New Member who's recently had a m/carriage

[bexfnd]

hi i am new to this site and think i have found it at the right time,

i had a m/carriage in feb at 8.5 weeks! it was our first attempt for a baby, just feel so low now. Is that normal this long afterwards?? we are trying again but nothing so far!

i think its worse cos i have two friends that are due any time now just seems unfair

[Beany]

:hugs:

Of course it's normal to feel low still - you had hopes and dreams that weren't realised and you need to grieve for them.

Getting over it will take as long as it takes - it's that simple.

In the meantime, good luck with the conception attempts :fingerscrossed:

[Nicolet]

Hi Bexfnd
Welcome to Bubhub!
I'm so sorry for your loss , it is perfectly normal for you to feel so low for a long time, there is no time limit on bereavement and you will always hold a dear sweet memory for your baby although it will become easier eventually.
I have never experienced it personally but know many people that have and just wanted to reply to your post because there arn't too many bubhubbers around at 3am! ( I work nights-supposed to be working now, this is what bubhub does to you, It's addictive!)
It will be hard for you to be happy for your friends and it doesn't mean you are a bad person, but they will remind you of the unfairness of what's happened.
I wish you lots of luck in trying for another baby and send you a big hug to cheer you up :hugs: Give yourself as much time as you need to find some peace with what has happenend.
Hope to see you around, this site will be great for you.

[zafyrezmummy]

Bexfnd - I'm so sorry for your loss sweetie! BIG :hugs: for you!

I'm glad you've found bubhub as there are so many wonderful ladies on here who will support you!

I m/c last year in Nov, I was 14 weeks.:crying: and I am still not over it, I doubt i ever will be, but it does get easier each day, even though it probably doesnt feel like it yet, it will, trust me.
the way your feeling is normal, try not to be too hard on yourself hon.
If you ever need to chat, youre welcome to pm me and i hope i can help.

There is no wrong way to feel about m/c, everyone copes differently, allow yourself as much time as you need to grieve!

Its good to see that you are trying again, thats very positive thinking! there are quite a few here on bubhub that are trying to concieve (ttc) after a m/c so you are not alone!
I know it can seem really unfair, it is sometimes, but dont give up hope!

on a good note, Looking forward to getting to know you!!, I'm sorry its under such sad circumstance that you've found us, but i hope we can help you in your journey!

All the best with ttc, i suggest posting in either the ttc in april or ttc in may threads (depending on where you are in your cycle) as the support you will find on these threads is amazing! Good luck bexfnd! Hope you get your BFP!:fingerscrossed:


Take Care!
~dimarie:p ~

[harmony]

Hi Bexfnd :hugs: I know how you feel and yes your not silly for feeling low, or a little depressed. As the other girls have said, your hopes and dreams have being shattered, you just start really adjusting to pregnancy and feel excited and it's all taken away in one big sweap.... how do I know? It's happened to me as well.

I have had 9 miscarriages. Every single one of those angel babies was wanted, loved and still thought of today. The first one happened christmas eve when my son was nine months old and the last one happened at the end of November last year.

My partner and I have being trying for ages to conceive, but really "actively" since the 23/11/05(after the m/c). I didn't have a period for three months, and March was light. At the end of March my period was full on and really erratic.
It's normal though. And so is two months to go by and having not conceived yet. Some couples, even when haven't miscarried take 6 months and sometimes alot longer.

Your body is repairing, it went into shock. That's why you feel low, that's why you just seem like nothing is worth trying for because it all gets taken away. Your coming to terms with it all, greiving. It's perfectly normal and really healthy to do it.

I usually take it slow, allow yourself time for sadness, if you can share your sorrow with your partner it might help. You will start to feel better soon, I promise you and you will conceive again and everything will work out.
Feel free to PM me if you need support.:hugs: for you precious girl.

[Viva]

bxfnd hi I just recently M/C (april@ 6weeks), I am hoping to try again soon but feel kind of emotionally bruised still and scared to risk it again................
I have started taking the Stress Formula vitamin B's to help me recover physically but emotionally I know will take more time.
see you on the TTC pages

[Bron]

It is completely normal to feel this way. I've had two miscarriages now, and it is a heartbreaking experience. You need to allow yourself to grieve and realise that you have lost something that you wanted very much.

Somedays it may all seem OK, and then other days it all just seems too much. The important thing to remember is that you are feeling legitimate emotions and you are allowed to feel them.

Society is quite damaging in making us think we should be "over" miscarriages after a few days/weeks. You don't get "over" it - you just get through it and each day gradually becomes easier.

Welcome to bubhub - people here have been there before and we will help as much as we can. Everyone's experience is different, but many of us have felt the grief, emptyness and anxiety that you are experiencing. :hugs: :hugs:

[brokendove]

Hi,

First let me send you a great big hug, I know nothing I say will make u feel better but someitmes a hug can be enough....

I dont want to send u away from bubhub but the best site for support I have found is babycenter.co.uk they have a message board dedicated to coping with miscarriage, then trying to conceive after miscarriage and pregnant after miscarriage.

I guess thankfully there is not a need for a dedicated area here , I hope there wont be...,


I am also struggling some days I am up, some I am down and some days I just dont know what I feel.

it's always in my head..... Iam thinking of TTC after my first AF which has not come as yet.....

but part of me is terrified but the only thing keeping me going is
the need to have a little baby... and if this is what I have to go through to have one.. then I will have to find the courage and the strength to try again.