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hi all guys my wife and i are due in march o9 and if we have a boy we will get the cut for him as iam cut to .
hi all sorry i typed the title wrong it should be to snip or not to snip
jayisa02
14-07-2008, 19:51
Sorry, what are you saying exactly? That you are unsure if you will have your son circumsised or not, or are you just saying that you are going to. :confused:
if you are after opinions i would also say dont do it unless medically necessary for some reason (which would be rare i would say) :)
canberramomma
14-07-2008, 19:55
Not a dad, but answering for my DH who is circed. He would wait and see what your DS's choice is. He can always get it done under a local or general if he decides it's something he wants to do when he is an adult.
Unless it's a religious consideration??? Then I'm out of my depth!
We discussed it and didn't circ our son. My dad was, DH was, but my brothers weren't and we didn't see why we should.
Hope this helps!
punkbaby
14-07-2008, 19:59
Let him choose :)
MilkOnTap
14-07-2008, 20:00
9/10 boys aren't circumcised now.
For us it was more important for him to look like the rest of the boys in the change rooms than like Daddy.
I was done at a very young age and i have had no problem at all
MilkOnTap
14-07-2008, 20:10
But dont all ****s look different? All the ones I've seen look different - I just dont get the "I want my child to look like me" when they're probably NEVER going to look the same anyway.
Wayne i have only two things to say
1...its yours and your wifes choice to do what you feel is right for your child
2...why are mums answering in the dads chat section? He is asking for opinions from other dads otherwise im sure he wouldve put this in a separate section for general consideration.
Its fine if mums want to jump in an answer in here i do know it is for dads .
Its fine if mums want to jump in an answer in here i do know it is for dads .
Wayne, in the end it's completely up to you and your wife on whether or not you will circ your boy (should you have one).
However, my baby's dad was adament that my boy would be circumcised when I was pregnant but when we had him, he became less and less persistent and he gave up on the idea. He didn't have to dig very deep to work out that our beautiful little boy was born perfect just the way he was.
He didn't need any of his bits changed.
No parent likes to see their baby distressed in saying that and if your boy gets some sort of horrible medical condition down there, my guess is a lot of parents would look into it.
I suggest wait and see if you have a boy, see if you change your mind when you hold / see / smell your boy and do as much research as you can and weigh up the pros and cons of circ between you and your wife (no one else) and make your decision from there.
Good luck :)
Shanaynay
14-07-2008, 20:24
I know what you mean, sometimes I wish my vagina looked like my mum's.
sam's mum
14-07-2008, 20:30
Wayne, I would ask whether you have looked into the pros and cons of getting your child circumcised without medical reasons.
There are risks involved in this operation, I know that there is at least one member whose child was injured.
DH wanted to get DS done because he is done and I told him that I wanted to research it first, and that he had to as well. In the end, he could find nothing convincing. After all, DH has tattoos, we aren't putting them on DS, glasses, DS doesn't need them, a balding spot, hmm, DS might get that in time (you get what I mean).
This is a very emotive issue and I think that you will find that it is no longer recommended as routine by most doctors and paediatricians.
mummy2sophie
14-07-2008, 20:33
I know what you mean, sometimes I wish my vagina looked like my mum's.
:laughing::laughing: :raspberry:
I was just thinking the same thing. :laughing:
I'm sure glad my boobs don't look like my mums: her waist is up at her boobs and her boobs are down at her waist.
sam's mum
14-07-2008, 20:36
I know what you mean, sometimes I wish my vagina looked like my mum's.
:laughing:
actually, :barf: I don't even want to THINK about my mum's vagina. I am sure she doesn't even have one and I got found in a pumpkin patch or something.
Ladies, this thread is NOT about our mother's vaginas (thank goodness!!), so please get back onto the subject.
Wayne, do let me know if you want me to kick all the ladies out of your thread :D:D:D (hit the little red triangle).
Cheers all (and keep it nice)
Hi all can we please stay on the topic at hand and keep it clean i do understand it is mine and my wife choice in what we do
MilkOnTap
14-07-2008, 21:12
Hi all can we please stay on the topic at hand and keep it clean i do understand it is mine and my wife choice in what we do
I think your best off asking yourself about the pro's and con's of removing part of your child's anatomy.
IMO, To chop part of my sons penis off for cosmetic reasons is not good enough.
My thoughts on the matter:
It is a personal choice for the parents of each boy. Some people might do it for religious reasons, medical reasons, personal preference, or other considerations. While I personally am against it, I respect the right of anyone to make that decision on behalf of their child.
As I said, I am personally against the practice. I believe that there is no compelling medical reason for circumcision, and think that it should not be done. To me, it's like every newborn child having their tonsils or appendix removed shortly after birth. I understand that there are religious reasons for those of the Jewish faith (and I'm not going to get into a theological discussion on biblical interpretation here), but I still think that it's wrong.
What are we going to do next? Start chopping off ear-lobes or little fingers?
I could go through all the arguments for and provide counter arguments against, but that would be pointless, as the die-hard supporters of male genital modification would still support it, not matter what was said.
Wayne, good luck with your decision :).
Phyllis Stein
15-07-2008, 11:52
My thoughts on the matter:
It is a personal choice for the parents of each boy. Some people might do it for religious reasons, medical reasons, personal preference, or other considerations. While I personally am against it, I respect the right of anyone to make that decision on behalf of their child.
As I said, I am personally against the practice. I believe that there is no compelling medical reason for circumcision, and think that it should not be done. To me, it's like every newborn child having their tonsils or appendix removed shortly after birth. I understand that there are religious reasons for those of the Jewish faith (and I'm not going to get into a theological discussion on biblical interpretation here), but I still think that it's wrong.
What are we going to do next? Start chopping off ear-lobes or little fingers?
I could go through all the arguments for and provide counter arguments against, but that would be pointless, as the die-hard supporters of male genital modification would still support it, not matter what was said.
Wayne, good luck with your decision :).
:iagree:
authenticbabe
15-07-2008, 13:47
We have a little boy due in 2 weeks. When i discovered we were having a boy the thought of getting it done crossed my mind, because i thought like alot of people he would be like daddy then.
My DF and i discussed it and did some research and found that we would be better off letting him decide when he was older what he wanted to do.
Another point, I dont know if you have done some research into it or not, but alot of hospitals etc wont preform the procedures anymore.
BUT Wayne, this is your's and your partners decision, and whatever you decide good luck and i hope it all turns out for you both.
yes i know some states do not do it any more
In Brisbane, if you want to get it done you have to go to a private Doctor, they don't do it in Hospitals. What does that tell you?
zanesmummy
15-07-2008, 19:21
my dp and i want to get our son done but my mil is so against it i feel trapped with what to do. my dp didnt get done but he didnt have enough skin there to get it done any ways. i know it is our choice and i thought it is a more hygenic thing to get it done but now i am really not too sure
sam's mum
15-07-2008, 19:27
my dp and i want to get our son done but my mil is so against it i feel trapped with what to do. my dp didnt get done but he didnt have enough skin there to get it done any ways. i know it is our choice and i thought it is a more hygenic thing to get it done but now i am really not too sure
research, research, research. once it is done, you can't undo it, so make sure that it is what you want done. there are risks to doing it, you need to be sure that any benefits are going to make the risks worthwhile.
cmd'smum
15-07-2008, 19:32
my dp and i want to get our son done but my mil is so against it i feel trapped with what to do. my dp didnt get done but he didnt have enough skin there to get it done any ways. i know it is our choice and i thought it is a more hygenic thing to get it done but now i am really not too sure
It's not more hygenic :no: If a male is clean he is going to keep himself clean with soap and water whether or not he has a foreskin :)
miloand4
15-07-2008, 21:36
All I can say is Ask yourself if something does go wrong with the procedure could you live with the guilt.
Sheer Bliss
15-07-2008, 23:50
To perform plastic surgery on a child for purely cosmetic reasons is not necessary IMO. If a decision is made after research, and consideration of other things, then I can respect anothers decision to do it. In the end, it is their child, and if they believe they are doing the right thing, then I can accept & respect that. I have zero respect for things that are done to a baby that involve only superficial/appearance based thoughts. My husband agrees 100%, our decision on circumcision had nothing to do with the appearance of DH's penis. I hope this is not OT, but DD has no issues with her boobs being different to mine, or the fact that daddy has a penis & she doesn't......should there be a differnce in appearance between DS & DH - I don't see surgery as a means of 'correcting' the difference.
GraceUnhearing
16-07-2008, 00:26
I know what you mean, sometimes I wish my vagina looked like my mum's.
Zoe you made me choke on my drink!
To perform plastic surgery on a child for purely cosmetic reasons is not necessary IMO. If a decision is made after research, and consideration of other things, then I can respect anothers decision to do it. In the end, it is their child, and if they believe they are doing the right thing, then I can accept & respect that. I have zero respect for things that are done to a baby that involve only superficial/appearance based thoughts. My husband agrees 100%, our decision on circumcision had nothing to do with the appearance of DH's penis. I hope this is not OT, but DD has no issues with her boobs being different to mine, or the fact that daddy has a penis & she doesn't......should there be a differnce in appearance between DS & DH - I don't see surgery as a means of 'correcting' the difference.
:iagree:
DS is not circed and never will be unless 100% medically necessary. His dad is done.
his dad doesnt want ds circed either or this next son we are having.
doing to 'be the same as dad' is a terrible reason to get it done imo it is no real reason to put a baby through such a terrible thing
please please please do some research on it and not just so he can look like you
If you are thinking about circumcising your baby, it can't hurt to view this site :)
(link removed by Mod see post below)
bigbadbrad
05-08-2008, 08:24
Gentlemen,
Just a quick note to let you know that there is a huuuuuuuge thread on this in the main part of the forum.
Visit http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/forumdisplay.php?f=164 to see all the information.
Just a quick note to remind everyone that while this issue can be very emotive, it is important to be considerate of other people's opinions.
Lots of info there so make a coffee first!
Regards
BBB
Our son is 2 weeks old now, and so far he's shrugged off prompts from his family to organise it.
I'm leaving it alone...;)Hooray!!
I've noticed that the majority of the posters in this forum are against circumcision. I haven't had a look at the official circ. discussion boards on BH (I've been warned that some of the regular posters can get quite vicious when they get worked up, so I've kept away). Is anyone here able to tell me what the general consensus amongst the other members is?
bigbadbrad
16-08-2008, 08:07
This topic is usually quite emotive so congrats everyone for being so calm about it.:yelclap:
I think a lot of Dad's are circed because that was the thing to do when they were born.
As with all things do what you and your partner feel comfortable with.
The main thing to remember is that whatever you do it is highly unlikely to be a major influence on how he turns out as a man so please don't stree too much
BBB
anitagareth
16-08-2008, 08:13
in my opinion, circumcision is genital "modification".
such genital modification is defined by the world health organisation as 'all medical procedures that intentionally alter or injure genitals for non medical reasons'.
while the term is generally used in reference to medical procedures conducted on females, in my opinion there is no difference between female and male genital modification especially where circumcision is occurring (a) without the individuals consent and (b) purely for cosmetic purposes (for 'hygeine reasons' is just a poor excuseto somewhat justify the procedure).
the males in my family are not circumcised, however my partner is. we have briefly discussed the issue of circumcision if our baby is a boy and obviously form the heatedness of that discussion it is something that will need to be talked at in length eventually.
melbryan
16-08-2008, 08:55
My Dh is done but we decided not to put our boys through that sort of pain without a real reason. I don't really think it is the norm this day to circ only one of my friends has. That's their choice but for us it was never an issue. If we have our fourth boy then no snip for him either.
Justin1988
16-08-2008, 21:29
hi all guys my wife and i are due in march o9 and if we have a boy we will get the cut for him as iam cut to .My son was born 3 weeks ago and I had him circumsized at 6 days.
I'm circumsized and about 60% of my mates are I think. Don't really look but I have known them since kindergarten so I am sure we have all seen each other when we were younger.
I'm 19 so probably not that mature. But I feel I made the right decision for my son. It isn't something I regret, but I do respect the opinions of those who "respectfully" disagree with circumcision.
My boy had no problems with it. He did cry for 7 - 10 minutes, but it was not a bad cry, just one like he has when he is hungry or needs to be burped.
In the end he'll grow up being circumsized and I doubt he'll care. Maybe some other guys will take the micky out of him, but I don't think it'll be in a nasty way; just the way most aussie guys take the micky out of other guys for various things.
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