Brad1701
18-07-2008, 08:04
Being that I haven't posted on here before, i thought i'd explain my situation a little first...
I've been with my DP now for the better part of the year, and the kids have come to see me as daddy now (their real father has all but abandoned them and behaves like they're a chore to visit). We're getting married in 7 weeks and expecting our first child together not long after that.
Now, we could be living together already as i've been told i'm more than welcome to live here with her mother and the rest of the family, but i'm finding it a hard decision to make. Please don't get me wrong, i don't hate her mum, she's just one of those people you can't live with for very long because she gets on your nerves to the point where you may say something you'll regret later. I hate being away from the kids and living with my dad, but i can't stand living here with her either, and we've probably got another 2 or 3 months to wait till she moves out and we're finally on our own.
Any suggestions on how to maintain my sanity here? I want to be with the kids and my partner, and i'm so empty when i'm not with them.
I just don't know what to do about her mother. Every day when she comes home from work, the first thing she does is complain about how much of a mess the house is, regardless of the fact that we've spent the WHOLE day doing nothing but cleaning it. No amount of cleaning up seems sufficient for her, and my partner is treated like a housemaid when her brother and sister aren't expected to do anything, and usually just create more mess for her to clean up. I don't want to cause arguments while i'm here, but I also can't stand to see my DP treated like this by her own family. We've tried moving to my dad's place for the time being, but unfortunately it's too far away from clinic for her to travel every week now. The situation is becoming intolerable as I constantly move back and forth every few days between my place and her mum's (and it's a 3 hour trip each way by public transport).
I've been with my DP now for the better part of the year, and the kids have come to see me as daddy now (their real father has all but abandoned them and behaves like they're a chore to visit). We're getting married in 7 weeks and expecting our first child together not long after that.
Now, we could be living together already as i've been told i'm more than welcome to live here with her mother and the rest of the family, but i'm finding it a hard decision to make. Please don't get me wrong, i don't hate her mum, she's just one of those people you can't live with for very long because she gets on your nerves to the point where you may say something you'll regret later. I hate being away from the kids and living with my dad, but i can't stand living here with her either, and we've probably got another 2 or 3 months to wait till she moves out and we're finally on our own.
Any suggestions on how to maintain my sanity here? I want to be with the kids and my partner, and i'm so empty when i'm not with them.
I just don't know what to do about her mother. Every day when she comes home from work, the first thing she does is complain about how much of a mess the house is, regardless of the fact that we've spent the WHOLE day doing nothing but cleaning it. No amount of cleaning up seems sufficient for her, and my partner is treated like a housemaid when her brother and sister aren't expected to do anything, and usually just create more mess for her to clean up. I don't want to cause arguments while i'm here, but I also can't stand to see my DP treated like this by her own family. We've tried moving to my dad's place for the time being, but unfortunately it's too far away from clinic for her to travel every week now. The situation is becoming intolerable as I constantly move back and forth every few days between my place and her mum's (and it's a 3 hour trip each way by public transport).