what to do?

[meme1]

has anyone been in a situation where they only see there husband every 3-4 months? due to work? (only for a maximum of this being the situation for 2 years)

any tips on how you cope? and your children cope?
thankyou

[Kazamataz]

:hugs: oh mate thats awful, I have never been in that position as my husband refuses to work longer than a week away from us.

Is it possible for him to work on a shorter roster?

If not is it really worth it?

[Myliam]

No I've never been in this situation, but I hope your able to have some contact at least. By internet or mobile phone. If it doesnt negate the extra income by costating to much that is. I think it's really important to have some kind of way to keep in touch with each other. Maybe even good old fashioned love letters via snail mail. It's important to keep the intimacy alive so you don't end up living seperate lives.
Good Luck.

[fiveofus]

I personally couldn't do it but then it depends on you and your kids and how old they are too I guess. It may be worth having a chat on the section for partners of people in the armed forces. My friends hubby is in the army and has been away for those sort of lengths of time (although not consistently). Maybe some-one there could tell you what it's like????? Good luck with your decision!
I guess the other thing is you can always try and if it doesn't work he can quit????? We certainly looked at things that way when my DH started FIFO work.

[Kazamataz]

It may be worth having a chat on the section for partners of people in the armed forces. My friends hubby is in the army and has been away for those sort of lengths of time (although not consistently). Maybe some-one there could tell you what it's like?????

:iagree: it may be worth chatting in the armed forces sections as they would have more experience with long time frames apart.

[KJEmum]

meme1 Hi there.. my DH is in the Navy and he's away until November. We did do MWD(U) which is married with dependants unaccompanied when he lived/worked in Darwin and we were in Sydney. He popped home every few months for a week. We did this for 12mths before his posting was extended so me and the kids moved up there. 2yrs on we are in WA.

Everyone copes / deals differently with the absence but one thing you need to do is .. . create your own little life when he's gone. If you are a SAHM, go to playgroups mix with friends, do craft, go bowling and so on. I find our lifestyle is more flexible .. like last night we all went ot a friends house to watch Hannah Montana concert on the Disney Channel. Was a good reason for us adults to catch up for a chat.

I don't know how old your kids are but if they are school age you could get a map and show the kids where their daddy is .. and how many days left .and count down the days.
With little ones it's hard cos you don't have anyone to give you a break. I just have to make the best of the situation.

Also you have to be strong because you're a mum, you HAVE to carry on for their sakes but also to show them how to be strong. You have your weeping moments and that's ok .. we all do because it is stressful.

You could send a package to your DH every few weeks with things your kids have drawn or put in a dvd of you all. Fathers day is coming up, you could put together a parcel to send. That's what me and my kids are going to do. :)

[meme1]

Thanks everyone for your replies.
appreciated a lot. i guess each individual is different as to how they will cope etc. My hat goes off to all the families who are in this kind of situation, you all do a wonderful job!

I haven't told you that i am a regular member under alias :D .... for my reasons. so i wont be positing under this name anymore. and just wanted to tips/advice/opinions. so thankyou for everyone who replied.

[Kazamataz]

I haven't told you that i am a regular member under alias :D .... for my reasons. so i wont be positing under this name anymore. and just wanted to tips/advice/opinions. so thankyou for everyone who replied.

:laughing: It funny that you say that, because when you first posted I wondered if you were someone in hiding :laughing: IYKWIM

I don't usually think that, maybe I'm psychic :laughing:

Well good luck with it and hope you find a way to cope that works for you and your family.