breastfeeding/cosleeping question

[workin'mumof2]

hi,:wave: just wondering for those that cosleep and breastfeed or have done at any point..

do they feed more at night because they can smell you? i have my cot against our bed so i dont have to get up (easyier for both of us to get to sleep.

when you moved them away or to a different room did they feed less or do you cosleep untill they self ween or is that up to how you yourself feel.

how did you partner feel if you coslept for a long time 12months plus...

im asking because last night her feeds were erratic. im glad were cosleeping because i kept waking and i would see her feeding. she wont take a dummy from anyone. me,dh, my mum, my sister, friends you get the point. so its me or nothing... is this normal for a breastfed baby to do this?

TIA

[neostudded]

Yes, they do feed more at night because they can smell you I think.:laughing:

My son is one and he feeds anywhere from two to twenty times a night(I am guessing).But latley he has been feeding every few minutes he wakes up "coughing" and crying like he is a poor starving boy.

And latches on, feeds for a few minutes and settles again, then wakes back up with his cute little cry and feeds again...And so forth.:bee:

It is up to you what you do about it.

[stellarella]

My opinion is that babies should be fed when they want...sometimes that's a lot and it's also through the night.
I hate the concept of having to "get your baby sleeping through", it's totally unrealistic given their need for physical closeness and their tiny tummies.

Do they feed more at night because they can smell you? i have my cot against our bed so i dont have to get up (easyier for both of us to get to sleep.
Babies feed for love, comfort, physical closeness and food. They don't feed unless they need it to fulfill one of those things...they are not sneaky or clever or manipulative. Your baby will cry for you and want to nurse regardless of how close you are to them. And it's a healthy thing to have intimate contact all night long. They do grow out of it, too quickly in fact :(

when you moved them away or to a different room did they feed less or do you cosleep untill they self ween or is that up to how you yourself feel.
It's entirely up to you :)
I directed my son to wean at night while he was still co-sleeping (at 20 months old) and once that big change had occurred I decided the transition to his own bed would be easier...rather than make 2 big changes at once, I wanted the transition away from me at night to be relatively painless and trauma free.

how did you partner feel if you coslept for a long time 12months plus...
Honestly DP loved co-sleeping, he is a big advocate, he loved cuddling Oscar and is looking forward to doing the same with the next one. It's very special. We are enjoying these months without any child in the bed but having a baby or toddler (or older child) to cuddle is the definition of happiness for us!
Oscar still comes in at 7am for his cuddle and we love it.

im asking because last night her feeds were erratic. im glad were cosleeping because i kept waking and i would see her feeding. she wont take a dummy from anyone. me,dh, my mum, my sister, friends you get the point. so its me or nothing... is this normal for a breastfed baby to do this?
Yep it's normal, she loves her mummy, her mummy gives her all those things she needs, closeness, security, love and milk...as I said before they grow out of it and it will seem very fast and your will probably miss her once she is a grown up girl :p
Enjoy it!
BFing while co-sleeping is very easy and it means you get the most out of the night to sleep. Save your sanity and enjoy the snuggles :)

[mum2cheeky1]

i was just thinking the same thing

my dd still night feeds.. and seems every1 else with children my age or younger have stoped..the only difference between them and her is that we co-sleep.

It is tiring and now i pretty much attach her an go back to sleep or i would never be able to cope with the sleep deprivation

i have thought about stoping the co-sleeping, but its not something i really wish to do, so i just put up with it seriously it cant go on forever...well i hope not:laughing:

[workin'mumof2]

thank you neostudded,stellarella&mum2cheeky1.

i want to add that were doing well because of the support here:goodvibes:

[MUMSIEOF2]

hi, I have the same thing happening, my dd used to wake and feed twice a night, i was trying the No cry sleep solution where you pull out the nipple before they are fully asleep, i tried this for 2 nights and since then she is waking MORE.. the last 2 nights i have just put her on and gone back to sleep, I loose count now. I often wonder how long this will go on for, but I enjoy co-sleeping too much. sorry im not much help just wanted to let you know your not alone :o

[neostudded]

OurFamily I am so glad you are doing well because of the support on bubhub.BH is great for support, I know that if I didnt have bub hub I would feel a bit isolated.I dont know to many people in real life who breastfeed so it is nice to be able to relate to people here.:goodvibes:

stellarella, I am so glad your still around your posts are always great and very helpful.:thumbsup:

[Benji]

I think it must have something to do with the smell of our milk. When my DS slept in his own cot he started sleeping through at 6 weeks. Then I decided (very stupidly unbeknown to me) to cosleep at 3 months and he was waking alllllllllllllllll night! I do miss the cuddles though.

This site is fantastic. I don't know many breastfeeders IRL either and it's so hard when you need advice and people who ff really can't relate because it is a completely different kettle of fish!

[neostudded]

I agree Angike :thumbsup:
I also dont know any breastfeeders who feed babies for the amount of time I plan on doing and I like knowing I am not the only one doing child led weaning in the world.:)

[Benji]

I agree Angike :thumbsup:
I also dont know any breastfeeders who feed babies for the amount of time I plan on doing and I like knowing I am not the only one doing child led weaning in the world.:)

Me too! I'm so glad I found this place. I always planned to feed him until 2 but I sort of had this idea that on his 2nd birthday I'd have to cut him off :laughing:

Needless to say, thank goodness for bubhub!!!

[pixiemum2]

Yes I believe they feed more at night when they are co-sleeping because they can smell you. Even when we had DD in the cot in our room she would still wake frequently. It is very handy co-sleeping but by 6 months I had had enough. I needed some decent sleep.

I moved her into her own room about 2 weeks ago and she wakes a lot less frequently. She feeds twice a night now. It's a pain having to get up and go into the other room but she doesn't take very long to feed and settles back to sleep well without any rocking etc.

DH was happy with whatever I chose to do but he did agree and encourage me to move her into her own room as he could see that she was waking because she knew I was nearby. I don't regret it one bit now. I do however miss snuggling up with her and waking up to her gorgeous smile.