[caz]

I'm like you DM, i'm shy at the best of times too and find it really hard to talk to strangers. It will get easier for you as bubs gets older

[WeThree]

It will get easier for you as bubs gets older

so true. in a few months time when bubs is a bit older or you've had a couple of more you will be dying to talk to ANY grown up available!! :laughing:

[diamonds22]

Ahh ah fank ewe Erin lol I am just so shy when it comes to meeting new people etc...think back to the first meet lol
Yeah lets hope I don't meet diamonds eh lol she will scare me JJ Diamonds please don't hurt me :D

lol i didnt know you meant a parents room..i was thinking along the lines of a public swimming change room...heheh where i dont think its appropriate to start idle chit chat to someone when they have just gotten naked and are changing there baby...lol its kinda a private moment....but a parents room is in a different ball court...i dont think i would be rude then...heheh no need to worry ladies ;) :)

[Pixie]

aww thank you PN I have been going out since I got home only one day have I stayed in lol.. I am a serious outdoors person + I have a shopping problem :o ...

Erin I agree I will get there eventually lol especially when I get sick of saying

"did you just poo again....I just changed you":rolleyes: :D

[Bron]

Something that I've been known to do if I don't want to have a conversation with someone is to pretend I'm on the phone. Hold it to your ear and chat away about stuff (and hope that it doesn't ring). I haven't done this for years, but did it once at uni when I was approaching one of those people who is so boring you feel like your soul is being gradually sucked out of your body during the conversation.

And if you want to freak people out, you could try saying outrageous things into the phone:

"No Tom, you can't speak at the Scientology conference next week, Katie and Suri need you at home".

Or "No Gwyneth, I'm afraid we can't offer places at our school to Apple and Moses, you simply don't fit the criteria".

[Ana Gram]

OK, now I understand. I seem to have pregnant brain with out being pregnant or maybe it's because I only came back from the dentist a few hours ago.

It does strike me as odd that she would talk to you and then glare at you when you tried to make polite conversation. That's just odd. I don't generally try to make conversation with peole in a parents room. I'm pretty much there to do a job - getting rid of the stink ,so I don't find that environment a great place to start conversations.

[misskittyfantastico]

Oh gosh, I'm the queen of inane chit chat...where I live everyone knows everyone so I've just gotten used to idle chit chat whenever I'm out and about - I actually think I chat without fully engaging my brain...just, Hi, how are you? yeah she's great, no not sleeping through yet, yes she is on the 75 percentile etc etc. When I'm in the city and someone makes eye contact I smile at them and get some strange reactions..oh well:D

[Pixie]

Bron I get that soul being sucked out of me feeling when I talk to my mother :laughing: :laughing:

[steph_alyssa]

i don't generally talk to people in the change room coz by the time i get in there DD is screaming her head off so i charge in there, stick her on the boob and relax in the new found silence .... but when people talk to me first i try and talk back but i always feel like i sound really fake coz i say all the same stuff they do like 'how old is your baby?' "shes ..., how about yours?' and so on with whats her name, is she a good baby etc. Plus i can't talk while changing nappies i have a really weak stomach and i can barely even stand changing DD's nappies so i keep my head down and get on with it so people probably think i'm rude!

[Charlie]

Sounds like she was Jealous of you having such a helpful DH :laughing:

I've found that women talk to me when I go into the parents rooms alone, but whenever DH is with me they tend to ignore us....Has anyone else found this?

[misskittyfantastico]

Yes Charlie! It's so true....although we don't use parents rooms that often because there are no shopping centres (barely any shops!) where we live! We decided though that perhaps when we're in the city to do as city folk do and use change rooms......my poor DH got so many looks in the Sir Charles Gairdner Hosp parking lot changing DD in the (open) boot of the car:laughing:

[MammaMia]

TO be honest, when that happens to me, I'm normally so busy admiring my child and getting lost in her beauty & the wonder of it all that it doesn't occur to me to comment on the other person's child.

I just take it as confirmation that my child truly is amazing and we all bask at her feet in her reflected glory. :D

Don't worry about the rules - just soak up the adoration!

[EskimoMumma]

i cant stand the rudies but i just smile and nod and continue my merry way iwth my own daughter.. i hope that doesnt make me a snob :eek: