omg i hate my MIL

[*Chels*]

ok im prety worked up,this could be loooooooonnngg!!
so here goes...
today MIL and FIL to be come round.Weve just booked a wedding venue for wedding next year.so i sat there telling her bout it while she questioned EVERYTHING!!!i wont go into everything she was going on about coz i will be here all nite.
Then she tells us to go out and relax for an hour or so.so off we go down to pub to have a drink and play some pokies.get back and i can hear my son,riley crying
i come inside and hes hysterical,doing the gasping/gulping thing they do when they are upset.out everywhere is ALL my parenting books,and health books(lots i had from studying too)and shes been reading them
she starts lecturing mark(my df) that he should read more of them.
so yeah she hasnt been toooooooo annoying in the grand scheme of things.so off they go to visit marks bro.i go out to their car to get something and MIL is talking to mark.all i hear is"just be careful,ok?" and him going"just go!!"
so she walks out and im like WTF?so im like "ok bye"
so i ask mark what happend and he wont tell me.i ask "did she say somehting about me?" and he said yes.
soooo... turns out that she told him that i drink too much and that he should watch out for me drinking in excess while b/f!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
so then i cracked it!!!
ok,yea i drink.if we go out to lunch(which we do once a week) i will have a couple of wines.if we go out to a friends place(which is maybe once,twice a month)i will have a bottle of wine.my son is always down for night before i start drinking.i doubt very much that he is affected.how dare she question me????????
i would NEVER do anything to hurt my son,i try my best to be the best mum i can!!!!im not an alcoholic and i dont drink often!
its bad enought that i have to put up with her telling me how to raise my son.eg-telling me a year was too long to b/f,hes got wind,i dont burp him properly,he has a sore tummy,hes hot,hes cold,he needs to sleep more, i should put him on bottle/solids,etc etc:ecomcity: :ecomcity:
but to say i drink too much?!!?i never put her in her place or tell her to back off,i just smile and nod.im sick of her making me feel like **** and put me down and it goes beyond parenting to every aspect in our lives.
i take riley round once a week to see her while i go off to have a coffee or something,so i get a break and she can spend time with him.everytime i come back he has been crying!im not saying that babies never cry,but i never tell her shes done a **** job and thats why he cries.but she always justifies it like"oh i think hes got wind" or "hes got a sore tummy"
am i making sense?im just so angry:mad: just coz shes got no life and she wont get off her *** and get a job,doesnt mean she should f****en butt into our life!!
ok that vent was good but i still feel like **** and now i will take it out on DF
thanks for reading!!

[SweetDreams]

Sorry I have no advice only comforting hugs.

Enmeshment sucks! So does enabling which is what it sounds like your DH is doing by not telling his M to go smoke a pipe!

[littlepickle]

How rude:mad: I think you are quite within your rights to be feeling mad at the moment - I think I would be ropeble!! To have someone question your parenting skills! If I were you, I would confront her about it - the fact that she took your DH aside in the car to tell him to watch things it totally undermining you - that is so not on! Sounds to me like she doesnt want to let go of the role of "mother" in the family!

:hugs: Hope you are feeling ok

[Mamaduke]

Tell her to get stuffed!!!
After 8 long painful years of putting up with my 'smother in law' meddling, contaminating, terrorising & poisoning my marriage I ended up laying it on the line with DH and issued an ultimatum...it's them (inlaws) or us!
It came after she screamed at me in front of my children...I told her to get stuffed to her face...we've never been happier...a huge (overpowering German) weight has been lifted off our shoulders....:smiliedance:

[*Chels*]

thanks guys!
UPDATE-MY DF SAID THAT HE WANTS TO DIVORCE HIS PARENTS!!:laughing:
He said he doesnt want them at our wedding,think hes being a drama queen(hhmmm wonder where he gets that from?!?)
he said hes sick of his mum interferring and his mum telling us what to do!like,we let riley sleep in our bed.personally i love it,i feel better knowing hes right there,and i have irrational fears that something bad will happen to him if hes all alone in his room.but MIL keeps going on about how we NEED to get him into his cot.we dont NEED to do anything!!!!!
she does need to stuff off.im not going to take riley to visit her anymore coz its too much stress.and im going to tell her she needs to back off and stop telling me how to raise MY child!!

[SweetDreams]

thanks guys!
UPDATE-MY DF SAID THAT HE WANTS TO DIVORCE HIS PARENTS!!:laughing:
He said he doesnt want them at our wedding,think hes being a drama queen(hhmmm wonder where he gets that from?!?)
he said hes sick of his mum interferring and his mum telling us what to do!like,we let riley sleep in our bed.personally i love it,i feel better knowing hes right there,and i have irrational fears that something bad will happen to him if hes all alone in his room.but MIL keeps going on about how we NEED to get him into his cot.we dont NEED to do anything!!!!!
she does need to stuff off.im not going to take riley to visit her anymore coz its too much stress.and im going to tell her she needs to back off and stop telling me how to raise MY child!!


He needs to say this to his parents (maybe slightly nicer!). I'm glad he sees there is a problem though. :)

[Mamaduke]

like,we let riley sleep in our bed.personally i love it,i feel better knowing hes right there,and i have irrational fears that something bad will happen to him if hes all alone in his room.but MIL keeps going on about how we NEED to get him into his cot.we dont NEED to do anything!!!!!

When Jesse was about 2/3 yrs old we had moved house and he wanted to sleep in our bed. DH decided that he would move to Jesse's bed so everyone got a good night's sleep. 'Smother in law' decided to butt her big boof head in and commented, "A man needs to have access to his marital bed...I know my husband wouldn't stand for such nonsense!"
Needless to say, she was told to keep her nose in her marital bed and not ours!

[tanni_83]

When Jesse was about 2/3 yrs old we had moved house and he wanted to sleep in our bed. DH decided that he would move to Jesse's bed so everyone got a good night's sleep. 'Smother in law' decided to butt her big boof head in and commented, "A man needs to have access to his marital bed...I know my husband wouldn't stand for such nonsense!"
Needless to say, she was told to keep her nose in her marital bed and not ours!

omg "HIS" marital bed ... how rediculous!!! :eek:

[*Chels*]

Mamaduke,ur mil sounds like such a biatch!!sounds like mine,shes probably thinking the same thing bout our"marital bed":laughing:
i think shes just ****ed coz she spent 300 bucks on the cot and he never sleeps there!i said to df that i was more than happy to pack up the cot and give it back to her!then she cant have a problem!

[Mamaduke]

Mamaduke,ur mil sounds like such a biatch!!

No...she's the 'Pit bull at the gates of hell'!!!;)

[blayzesmum]

Sorry to hear you are having problems with your mother in law, she doesnt sound like a nice person.
Does she relise that she is actually harming her grandson?? By stressing you and your partner out. When you bf your son the stress turns you milk bad, if shes right about your son having a sore belly and wind when ever she is around shes proberly the main cause of it!!!
Its not worth getting stressed out just keep your head up and hopefully things will get better. :)