How Did You Tell Your Parents? [Archive] - Bub Hub Pregnancy & Parenting Forum

CinderElla

21-04-2006, 12:12

Hi I am 18 and have been TTC for 7 months and I starting to get a little worried about how to tell my parents when I do get preg, they have told me that they don't want me having babies till Im at least 24, it's not like they will get angry about it and not talk to me Im just scared to tell them. I have also been worring about not having any time with DP when we have a baby, I was reading in my baby mag a bout how all the women in there don't really spend time with there DP and that they don't really have time for stuff like sex anymore, so I was just wondering how other young parents told their parents and if their relationship with their DP was as good as it was?

Ange&Seth

21-04-2006, 12:18

I was 22 at the time so it wasn't that bad telling my parents. They were thrilled, even though DP and I weren't married. I just called them and said 'Are you sitting down?' and they said 'you're pregnant aren't you?' so they made it easy :)

As for the relationship after bub - as far as I'm concerned we should have had a baby ages ago LOL. We spend more time together, and our sex life is the healthiest I think it has ever been.

Hope this helps and :fingerscrossed: for you :D

InSaneOne

21-04-2006, 12:25

just come out and tell your parents i mean it is a bit late for them to yell or get mad if your already preggers. try waiting til your 3-4 months though in case something happens.

adn you guys need to make the time to be together. even if it is just sitting on the floor playing with your little one. try to go out for adult time at least 1 night a month. get mum to babysit for you. after all the tiredness wears off and your little one is sleeping better at night you can pick up your sex life from whereyou left off if you want. you might be a little sore in the first few weeks after the birth anyway(not to mention really tired). it is easy to spend time together bathing the little one and reading to them and just watching them sleep.

sshellzp

21-04-2006, 12:29

I told my mum before TTC so she knew then and she was thrilled. I told my dad when i was 8 weeks pregnant and he didnt want anything to do with me for a few weeks but he came around in the end.
Im not really sure about the other question because my bubba girl is still in hospital.

Desertress

21-04-2006, 14:04

I was only 19 at the time and i dreaded telling my parents. I think i left it till i was about 2 months because everytime i went to tell mum i just couldnt speak.

In the end i waited untill i had one of the ultrasounds and the marched out to mum with the ultrasound so that even if i backed out i could still show her the pics.

I just walked out with them and said.."i have something to show you'' She just looked at me and said "oh no". .....lol not the best reaction but it could have been alot worse. SHe was very disappointed for a while but once her and dad got used to the idea they were geat and Mum got really excited.

ElizaDee

21-04-2006, 14:26

Well I had been married for one year and I am 35 so my parents would not have been shocked, but I still was uncertain on how to tell them in the end I did this:

I sent an email with Introduciong as the subject line and I attached the ultrasound photo of baby! That was it! :laughing:

Jem

21-04-2006, 14:28

my mums reaction wasnt really what i expected.. i was 18.. and her reaction was "youve ruined your life" :eek:
After the initial shock set in, she was happy and excited, and is a very proud nan :)

mel04

21-04-2006, 16:53

You'll still spend plenty of time with your partner, it will just all revolve around the baby instead. You will bath baby, feed baby etc together. As to sex, well everyone is different, my DH and i started TTC again as soon as no1 was born. Friends of mine however didn't even want to think about it for at least 6 months! lol
I was really sick and went to the doctors and my mum came with me, and that is when i found out i was pregnant. Mum was soo excited, dad was too.
I had just gotten married and fell pregnant on our honeymoon, which is exactly what happened to mum, so she thought it was great! lol
If you are really that concerned that your relationship with your partner will change for the worse, then maybe you should be putting a little more thought into TTC first. A baby adds a lot more stress etc to a relationship, so you need to know for sure that your relationship will last.
Good luck with everything.

MissSparkle

21-04-2006, 17:17

Hi CinderElla (i love ur name by the way!)

Im 19 and I got preg when I was 17 and in Year 12 at school. I wanted to wait till I was 12weeks preg (just in case) before telling my parents who I knew would flip out. HOWEVER my nosey MIL told my mum before I got to so my parents were more angry I hadn't told them myself (Which I was going to!) They will go thru the initial shock but in the end they love it!! I think it makes my parents feel young again!!

ANd about spending time with ur DP, u will get, its just different and even more special.

Like now me and DF can lye on the lounge together with DS between us but it just feels so special! At first when ur sooo tired alone time seems scarse but it works itself out!

Goodluck!!

MummyCharmzy

21-04-2006, 19:34

I was 16 and single when I got pregnant with Zach, my sister picked up on it - I had been complaining of a few things to her so she bought a test around and made me do it. It was positive. Then she took me to my mums place and said 'charmaine has something to tell you'.... I giggled as I blurted it out to her and mum cried. It wasnt an enjoyable moment thats for sure.

Mum called dad (mum and dad are seperated and I live with dad) and told him they needed to have a coffee and a chat after work.

Dad came home from work anda sked me if I knew what was wrong... I said no. We went to a coffee shop and mum said 'one of your daughters is having a baby' dad replied 'another one' thinking it was my older sister who was pregnant but then he realised she meant me and he went deadly silent.

It didnt take long for them both to be great about it though.

With my daughter I was 19 and had been with DP for about 18 months when I fell pregnant, my parents knew I wanted another child so despite it being unplanned they werent shocked and were of course supportive and happy (happiness took about a week to set in though)

With this bub, now I'm 20.... it was a big enough shock for me and DP let alone everyone else. We're a family now though so despite the shock everyone has been fine with it and relatively happy.

jessi

21-04-2006, 20:02

Oh gosh... I love telling this story...

My parents are ministers. So, when I found out I was pregnant- DF and I freaked out!! We had only been together for 2months at the time and we knew they absolutly KICK OUR ASSES cos we werent married!
So, we got engaged... and they were thrilled about that- and then the next day we went overseas. About 5 days later I smsed my mum to tell her I was pregnant. She rang me straight away and was like "And how do you feel about that?" Her and Dad were not very happy (and have made some very snide and horrible remarks to us) but they've gotten over it. I dont think they are excited at all, but they have accepted that DF and I are having a baby.

As for sex life- well, I havent had the baby yet- but my sex drive has pretty much diminished since becomming pregnant... we used to go at it like rabbits (sorry if thats TMI)but yeah, now...id rather just cuddle up and go to sleep. That happens to some ladies when they become pregnant though... I do hope that after bubs is born (not right away as I know I will be exhausted and sore), my sex drive will return to its good old self!! :D

Seekrit

21-04-2006, 20:28

I'm 23.. but I'm my dad's baby. He knows I was the only one of the 3 to settle down early and start a family so he started early with the whole "No kids for a long time" business, insisting to wait until I had a house.. :ecomcity:

Sat down on a train in NZ and told me to wait until I was finacially ready... so I said, frankly.. "Dad, if I wait until I'm ready, I never will be." he seemed to accept that.

2 months later we decided to TTC (didn't tell dad) then we just turned up on his doorstep claiming to be in the neighbourhood (we live about an hour away) and said that we were just coming over to see which room would be most suitable for the cot to be put in.
Dad was overjoyed! He's such a proud grandaddy already :) He shouted out "I KNEW IT!" because I'd called him earlier in the day to ask him when I could come up for dinner next (wasn't until after the weekend, and that kinda sucked for me so we went up early heh! he was a bit sus on me then too, I don't know why..)

mum2littleman

21-04-2006, 20:40

hey,
i was 18 when i found out and just kept it from my parents for a night just so i could think of how best to tell them, when i got up the next morning my sister came running it saying im preg i was thinking WHAT, she then turned around and said april fulls i had forgot that it was the first of april anyways i said to me sister yeah me to and she said no ur not and i said what do u think mum and dad would think if i really was? and sis said they would kill you! "really" and she said yes..:( i then told her well i am and she didnt believe me till i showed her the home preg test we spoke about how to tell mum best, when next thing we know she walked in the front door and alli {sis} said ill tell her and called her in the room and told her mum looking at me said i no it is the first of april im not silly after about 5 mins of her saying stop it i no its a joke i started to cry:crying: she gave me a hug and then believed me i went off to work and left her wit the dirsty work to tell dad!
after work i drove around 4 5 hrs as i didnt want to go home when i came home dad was waiting for me at the door and i put my head down and went to my room with out talking dad came up and just gave mea hug and told me its ok{ i think thats what i was waiting for sumone to tell me it was ok} i though it would have been alot worse as my bf and i had only broken up a day before i found out but im happy my family were there for me~

next time i tell my mother and father im hoping i have a house and im married and it can be a happy thing rather than me being scared to share my great news..

_____________
the mummy- louise 20
the buby- lucas almost 5 months

"sometimes all you need is a hand to hold and a heart to understand"

CinderElla

22-04-2006, 12:09

Thanks everyone you have all been a great help!!

DP and I just moved into a new Appartment yesterday and it has the perfect room to but the baby in so :fingerscrossed: that we get one soon!!!

jessgray

22-04-2006, 12:35

with DS i was 18 when i found out and i wasnt sure how my mum would react but when she did get told she asked "why didnt you tell me earlier lol" she found otu when i was 8 weeks lol this time round she found out when i was 5 and half weeks :laughing:

sharvs

22-04-2006, 14:54

I was 25 when I fell pregnant & I was still petrified to tell my parents.

We had calculated it that DS would be due 4 days before X-mas so I rang them (we live interstate) and said "what are you doing for Xmas?" mum said, "I dont know yet, its only May. Why?" I said "I thought you might want to come over and meet your first grandchild". Mum laughed, then went silent & said "You're serious, arent you?" I think it took a while to sink in, but they were thrilled after a while. Mum said she would tell Dad for me. A couple of hours later the phone rings and it was dad. He said "mum says you've got something to tell me?" Thanks mum!

*Chels*

22-04-2006, 16:36

great stories here girls!!
i found out i was preg just before my 21st so kept it quiet.we got engaged like a week after we found out bout bubs.i told my aunty and uncle we were engaged and they were really happy,then i said "theres more......we are having baby"
they didnt believe me,but then they finally did.they said "great news bout the engagemnet,shame about the baby"
rude!!but they got used to it and now they love riley sooooooo much
and i didnt tell mum for months coz weve had heaps of problems in the past and werent really on talking terms.
one fay i just bit the bullet and asked her to come over coz i had soemthing to tell her.she goes"am i gonna be a grandma?" so i was like yeah!!
she was thrilled so it was all good,and she the best oma in the world!!
BTW i lost my sex drive when preg!like jessi,i would just rather sleep or cuddle.6 months later its still gone!
i think once u get preg its like the whole world is checking out ur bits and then a baby gets squeezed out and then ur boobs just become a milkbar for the bub!!
so its still weird for me to have my body back and try to get back to normal ya know??

22-04-2006, 17:15

I'm prolly a bit different to most stories on this thread but I was married at 19 and fell pg over a year after getting married so it wasn't a HUGE shock to my parents. My DH always joked with my folks about being grandparents which made it heaps easier to tell them... at first they thought it was a joke but after about 30seconds they realised it was true and dad was so over the moon but mum burst into tears. i don't know why but she just wasn't expecting it. well come on i've talked about babies for years!
I'm already keen on ttc no 2, not sure how they will go when they find out that the bubs are close together but oh well, they love being grandparents so i'm sure they'll be ok!

Tristans_Mum

22-04-2006, 19:06

hey, well i hid it from my family for 3 months. Then we had an ultrasound, we went around to my mum's. I said "mum we have something to tell you" and she said "What? you are pregnant" Then i showed her the ultrasound picture.

The first time i fell pregnant(which ended in MC), my partner went around to tell my mum cause i was so scared. we have had many issues in the past and i have never been able to talk to her about stuff.

Now everything is all good and she loves Tristan soooo much. But i would be scared to tell her when i have another one lol

liah

23-04-2006, 13:16

I was more afraid of dissappointing them then making them angry. Both my mum and dad cried (i think i would have rathered them to yell at me) I waited until i was 12 weeks and my mum was more upset that i had waited that long and kept it from her. As for spending time together DF works from home so i get to see him whenever i want but remember its the quality if the time not the quantity.

Fairyfloss

24-04-2006, 14:48

not sure if this will help, but i told my parents by getting them a glass rose under a glass dome and at the base of it it said I love Grandma, but I ma 27 an dmarried so it was not much of an issue, just me being to shy to actually tell them to their face.

just remember, once you are prag, there is nothing they can do, they might be upset for while, but it will all work out once the baby is here. Good luck, :thumbsup:

Femme-Fetale

24-04-2006, 20:24

I didnt know wat my mother would think, she was brought up strict christian (altho shes not so tuff about it these days) and i was ment to be infertile and i had a rather unhealthy life shall we say, so yea i was a bit "hmm wat will she think"
I SMSed it to her, she lives 300km away. She thought i was joking, for about a day then realised i spoke honestly.
She was wrapped!!Even tho i knew i was about to become a solo mummy and she had been solo for a while herself with 5 kids, she was still very happy for me!

steph_alyssa

24-04-2006, 21:08

i was single when i found out i was pregnant, did the test and took it in my room to wait and it was a bit blurry, looked positive but i wasn't sure so i got my mum in to look at it. she basically just went 'oh steph how could u be so stupid' (i was on the pill!!!) and then said 'do u even know who the father is' which i wasn't too happy about coz yes i did know!! and i don't get around so i don't know where that comment came from!!! but then she was supportive and told me she wanted me to keep the baby and when i finally decided i would she burst into tears and asked if she could be my birthing partner!! (also cried the whole time i was pushing coz she was so happy and excited whereas i was crying coz i was in pain!!) so they usually come around dont worry!
and good luck fingers crossed u will get preg soon!

EskimoMumma

24-04-2006, 21:10

I told my mother that i was pregnant on her birthday.

Sorta went oh hey mum guess what i got you for your birthday..and she would say what and is aid oh well yourj ust going to be a grandmother thats all. and omg she went white and told me to go away for a few minutes to let her think

come back and she was stoked! turns out second time around was around her bday too :laughing:

mamacita

24-04-2006, 21:32

It wasn't fun when my parents found out that my husband (fiance at the time) and I were expecting. We were only 18! It was hard because my younger sister and older brother both said it was so selfish of me, my bro even wished I would miscarry... but I didn't take it to heart... and now they've taken Pia deep into their hearts!

I think that when one is sexually active or trying to conceive, one has to remember to have the courage to accept things as they come and act accordingly with maturity.

Charlie

24-04-2006, 21:38

Both My parents & My DH Parents had been asking for Grandchildren for ages...

so when I was 5days late & 3 positive home test later we told both of mummies we were off to the doctor to have some tests...needless to say they both new what we meant when we said DOCTOR & TESTS :laughing: They we're both VERY excited as Dh & I are both only children!!!:smiliedance:

yummymummy

25-04-2006, 17:33

After a working holiday in the UK I came home thinking maybe i was pregnant and had a test done, it came back negative, and i was diagnosed with a stomach ulser.22 weeks later i went to another GP with a rash on my face and the doctor said to me I was pregnant, well he was right. DD came along another 18 weeks later and has been the best thing that happened to me. :smiliedance:

BiNdI86

26-04-2006, 13:48

my mums reaction wasnt really what i expected.. i was 18.. and her reaction was "youve ruined your life" :eek:
After the initial shock set in, she was happy and excited, and is a very proud nan :)

Same thing happened to me!! I'm kinda still not over how my family reacted though...But that's another story :o

kate_perth_10

27-04-2006, 00:06

:) Hey i was 16 when i fell pregnant and to say i was scared to tell my mum is an understatement i was terrified.I waited till i was 10 weeks to tell her and she wasn't so much angry just disappointed which is worst. we went through a bit of a rough patch after that she kinda refused to talk about it or anything but when i moved out of home (at 6 months pregnant) i guess it sorta sunk in and she was fine. Even now i think she's a bit disappointed about how things turned out for me but i've since had another bubba (which was just as hard ti tell her) she's a proud grandmother!!!
At the moment we are TTC number three and even now at 21 i would still be scared to tell her LOL I think most parents come round in the end and are doting grandparents

Leesha

04-05-2006, 11:36

I told my Dad and his wife over the phone and they were absolutely thrilled - maybe a little more excited than I had expected!!

I emailed my Mum at work and told her and while she had concerns about whether or not someone my age could afford a child, she was also really excited and started phoning everyone!!

I was a little nervous telling my parents but I've always had the mentality of 'well you don't like it - lump it' so I guess it wouldn't have bothered me if they had reacted differently - DF and I were already engaged and planning our wedding so they knew that I was ready to settle down which I think put their mind a little more at ease! I was lucky!!! :)

Hokey Pokey

04-05-2006, 12:39

We did not find out till I was 6 months and 1 week the first time and my principle took me to my parents house and supported me while I told her.
Second time we rang and said guess what and they guessed it lol!

angel_one

08-05-2006, 17:55

i was 20 when my dd was born so i was 19 when i fell pg, my mum guessed it, and my dad well he said are you gonna get an abortion! and im like NO (we had been ttcing for 11 months- but no one knew) so needless to say it has taken dad oh about 2 years to get over it and i think hes only partly over it cause out 2nd baby was a boy, and he only had all girls so hes kinda estatic over it!

Hokey Pokey

08-05-2006, 18:07

Congrats on your new pregnancy!

Mum&bubs

08-05-2006, 18:15

WIth my first pregnancy i didnt tell my parents until i was 4 months preggie & i didnt tell them either..my sister found out after i got sick on the train one day & she told them. They were a bit shocked but got over it and are really happy Summer is here. With this pregnany as soon as i found out i told them straight away even then they were shocked but stillhappy .

vavavanny

10-05-2006, 22:22

My little one is a honeymoon baby. Mum cried of joy, dad gave me the tightest hug ever, he cried of joy too, and then laughed.
They were pretty ecstatic.
They love my child to bits. Mum was also my birth partner, she and my hubby were good support.

luckie_me

10-05-2006, 23:51

Me and My X had been TTC for about 8 months Secretly! It was just after my 19th birthday when i found out i was really scared about tellin my parents! I told my x straight after doing the test! He wanted to tell my parents then and there but i Held it off. I think it was about 3 or 4 days later mum had come into my room (me and x just moved back in coz we were all moving to QLD and our lease had run up) and i cant remember what she said but i just burst into tears. Then she asked me if i had. had my monthlys yet... I told her i didnt want to talk about it! She came sat beside me told me that things would be alright and that she was there for me! Then she started to cry and asked me when i had planned on tellin her and my dad! She left it at that and went and made me a Dr's appointment! My z was still on to me about tellin my dad but i was really scared that he would be angry (i am daddies little girl)
2 days later i went to the Dr's and it was positive! i went home and was going to tell Dad but didnt have the guts. mum went outside where he was and told him! I went outside after that and just looked at him waiting to be yelled at! but he just put his arms around me and told me that things would be arlight... I'm so glad i have such good parents!! They have both been here for me thru my brake up with my x! I dont think i would of gotten thru it without them! Thanks Mum and Dad!!:p

angel_one

11-05-2006, 22:35

oh, i forgot to mention what dh's mum said!, she was like how far are you 12 weeks, and then did a big oh why didnt you tell us sooner we could have done something about it!!! lol, could have jumped over the table at her then and there!

but to tops things off, we had ds christening a few weeks back, and at this lovely family get together (oh yeah sure) my dad and mil both said thats it for the kids right, get this: "we cant afford you having any more kids" im like wtf, what do they have to do with the number of children we have, WE are the the ones who have to be able to afford them!! duh. so any way im sitting there trying my hardest not to crack up laughing in there faces! lol and did the big yeah no thats it for a while -humm i wonder if a year can be considered a while????
lol
well im thinking of leaving it to tell them this time round, maybe i'll just let them know after the babys born, humm that sounds like the best course of action!:banghead:

cheezelkat

11-05-2006, 22:52

I was 21, and had just started law school. I just turned up to my mums house, and when she was on the phone to Optus, I told her whilst she was on hold, lol. She was shocked but happy, thank goodness.

My MIL was a whole different nightmare. I left that one to my partner. They weren't too happy but now love their little grandson :)

FourAngelKisses

12-05-2006, 07:22

I was 19 and married when I got pregnant with DS1. I waited until mum went to work and then told dad, he was sooooooo happy. Not sure how mum felt, oh well.
I was 20 when I got pregnant with DD, dad was working overseas this time so I told mum, who said nothing.
With DS2 they were both home, I asked them what they were doing around late May, early June. They said they don't know, so I told them they were becoming grandparents again. Not much was said....actually, I think I'm still waiting for a congratulations from them. :(

SassyMummy

12-05-2006, 17:37

I said to my mother: "I think I might be pregnant." I just went into her room and said it. She was like "Oh yeah?" very casually. Then I changed it to "I AM pregnant."

She was very good about it - and she supported me the entire pregnancy. She was amazing.

When I told Dad, I told him via SMS. I don't live with him, and I didn't want to say it in person because I didn't want him to make me feel bad.

He called me up after the sms and asked what I was going to do. I knew he was suggesting that I have an abortion. For the first trimester he kept talking about how I "had other options." Which again meant abortion. Too bad for him I was SO against it (not any more though...I don't want another baby soon so I'd have one if I had to). Then in 2nd trimester it was still about OTHER OPTIONS...which meant adoption. I was lucky that I didn't live with him because I could ignore him and put his opinion out of my head.

He's okay now though...he acts like an idiot around DD though - full baby voice and talking like a dork. lol. He was never MEAN about it either...he just wanted to make sure I didn't ruin my life I think.

PurpleHaze

13-05-2006, 16:33

I was at the shops with my mum, she had just gone on about how she wants to give up smoking but needs a hobby something to do where she is using her hands to keep her mind of smoking, we walked passed the knitting stuff and I said to her you could always start making booties, with that she stopped looked at me and said are you pregnant? She was excited and whacked me on the arm for not telling her sooner.

FourAngelKisses

13-05-2006, 16:37

That is so cool. Did she end up quitting smoking?

NZMama

19-05-2006, 13:59

Hmm brave I am not lol.
I was 22 & due midyear in my final year of uni.
I was petrified to tell my parents but more so my mum, she had such high expectations. DP told his mother but I asked him to respect my right to tell my own mother. DP got laid off from work so my mothers DH offerred him a job, he moved down to live with them & I stayed where I was, I was attending summer school trying to make up for the term I was going to have to take off uni after having bubs. I was visiting & trying to build up courage to tell my mum when she came in the door, they had been at the pub. Her DH was happy drunk so she put him to bed & asked DP if he would come back into town to drive her DH car back out, she asked me if I wanted to come for a ride, Nothing suspicous about that. We dropped DP off to pick up the Hilux & mum and I started on our way home, next thing she turns & asks me if I was pregnant, it caught me soo off guard that all I could do was nod, silence for the rest of the ride home. DP had been mouthing off to fellow workmates who then proceeded to call mum and her DH nanna & grandad as a joke. I was so angry, it should have come from me. We pulled into the driveway & my mum walked over to DP & attempted to slap him. That seemed to be the end of it but the next day while DP and DH were at work we had a raving row over my being too young & throwing away my studies. By the end of the day we had made up though. She has been the best nanna ever since. My dad said that he had a funny feeling I was & that was all he had to say on the matter, he also is the best koro out.
However when I was pregnant with my DD2 last year memories of the last time she found out came flooding back. I was living here in Oz by then & 27.....I was to travel back to NZ last July for a week to visit my family & Fiji for a week with my DD, mum & little sister after that. I managed to get through both weeks without anyone realising that I was pregnant, I was 5 months & knew I was having another little girl. My mum just thought I had gained a little weight. The plants at the resort ended up pretty drunk if they were next to me cose thats where all the cocktails went lol. I kept trying to build up the courage but no go. I flew here, mum to NZ & that was it, but then she was coming to Melb in Sept for a girls weekend away & I had a bump by then. So I made the brave phoncall....completely anti-climatic she was absolutely fine with it, happy even because she thought DD1 was going to be an only child it was taking me that long....
Im shocking I know but hopefully you will have more courage than me & things will work out well for you the way it did for me. Honesty is the key and make sure that they dont hear it from the grapevine.

Erm the sex life thing, My sex drive decreased in the early stages of my pregnancy but went back to normal in the later (especially when my babys went overdue & I was told this would help lol). But after the birth of DD1 I took about 6 months before anything happened, with DD2 it was back to normal after 2 months. I agree you definitely need to have time out and alone without the children everynow and again, but I also find time after they go to bed is just as fine. As long as you remember to make the time for your relationship with your partner nothing should change, well that was the case for me anyway :D
GOODLUCK

Jackson84

19-05-2006, 15:51

DH and i were unnoficially engaged when it happened (meaning nobody else knew LOL). we were both 19.

we told my sister first cause i am very close to her, and i knew she would stick up for me if things went bad :)

then we told my mum. we said, "were engaged. and were expacting a baby in december."

i thought she would go nuts. but she didnt. people warned us about a "backlash", but DS is 18 months now and we havent had one yet. :)

then we told the rest of my family, and they were all very excited. we were the first to have kids. they all say it takes the onus off them to start breeding LOL

DH told his parents over the phone. they were shocked, but soon came around. his dad told him he was an idiot. but after DS was born, he too came around.

Harlequin

19-05-2006, 15:54

FourAngelKisses

19-05-2006, 15:59

I rang my parents (they live in another state) and said "Guess what I did today?" When they asked what I did, I said "I peed on a stick!" and waited to see how long it took them to figure it out.

My mum screamed (first grandchild)
My dad took about 5 minutes and in the end I had to kinda explain what I meant. Hahaha

Too funny!!!! I wish my parents had been exceited when I said I was expecting. When I've got grandkids coming I'm going to be soooooooo excited.

~Danni~

22-05-2006, 15:20

I was 18 when I told my mum, eerrrrr I sent her a txt message, she was so cool about it I wish I had of just told her outright!! With bub #2 I just cam out and told her as soon as I found out! I found saying it was a secret and she was the onlt one whou knew so far helped (apart from DF of course) it gave her a sense of knowledge over every one else! My dad passed away when I was 13 so I didnt neeed to tell him (well not to his actual self, that is) That would have been scary!!!! (although I think he wouold have taken it well!) My relationship with my mum is way better now that I have been preg and have had my bub, it bought us together!! For my DF it was the straw that broke the camels back and we dont speak to his family any more (they havent come to see DD yet and dont wont to) so bit of a mixed bag really!! Good Luck:fingerscrossed:

FourAngelKisses

22-05-2006, 15:30

If I ever have another one, I wont be telling my family for a few months, which is difficult as I'm always in maternity clothes by 10wks, lmao.

neeshNgeorgia

24-05-2006, 11:40

wow some very interesting stories! i've just sat here for about an hour reading everyone of ur stories and it's been a great help to me as i didn't tell my parents till i was 6 months preg!!

DP and i live in a different state to my parents, i was 2 days of turning 19 when we did the test, and was freaking out!
we were still living with his parents so obviously they asked us when i was only 7 weeks as i was sick as dog with morning sickness!
Now as for my parents, dear...they have always had such high expectations of me, and when i dropped out of school after year 10 and started hairdressing i thought that that was enough to have my name errased from the will let alone now 2 years later telling them i was pregnant!!
DP respected the fact that i wanted to tell them in my own time, but when i was 6 months pregnant and still hadn't told them, he said enough was enough and sent my mum a text telling her we had something to tell her! She rang that night and new exactley what it was i had to tell her, she was absolutely over the moon, more peeved off that i didn't tell her earlier! Then it come time to tell my dad...that was a different story and mum new it was going to be tough for me to tell him, so she offered to tell him for me, an hour later dad rang back going absolutely mental! lol his words exactely were; "I'm not going to pretend i'm impressed, because i'm not...what the hell are u going to do???"
This hurt but when DD georgia was born his attitude totally changed and i'd agree now my relationship with my parents is so much stronger than ever b4, and we all absolutely adore our little girl!
As for the sex life post pregnancy, sex life is non existant, i mean DP has been away in the army for the last 5 months, but even b4 he left we were both so tired and just wanted to sleep as soon as we got to bed, this put a huge pressure on our relationship as we were constantly bickering at each other and took for granted the time we had together, though now with him being away for so long we have realised how precious our time is together as a little family and that things will be much better when he gets home.

mumma_jessy

13-06-2006, 02:25

Well mine was not a very good experience. I had been living with my partner for over a year I was 20 (just!), when i fell pregnant on the pill. BIG surprise for me, but even bigger it seems for him, he completely flipped out!!:eek:

We had a huge fight and he left the house and didn't come back all night, i called my Mum the next day and she came to get me so i could stay at her place, i was sobbing and she was saying it's alright, and i said no it's not i'm pregnant! She just hugged me, thats all i needed, and she said she was there for me no matter what i wanted to do. :hugs: Gotta love Mums!!

Long story short, my man came round after talking it over, it was such a shock for him, and me that it took some getting used to! Turns out my man had gone to his parents that night after leaving our place in tears too, so thats how they found out. The only one we actually got to tell was my Dad, and he was thrilled, which was fantastic!

It was much better the second time round, we got to tell everyone properly, but no-one was surprised cause they all knew we were trying:yelclap:

mama2cierra

24-06-2006, 17:20

when telling my family. i seperated the girls from the boys . thinking that they would be all happy and clucky and lovey dovey etc. Was I far from right about that!!!! They flew right off the handle!! my eldest sister started recmmending clinics for me to go to for an abortion! I had only been with my boyfriend for 8 months prior to the conception however. My mum cried and cried an cried and demanded guarantees from my BF. what shocked me was that my dad was happy for me and my youngest brother was jumping up and down! Man i should have told them first! My brother who was 17 at the time said for everyone not to be sad, its a new life in the family, not a death!!! I was so happy to hear that, its such a mature way to look at it.and i love him so much for what he said. After a few months my mum and sisters came aruond to tha fact they would be aunties and a granma and now they each come over for weekly 'fixes' of baby Cierra

mum2bubba

24-06-2006, 18:43

I was 21 when I got pregnant (22 when Hayley was born) Grant and I had only been together 3 months before we got pregnant (it WAS planned) I told my dad over the phone, I just said to him "are you doing anything this afternoon?" and he said "well I'm gonna have lunch with (name) why?" I told me that I had something to tell him (we were already engeged then-a few weeks before and he already knew that-and was happy) he said "are you pregnant?" I said "yes" he said "oh, you're joking, what happens if you and Grant break up blah, blah, blah?" I told him that the pregnancy was planned and he quickly changed and said "oh well in that case congratulation" I think its best to tell your parents sooner than later that way if something goes wrong they can help you the best they can, my BIL's ex had a baby when she was 15 (not his) and she didn't tell her parents until she was about to give birth (personally I think it was more her being in denial but thats jmo)

bubbabelly

24-06-2006, 19:54

Haha i cant give you advice on how to tell your parents because i cant do it either! Im 6 weeks pregnant and have known for 2 weeks and still cant tell my mum.... She went crazy when i told her i was pregnant with DS! Her reactions was "well your getting an abortion rite?" (i was 16 then) now im 18 so im an adult but im still scared of what she will say. I got the whole "youve ruined your life and youll never be anything now :ecomcity: " so i can just imagine getting DOUBLE that!!!
Plus there is no point telling her until im 100% about what im doing!!!!!!!!

JATS

24-06-2006, 21:31

I was 11 weeks pregnant when we announced it x-mas day 2004;

My mum knew we'd been trying and was itching to be a grandma, so when I called her x-mas morning (they live interstate) and said "merry christmas Grandma" she shreiked down the phone, and according to Dad did a funny little dance on the spot :rolleyes: Then spent the rest of the day with a huge grin and tears streaming down her face.

Hubby's dad practically tackled us with a bear hug, then got the whole peacock proud look and silly grin and spent the rest of the day strutting around and congratulating Hubby every 5min. :laughing:

MIL went bright red when we announced it to her, she looked furious but just quietly said congratulations and sat in a corner refusing to speak the rest of the day. But we didn't expect her to be thrilled!