Yes Im still breastfeeding. Why am I miserable?

[Lipsmacker01]

Ive posted a thread on this before and have had lots of good advice. Again my MIL was like 'so you're still breastfeeding' my nearly 15 month old girl :(.

It really really hurts when she says this and I didnt really want to argue with her or make a come back as Ive pretty much been making come backs all day...eg re her feeding her deep fried chips...or leaving her in my car asleep after a long trip and leaving her in there whilst shes still sleeping unattended.
Lots of things just got to me last night but that breastfeeding comment really got to me.

Im so happy doing it and cant see myself weaning my girl off any time soon. She dropped that line when she was asking me if Id work lates. I said no I wouldnt work lates and she gave me the spell about how my girl drinks cows milk fine.

Im trying to be strong I really am! She had no luck with her 3 kids she breast fed them till they cut their teeth at 6 months and straight onto formula whereas I persevered as I love breastfeeding even though I had to put up with nipple biting and sore blocked ducts occasionally.

Why does it sound so weird when you tell people you are still breastfeeding them when 14 months isnt really that old?

[cmd'smum]

No hun, 14 months really isn't that long (as in it's bot too old to still be BF)! You have done so so so well to have made it this far!:yelclap::yes: WELL DONE! If people ask me how long I intend to BF I just say "As long as we are both happy"!! :yes:

If you're happy with continuing who cares what she says, just tell her that the WHO recommends 2 years ! Even better, print out 101 reasons to breastfeed (I think there is a thread somehwere on here with the benefits of BF) just keep :ecomcity: about how great it is, then maybe she'll get the idea :rolleyes:

:hugs:

[MummaBear03]

Should have heard the things people said to me when my daughter was 2.5 and helping herself :laughing:

Glad you're still breastfeeding her, there's nothing wrong with it, everything is right about it.

One day people are going to learn that it's those comments that are causing people to give up before they or their bubs are ready to give up.

:thumbsup: You're doing a wonderful job, and giving her the gift that lasts a lifetime :cloud9:

[NibbleCurlynBub]

I am so sorry you aren't enjoying it right now. :hugs:

My DD is the same age as yours and I have just found out I am expecting number 3.
I do sometimes get annoyed or frustrated or just not really feel like boobing her but she absolutely loves it.

I think about how I would feel when the new baby is born and I have cut her off from boob. I would miss that connection if I gave it up.

Thinking like that helps me to appreciate how much she enjoys it and how amazing it really is.

[dragonflyblu]

Counter the negative comments with positive ones. you ae giving your baby the best start in life, the benefits of bfing are dose dependant - so the more milk over a long period the better the benefits.:yelclap:I get so tired of bfing but I know I am giving clea the best, and besides Bfed children have statistically higher IQ's...

[stellarella]

Look, her opinion is silly and it shouldn't get to you but I know how and why it does because I feel the same way as you. I know rationally that those kind of people are just uneducated but it is draining having to justify yourself all the time :hugs:

Oscar is 2, I'm pregnant, we still BF.

You are not alone :kiss:

[guerin]

I personally think you need to be honest and direct with your mother in law. I don't mean being honest and direct as to why you believe breastfeeding is best, but be honest and direct as to why you don't want to listen to her criticism anymore. I think if she starts on something you should immediatly say something along the lines of. "I really like you and I respect you as a person, but this is my child (make sure you look her straight in the eye with a focused look), so I will raise her how I want."

This may mean that you need to stop asking her advice but to be honest there are plenty of places you can go and get some tips even online and it sounds like her advice comes with a nagging after taste and best left alone.

I think she needs some boundaries set and I think you need to be respectful but firm.

Oh I don't think 14m is too old . Also that is irrelevant she is your child end of story. Unless your abusing her, your MIL needs to keep her nose out of it.

[NibbleCurlynBub]

Seriously, is she the kind of person that seems to have any worthwhile advice?

If she's anything like my MIL, IGNORE HER.

Some people are just so strange and so ignorant despite their age.
Age doesn't necessarily bring wisdom. :no:

"I respect that but YES we both still do it and it is very good for both of us" (cause, well, it is!)

[Lipsmacker01]

Thank you ladies :) I feel better after reading your posts

[QTB]

i dont know if this has been said but tell her the WHO recommends breastfeeding until age 2. (and that your planning on feeding til 5 :laughing:)

[Sheer Bliss]

:hugs: I am still b/f my 15month old bubba. Some people are just ill informed on the benefits of b/f, you are doing a fantastic job doing what is best for you & your bubba - ignore her.

[Hollywood]

:hugs: Hey, I know it's hard to hear that comment, but keep your chin up and just remember what a fantastic start in life you're giving your DD. Well done!

[Tam-I-Am]

You have my greatest sympathies :hugs: I can't count the number of times I heard this with DD, even from my quite-pro-breastfeeding family - and when doctors told me that I'd HAVE to wean her at 18 months because of medication they wanted me to take (didn't end up happening), they just could not understand why it upset me.

It got to the point where I just didn't talk about breastfeeding to any of my family except my DH...I don't know that most of them realised I was still breastfeeding her for as long as I was (just shy of her 2nd birthday).

Please don't listen to them - I do understand BUT they are wrong, not you. There is nothing, and I mean absolutely NOTHING wrong (and so much right!) with you breastfeeding your 14 month old. Don't let your MIL taint it in any way for you :hugs: