Can your mum/partner settle your baby?

[GeorgeousGirlBubbas]

:baby: Everytime my four month old is due for a sleep mum and husband cant seem to manage it.

Mum just gives up, "Oh she didn't want to go down." "She knows that im not her mum."

My husband just doesn't have a clue or the patience considering it is his third baby, so i only go out when she is sleeping for him.

Ive explained over and over that if she doesn't have a sleep she will be over tired and harder to settle later.

Does anyone else have this problem? Any advice on what to say to Mum without sounding too bossy?

[Mamalicious]

My boy usually needs me to put him down, I think it's a security thing.

Does your bub visit your Mum during the day, is that why you can't do it?

If it's your hubbys 3rd baby you'd think he would have a clue lol and a bit of patience!

If DS is going to be with someone else at his sleeptime I just give really clear instructions about his sleeping signals, when he usually goes to bed and where he sleeps, like not sleeping while people are holding him because it only takes the once and he expects it at every sleep time from me :rolleyes:

So I just make it clear that I'm Mum and this and that are the things that need to happen and that's that. :yes:

[Angroc]

My DH is the same. I think its a bit of a confidence thing with him though. He hears her cry and get upset and I guess it isnt as natural for him as it is for me. Poppy was especially grumpy last night while DH was trying to settle her and I ended up having to go in and take her and she settled within 30secs of me holding her. It made DH feel really bad poor thing. I keep telling him he needs boobs lol.

[Mamalicious]

My hubby was the same when our boy was little, as bubs got older DH became more confident and before long he was comfy as with bedtimes, it just takes a bit of getting used to sometimes. :yes:

[mizmiz]

Dh has been comforting and settling the girls since they were 6 months....last night DD2 just screamed and cried - i kept going in and out, brang her into our bed then back into hers without success.
Finally i told DH to do it - and within 3 minutes he was back in bed, i was like WTF....he didnt even give her a bottle, sing like i did (i think it was my voice) ...

Just give him and for bub to grow up a bit more

Mum has never been able to settle the girls down...

[mumma2bella]

my partner cant put little one to sleep... mostly cause he gives up trying.. lol

[kimbo]

My mum is great at settling little babies :thumbsup:
DS was actually a really good baby but if mum was visiting from Sydney and he was a bit restless mum had the special 'nack'.
I don't think DH ever settled DS to sleep.

[Jaileth]

They go though stages

...the kids, that is :laughing:

ds would go to sleep early on for me, then at about 4mths, he'd only go to sleep for my dad - who didn't live with us, so that was a hassle, then he changed back to me. At about 9mths, it was dh, at 14mths me again...etc etc

I think - for us anyway - different things work at different stages.

With your mum, it's hard. You could try telling her that you can't handle your dd when she's so tired because she hasn't slept through the day. With my MIL, I've asked her over and over and over to put ds to sleep a certian way, but because we aren't there when she looks after him, she does it her way. It works for her, but it means that it takes us longer to get him to sleep. grrrr.

Good luck and I hope that someone else will be able to get her to sleep for you soon!

[SassyMummy]

I don't think my mother ever really had much opportunity to settle her... but she wasn't that hard to deal with anyway.

Chanel's Dad didn't do much though - mostly cos he'd freak out and give up after about 1 minute anyway, saying it was too hard and he couldn't do it.

I don't actually think that Chanel needed ME specifically though... I don't think she cared too much. When she was about 5 months old, she started not sleeping when she was put in her cot at night, and I'd get my younger brother to put her in there and then walk out... she whinged more if I did it (I lived with my brother and mother).

[subaruforestermum]

DF not always, but mum could, they share this incredible bond, and she has mostly always been able to sooth an settle him.....

DF could sometimes, but not always, usually it was 'me' who had to do it, as DS loved to be sung to, and DF wouldnt sing..Whereas mum & I would..even though we arent that great...lol

[mummyjessie86]

ATM I live with my parents, and mum has always been great with bubbies. However, sometimes DS (3mths) just wants to snuggle up to my boobies (mum's too skinny!) and he will settle for me after 10 seconds even though Mum tried absolutely EVERYTHING to get him to settle :hair:

That being said - some days he doesn't want to know me, and mum has to put him to bed :laughing:

[pixiemum2]

Nobody but me can settle my kids. Its a real pain.

[the dargonfly faery]

Df has been able to settle dd since birth and it helps. Some nights she is a bugger and will not settle for him, i go in and sraight away she settles down. Sometimes i can't settle her and he can. Depends on her mood. As for mum she lives 7 hrs away so we never see her much and when we do dd is all shy around her and clings off me or df.

[hopefullnanny]

My dd just turnes two and until she was 18 months would only settle with females. lf l left her to be babysat it would have to be with my mum or sisters. Even now she will only settle for hubby if l am not home. If l am home its only me that can do it.