How do you keep the faith when you don’t feel up to it?

[mummytobeinnovember]

I’m really struggling today, I was so sure this was the month… when I was late by a few days my hopes shot up for every day they didn’t arrive but they finally did arrive around midnight last night. After that, I couldn’t get back to sleep and was in tears for hours afterwards.

After 2 miscarriages to date and having waited for three months to allow my body to recover I can’t help but feel a little desperate. I’m approaching my mid 30’s so by no means too old but starting to feel like if it doesn’t happen soon I’ll run out of time and miss my long standing dream to have children.

Each month, the disappointment gnaws away at your spirit, sometimes I just want to give up on falling pregnant at all to spare myself the grief. I’m normally a positive person who focuses on staying strong and hopeful, but I feel like I’m losing the battle at the moment.

I’d love to hear any inspirational stories you have that can help me keep the faith and keep on trying. I hate feeling down and out and am looking for any kind of spirit booster!

[Jamaica]

Sorry to hear your feeling down. I guess they call it a TTC journey because it has a lot of bumps, twists and turns, but in the end you get there :) I guess we all just hope our journey could be a little shorter and a little less eventful.

The one thing that keeps me on track (though I havent been TTC for that long) is the thought that for every cycle I dont conceive there will be another chance soon. My life seems to broken up into 2 weeks intervals of waiting for O then waiting for BFP/AF but for me focusing 2 weeks at a time is about all I can deal with.

I dont no if Ive been any help but I hope you feel better soon :hugs:

[Eeyore]

I can totally relate to your anxiety. I am also in my thirties and after 15months of ttc and a miscarriage, I often feel a little desperate too. I try to accentuate the positives and find that silver lining each month; focusing on something, anything else. For me its reading books - lots and lots of books (I have read about 80 since Christmas). Just something to take my mind off counting days and POAS and noting any possible symptoms of that elusive BFP or AF.

One thing you can take comfort in knowing is that you are not alone and that there are lots of other women in the same position as you. And they are here for you to chat or vent to.

Keep your spirits up. The right baby for the right family at the right time! :babydust2: :fingerscrossed::babydust2::fingerscrossed:

[Baby Dreaming]

:hugs:I know what you mean. It took DP and I ages and we also lost our twins we concieve with fertility drugs.

I am not sure I really have any helpful hints but it will happen. After the m/c they wouldn't let me back on the drugs and I figured it wasn't really worth testing for ovulation as it could be a while (cycles were anywhere from 3-6.5 weeks) so we just let things be and guess what? it happened. Tomorrow is my big scan (19.5 weeks) and as far as I know all is well. I must say waiting 3 months would have been really hard. I only had to wait until wait a full cycle.

I really hope that BFP comes you way soon.:babydust2:

[muls]

I remember being there....When I lost my baby I bleed for 2 1/2 mths on and off and so I couldn't keep track of my cycle and sometimes I felt like my world revolved around my cycle and I couldn't think of anything else. I also work in childcare and got upset everytime a parent would come in and announce their pregnancy - I felt bad for being jealous but thats how I felt. When I did fall pregnant 5 mths later it was on a weekend when I had let loose and went out with the girls and wasn't thinking about it at all.
Now an inspirational story would be a person I know that went through 7 m/c (that I know about) and 3 unsuccessful attempts at IVF. Her and her partner had a break from the stress of it all and were looking at other options and they thought they'd give it one last shot and low and behold they had a successful ivf implantation and now have twin girls. They went thought so much but they came out the other side.
Hope I've been some help.
:babydust2: