do you let the midwives look after bub?

[Jem]

All these bubs being born..... bringing back some memories...
i remember when ds2 was born, and everytime he would make the smallest noise, the midwife would offer to take him to the nursery, so i could get some much needed rest..
I always said "No, i'd rather him be with me"
I'd be rooming with a few mums, who had no babies.. i felt as if i was the only one who had my bub with me :eek:
Did you always have bub by your side??

[SuperWoman]

My DS was with us the whole time. I couldnt take my eyes away from him!! Oohhh, so inlove!!!:hugs: :kiss:

[Jo_Jo]

I would have them beside me during the day, but if the midwife offered at night, no way was i gonna knock it back!!!...lol, I had ceasers with all three so it was a great help before i went home........all the midwifes were great, i got really sick when the last was born on this day last year, when he was about 3 months, had to stay in the midwifery for a week and they were chewing at the bit to have him they loved having a bubba in there smiling back at them i would hear them saying ill take ethan no it,s my turn...lol i made sure i left them with a big packet of ferrero rochers..........they were stoked!!!

:bday: to ej cheers....jo

[EskimoMumma]

Hey, DS didnt leave my side at all and with DD, she was so big and the labour was so intense i was so exhausted! I had her by me during the day and at night if the midwives offered i would let them!

They are the women who helped bring this bubba into the world. I think its good for bubba's to interact with thsoe type of women and build a bond with another trusting person as well so they are happy bubbas! JMO :rolleyes:

[zenifa]

I had my DD 8 mths ago by c/s and she was with me the whole time except on the 5th night, when they were going to take her for the heel prick (?guthrie card test) & Hep B shot, they took her to the nursery to give her the needles (I just couldn't face it) and I got some much needed sleep, but she was returned to me for her next feed.

[Kayteigh]

There was a few times Travis went to the midwives as I had a c-section and sometimes I had trouble with him crying and lifting him and they would come and take him for about a hour after I fed him so I could have a shower and feel human again as my partner had to work while I was in hospital and could only come up after 5pm. It was a little relief for me before my partner could visit.

Katie

[Mrs Little]

I couldn't let me DS go to the midwife. I was sooo worried about them losing him or mixing him up with another baby. ( I've watched tooo many movies)!

I would have gone mental had my DS not been next to me when i woke up. They were nice to offer....but i wouldn't take them up on it.

Mrs Little & Son.

[Melo]

DS was with me the whole time too, on the first night (after being in labour for so long and then the birth!) DP took him out of the room for a bit so I could sleep but other than that he was with me! :D

[Pixie]

I had quite a traumatic c/section and for the first 2-3 nights Eliza would not sleep in the bassinet thing only with me, she also hates being swaddled so for at least two hours of each night except the last two I was there they took her and settled her to give me a break, The midwives were awesome with her and I got some much needed rest. Never thought i'd let anyone take my newborn though..amzing how you change once you have a baby!

[jembelina]

For me - NO WAY!! Ds was not only by my side, but constantly in my arms unless df was having a cuddle. I had a ceasar so I was forever buzzing the midwives to help me or adjust my bed or something! They were great though and never actually offered to take him to the nursey, though a couple kept trying to get me to put him in the basinette! The only time I didn't have him was when he was being weighed, etc but I made sure he never left df's sight - no baby swapping for me!!

[sharvs]

My ds was next to me 24-7. I would have liked them to take him one night so I could have got some rest but they were too busy. I have alot to say about the hospital DS was born at. It is a small country hospital so I expected to get a bit more one on one help. I was lucky if I saw a midwife twice a day! There were only 2 maternity patients but the midwives were also the nurses for all the other patients in the ward. My last night in hospital, I had severe blood loss & clotting, woke up & the sheets were covered in blood (sorry, TMI). I buzzed a midwife but she was busy so they sent an orderly. I asked to speak to a midwife because I was scared, she said it would have to wait until morning. The next day it had eased but no-one even came and asked me how I was going. The staff were lovely, dont get me wrong, just so busy that they couldnt be where they were needed.

Sorry, i kind of got off the topic there!

[Desertress]

With Ds#1 the only time he left me was when he was getting weighed or getting needles and he had some of thoes little white spots on his head so i would always check for them when they brought him back to make sure they brough the right one.

With Ds#2 he was with me the whole time and never left because i was in and out of hospital the same day.

[Oscar's mum]

I had on the 4th night a slight infection and was really still struggling to move about after the c-section and Ozzy didn't stop crying for 4 hours straight so they took him for 2 hours ( I was really upset about that but my personality won't let me stand up to ppl sometimes) I had originally asked the nurses to help me settle him not take him!

[Blessed Mum]

With DS they had him in the nursery. I had him at 5.20pm & was back on the ward by 7pm & out to it, I awoke at 9am the next morning & couldn't find him, they hadn't bought him to me for a feed or anything:eek: . I was panicing - needless to say I didn't let him out of my sight again. With DD I had her privately & the policywas rooming in at all times - which I loved, but as she was the only bubby born the whole three day stay the midwives were begging to have her so I could 'rest'. Not a chance. I kept her all to myself!

[mum2littleman]

my little man was wit me the all night untill one night he wouldnt stop crying so the mid wife just came in and told me to go to sleep and to my baby i sat there and cryed the hole time{ bad baby blues} i just wanted him back how rude to take him with out even asking if i wanted help- not like i slept anyways i was just waiting all night till the brought him back the next morning i left i was not staying enough night after that...
but no one else had there baby at night they all gave em to the midwifes..

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the mummy- louise 20
the baby- lucas almost 5 months

"IT'S TRUE THE BEST THINGS IN LIFE ARE FREE!"

[misskittyfantastico]

They didn't have night time nursery facilities up and running when I had my DD:thumbsdown: I was awake for 24 hrs straight with the birth and I was in hosp for 5 nights (BP trouble). The midwives would take your bub for 2 hrs during the day and that's when DH and I slept (between visitors and phone calls!) I begged to be allowed to go home for a rest!

[Ana Gram]

I wish they had come and taken DD to the nursery. They gave me 2 hours of sleep after a 31 hour labour with forceps, lots of stiches and blood loss. They then wheeled her in and woke me up. Everytime DD uttered a sound they ran in adn told me that I was disturbing everyone else so I need to shut her up. Shame about the woman next to me that always had a million visitors and snored like a chainsaw which meant I got no sleep for 4 days!

[the_queen]

Vallerie was upstairs in the special care unit, and I was up there pretty much constantly. If she went to sleep and I was dog-tired then I'd go back to my room to sleep. Because we were specifically staying in the hospital to establish breastfeeding, they called me every time she woke up. And after 3 days or so, I had her in my room with me.

[lukaelmo]

I cried and went barmy when they took the dude away from me to special care. After I had a very large mental and was taken to see him, (I had a c/s so needed to be wheeled:banghead: ) I wouldn't let him go :D .

Stubborn mummy got her way and the paed gave the dude the okay to come back upstairs with me.

I didn't let him out of my sight for a second after that :D . He was MY baby :laughing: .

[becca74]

I had my first 2 in the UK, and nurseries are pretty non-existant, and were totally non-existant in the hospitals I went to, the mother is expected to tend 100% to the baby....which suited me fine as this is exactly how I wanted it.(I'm sure it peeved others!). they even didnt have an issue with co-sleeping, and they giggled at me how I kept my first son sleeping between my legs the night after my c/section, as it was easiest to just reach down and pull him up to feed, than having to get out and get him from the plastic cot. Mostly he slept on my chest, but then I began to struggle to breathe he was so heavy:laughing:, so he slept beside me between the bed and the wall ..... It was difficult if I needed a shower, as it didnt appear to be in the midwives/nurses job descriptions to watch the babies for any reason, but I just had to wait till DH or my friend was there to watch him to go to the shower or loo (that was the only annoying side!)......my 2nd one slept in the little cot mostly, (he LOVEs routine etc, takes after his dad, not me!) but I was only there 1 night as I'd had a VBAC....

My 3rd however was born in Australia, and the culture here is the opposite. Being obsessive about having my babies with me 100% I found it strange that when I came back from recovery after my c/sec, after being separated from him for 3 hours, and being with him for maybe 1 hour to give him a feed, the midwives didnt ask me if *I* wanted them to take him, they just said 'shall we take him to the nursery now?' To which I responded with an indignant 'No!'..... I was a bit shocked that they assumed I would want to get rid of him till the morning! I'm sure that wasnt their intention, but after my experience in the UK, it was a bit of a shocker to me!

On the plus side, is that I did have somewhere to take him when I needed the shower, though I must say I only used the nursery a couple of times, and mostly just kept him and risked noone walking in whilst I showered with the door open in my en-suite so I could listen out for him.....

[Aprilsmum]

I love these stories. I had my little chicken with me from the moment she was born til we brought her home. I had her bundled up in the bed right next to me. I hardly slept at all, but I will fondly remember that special bonding time that we both shared in getting to know each other in the flesh. Ohhhhh so special! :thumbsup:

[Oscar's mum]

My SIL had a baby in Holland, delivered by a midwife at home, you only go to hospital if absolutely necessary. The gov pays for home help to come in daily for I think two weeks to do housework, meals, company etc and mums are told to stay in bed by midwives..sounds like bliss.


Holland here I come!:p

[Cade's Mum]

I had DS with me 24/7 except the first night as I had a c-section and was hooked up/cathator (spelling ??) etc.

I was in a private room and the nurses didn't offer to take him once even though I got a shocking chest infection and was totally delerious for a couple of days. Then on the last night I was there one of the midwives came by and told me I could leave DS in the nursery if I wanted a break. (gee thanks 6 days later) Still I wouldn't have had it any other way as I was able to totally bond with him :)

[madvoice]

I never let Raleigh out of my sight when she was born. She was with me at all times. The midwives tried to pressure me into putting her into the nursery. I guess I'm stubborn like that ;)

[MariaO]

I let the midwives take Aoife for a couple of hours on the 2nd, 3rd and 4th nights to try and get some sleep - We had a hard time breastfeeding and my milk was late coming in (I sometimes think that the few hours sleep helped it come in eventually). I was grateful that they offered to tell the truth.

[draught]

When DD1 was born I was suffering "maternal exhaustion" (36 hour posterior labour) still had a cathetar in from the epidural etc and basically passed out - I wasn't even aware that she was in the nursery or where I was until they came to wake me to feed her in the middle of the night - and it was the most wonderful sight to gaze upon her face for the first time without the haze of exhaustion - I really got to bond with her then, even though I had fed her at birth and cuddled her a lot - I was incredibly grateful that they had looked after her for me so I could recover enough to have that experience. She then stayed with me after that. When I was suffering the baby blues and getting tired from her not sleeping, instead of sending her to the nursery they put a mattress on the floor and my mum came and slept in the room with us to help out, which was lovely. (DH had to go away hours after she was born).

With DD2 on the second night I was exhausted and when they offered the nursery at 2am I agreed and got the sleep I needed - but had to nag them to get her back in the morning so learnt that lesson quickly and didn't do it again!

[natasha]

Gosh I would have given anything for a couple of hours by myself to get some sleep after my C section, but they didn't offer to take her once! She was by my side for the whole 5 days. The first night after the c section I was a little delirious, in pain and soooo tired I couldd't keep my eyes open, and they still didn't take her.

I asked them at one point if someone could take her for an hour because she wouldn't stop crying and they said 'give it half an hour and see how she is'! They never came back!
Apparently this is normal in the hospital i went to though. I actually thought it was a fantastic hospital, just wished I could have had a bit of sleep.

[Starlet]

I NEVER got asked with either of my kids if I wanted them to take them to the nursery.

I never asked either. So I had both me babies with me the whole time.

I lost alot of blood with DS1 and they had me on a cathater(sp?), they came in and did everything for me, nappy changes(woohoo! Didn't have to touch those foul first poos lol), I had to buzz them to get them to lift him out of the bassinet and hand him to me so I could feed him.

I don't think I could let them take my babies, I'd be up every 5 mins checking on them.

[xkwzit]

When DD1 was born, for the first 2 nights, I thought I was a supermum. Everytime she whimpered I patted her, said "there, there" and she went back to sleep. Then she *really* woke up and didn't want to sleep in that plastic tub anymore...I sent her to the nursery on the third night and rang DH at about midnight. "I've sent her away", I wailed and sobbed at him over the phone, but I really needed some sleep. I woke up at 5 am to go and get her, just when she had woken up according to the midwives :rolleyes: I sent her to the nursery each night for the rest of my stay, getting up early to pick her up and feed her.

With DD2 it was very different, she wasn't as tired and I had a double room :smiliedance: . She never went to the nursery but slept in the bed with me propped up on two pillows and after some cluster feeding throughout the early evening until 12 - 1 am, she would sleep really well, until 7 - 8 am. I think having them in bed with you is a good thing, I just wasn't brave enough to do that first time round (double bed also helps).

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[Funkychicken]

Not a chance!

When DS#1 arrived I spent three days and nights in the hospital just staring at him. I didn't sleep, just a bit of dozing. My adrenaline was so high I couldn't do anything but watch him and every time I tried to close my eyes I would think of him and open them again.
I popped him into the bed with me on the first day after he was born and he stayed there until we went home.

DD arrived in a birthing centre so she also spent all 24 hrs that we were there in the bed with me.

DS#2, also a birth centre bub, didn't even make it into the tub thingy. Arrived on the bed and stayed there for the whole 12 hrs we were there.:thumbsup:

[SassyMummy]

I don't think the hospital where I had DD did such a thing...

One night a midwife took her for a walk around the ward...I didn't really want her to but she kind of just did it. I think she wanted me to get some sleep, and I needed it, but I didn't actually do any sleeping.

Every other night DD slept in my bed with me. She didn't like her crib...so I put the sides of the bed up, lay a stiff pillow beside me and had her sleep on that. I was easier to breastfeed her that way...I'd had a c-section and it was hard for me to get up and out of bed.

[reAllytee]

My hospital didnt have a nursery so bubs was with me full-time guess thats another reason i left after 2days because at least at home i had a little help from DP.
My mum & aunty begged them to take him the first nite after i had him ( he was born at 4.45pm Monday but i had been in labour since 3am Friday ) especially with it all being so traumatic etc but they said that they dont do that & that i would be fine :rolleyes: I never slept because if i wasnt feeding or rocking bubs i couldnt sleep because i had one woman who snored & another who whinged & whined everytime her baby cried i got stuck in a room for 4 even though i should have been in a single.
The good midwife i had that came on late at nite gave me little rests so to speak because i kept bleeding through so would let me shower etc while she looked after him through the nite & sometimes walked around with him for a bit otherwise the midwives didnt even take the babies when you needed to shower !!!!! So i had to wait till DP arrived every morning to even be able to shower as i hardly thought that a hospital bathroom was very safe or nice for a newborn but thats what the other mothers did ! :barf:

[jessgray]

i had DS with me for about 4 hours after he was born. he wouldnt take to the bottle at all and developed a infection overnight while in the nursery and the next day was taken to SCN where they diagnosed himw ith jaundice and a tiny infection and he was there till he was 12 days old.:(
i shared a room with one other mum who had her bub with her. it didnt bother me that DS wasnt with me coz i was more worried he was sick. but if he was healthy etc i would have had him by my side 24/7:laughing:

[Jamily]

I left hospital 4 hours after giving birth to Emily so the midwives didn't have a chance to take her away :)

[Goosie22]

No way, they dont ask your permission before letting the baby suck on their finger or give it a dummy from the lost and found:barf: . Or worse still give it a Bottle.

I had my boys after No 1 36hr induction that failed and then a C/S that ended in haemorrage and blood transfusions. I still kept him with me as that is what I was there for i.e to get my Baby.

[MummyCharmzy]

When zach was born he was taken to newborn services straight away and I didnt see him for almost 48 hours.... being 9 weeks early he spent 6 weeks in hospital and I was home on the 5th day so obviously the nurses were the ones caring for him.

With my daughter there was no WAY I was letting anyone take her away from me. lol when I was in recovery after my c-sect she had to be taken away because my hospital doesnt allow bubs to stay with you then but DP had her upstairs waiting for me and as soon as I was up there she did not leave my side unless DP was there and I went to have a shower. It took me months after she was born to be able to leave her even for an hour, I still struggle with time away from her.

i think having been forced to have so long away from Zach made me SOOOOOOOO 'clingy' of isobella when she was born.

I don't doubt I will be the same this time. No ones taking me baby away from me no matter how tired and sore I am lol

[kymmy]

i felt very alone in hospital 3x
midwives never offered to help
I would be desperate to go to the toilet
or have a shower
but too scared if he/she would cry
if i did go away to the toilet and i heard a cry
i would be so nervous and hurry back
if i found midwife holding baby i would apologise and they would go away
i felt so alone
could not wait to go home
as i write this i feel like crying
i felt so alone
next baby- home birth
i felt like a hindrance in the hospital
i felt as though baby was a burden
i felt alone
and wanted to go home
im so glad most of you had a better experience

[Mum2Lucas]

I was up and raring to go the next day after my DS was born. It was a really quick recovery and i was only in there for 36 hours after he was born so there wasnt really a chance for the midwives to look after him but i wouldnt'e let them anyway there wasnt a need for it.

[Sarie]

I had a horrid labour first time round and hadn't slept in over 48 hours so when the midwives came to give me a break for a couple of hours I snatched it!
2nd time round PJ was in special care for the first 24 hours so by the time I got him back to the ward he wasn't leaving my sight. He also slept brilliantly that night!

[Shazbutt]

I had an emergency c/s with DD1 after a 50 something hour labour, so i took all the help i could get! They took her for the first 2 nights in hospital (its a small hosp. with only 4 maternity beds), and just woke me for feeds (as i was trying to BF). The other 3 nights i did it all myself.

Second time around i had an elective (though recommended) c/s, and they took DD2 for the first night (she was FF), and then the other nights i had her myself. They pretty much left me alone.....

[MamaSage]

I had an emergency C/S with Bridie, at night, so she had to be in the nursery most of the first night. The midwives did bring her in to feed from me, but the next morning I found out that she had been given a dummy and bloody formula. I was not happy as I was not asked, and if I was I would have objected. So no, I would never leave my newborn with hospital staff again.