Exhausted & need advice!

[MamaHearts5]

Hi, it's 3.55am and I am once again sitting up with my 13mth old.
He has been getting up like this everyday he has cut out his 2nd nap during the day. He was a good sleeper he routine was
7am wake up
11am nap till 1-2pm
4pm nap till 5pm
bed time 8pm sleep till 4am wake for bottle then back to sleep.

Now its wake 1am stays up till about 5am back to bed & sleeps till 7-8am.
naps at 1pm till3pm bed 8pm then up again by 1am again. he wont go back down not even with a bottle or dummy.

I am at my wits end & exhausted, this plus the fact my hubby gets up at 5am for work and wakes me up even if I manage to get back to sleep with DS.

Then I have a long day up with him grumpy & tired and I am trying to look after my other boys & try & do things with them & I have to do the usual day to day housework while DS cracks it & gives tantys as his tired but wont sleep.

I have spoke to the HN and she said its a growth spur ... well this has been going on over a month wouldn't the spur be over by now?
He isn't teething either.. I don't know what to try.
I just want a full night sleep again.:(

[neostudded]

:( aw, I am so sorry hun!
I wish I had some wonderful advice for you
but I dont.:hugs:

You must be so tired right now,
I dont knwo how you must be managing thoughout the day,
I hope there has been other mums in this situation who can offer advice for you.:hugs:

[MamaHearts5]

Thank You :hugs:

I am exhausted, yet DS is happily playing with toys full of energy & watching the chipmunks his fave movie atm ... :hair: those squeeky voices really get on ya nerves at 4am

[neostudded]

I feel so sorry for you!
There must be something you can do?
maybe get him seen by a GP if this persists?
By the way, when my son was six months he would barley sleep for anohter two months without constant crying no matter what I did.He went from about 15 hours sleep to about 9 to ten hours slep.
One day it just seemed to stop!
It was terribly exausting and it affected my everyday life to, so I really sympathise for you right now.:hugs:
And you have more then one child to.


Chip munks would bother me when I feel so tired and just want to be in bed,
Hmm, maybe do whatever you can today to make your son use more energy?
It might make him sleep better tonight??


Just a suggestion, I know my son sleeps better if he has had a HUGE day? :hugs:

[punkbaby]

My only suggestion would be to try and make the time that his awake as boring as possible! Try and not stimulate him too much even if its just sitting in bed or on the couch or in his room no lights no noise just comfort.
Trying to think but i am sure that when mine were around that age they used to sleep 8pm till 6pm, have a nap from 10-1 or sometimes they would have two naps, i also found if they slept after 3pm we would be up all night.
Cant really give you much more than that sorry :( my 8mth old is still waking from 2am to 5am to drink for that whole three hours and its killing me!
:hugs::hugs: i am hoping its just a stage for you

[UmmInayah]

My only suggestion would be to try and make the time that his awake as boring as possible! Try and not stimulate him too much even if its just sitting in bed or on the couch or in his room no lights no noise just comfort.


I agree about the little stimulation when he is awake around that time. I went through a couple of days when my DD would wake up at 2am and not settle again until 5am. We didn't do anything really fun.. No toys, just sitting on the bed in really dim light, singing and whispering. And as soon as she yawned, I would rock her back to sleep.. she complained a bit, but I was always with her and if she got hysterical I would stop and start the whole process again.

:hugs: You must be so exhausted. I am so sorry. I don't know what it is about sleep and 13 month olds. I hope he gets better for you. Maybe you could try not making him nap for one day. He will be really cranky, but hopefully be really exhausted during the night and sleep more? That might not work for all children, but may work with your little one?

[MandaMommy]

I'm sending you a big :hugs: and hope this improve soon.

I have never really been in you situation but my DS is 9 months and we sometimes have sleeping issues. I basically deal with this by having a rocking chair beside his cot and if he wake at night firstly I avoid getting him out of his cot and if this fails the only other thing I do is hold him either on the chair or I sometimes stand with him. As far as night sleeping goes from 7.30pm until 5.30am it is night time, sleep time and he is laying in his cot or been rocked by me. I have never put him down to play or turned on music or the TV and I not planning to. It may be hard at first but I think if you set some ground rule and tell your DS and not give in, he should learn this time is for sleeping.

I know its easier said than done but its worth a shot anyway.

[natacha]

Beverley, I wish you a lot of courage, it sounds like you're going through tough times. My 7 months old has had hectic night sleeps for the past 2 months and I'm already finding it quite challenging! He went from sleeping 8h in a row to waking up every 2 hours.
While I was browsing the internet, I found this website and others, one in particular that gave a few tips on trying to get baby back to sleep at night. There was also a book they recommended which I bought and read. It basically explains baby sleeping patterns and gives tips on how to help them sleep better. I figured why not try and have just started today. I'm really hoping it will work, or at least improve things a bit. I will let you know in 10 days what the progress is, but in the meantime, you can always check that website:
http://www.easybabylife.com/baby-sleep.html


natacha

[MamaHearts5]

Hi all and thank you :hugs::hugs:


Last night he was the worst yet he went down at 8pm after a day of only 1hr nap he was falling asleep on the sofa so I got him to bed & he went straight to sleep.
He woke up at 12am ................... and didnt get back down till 11am today! Thats right 11am.
:hair::crying: I cant get no more tired I think I only got 1hr sleep when he had a quick nana nap.

Like omg what toddler stays awake from 12am-11am????????

I am at breaking point.

Can I go and sleep now?
No, I have to go have a shower, do housework, look after my other 2 boys and do everything else....
How can I cope on only 1hr sleep a day?:(
I dont know what to do.

[Verdi]

I have done CC and iw roked for me.

Also is he teething?

Maybe some bongella on his gums before bedtime or some panadol.:confused:

[natacha]

what do CC, DH and all those other abbreviations mean???

[Myztik]

Natacha you can find all the abbreviations etc here

http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=5331

[Seacretsquirrel]

Hi there I have and 18 month old and she is luckily a very good sleeper most of the time but I will add my two cents anyway as I figure any suggestions are worth it.
I would have NO stimulation at night to remind him that night is boring and sleep is better than being up. No lights, no toys and NO TV!
CC might be a go it tended to work for us (but I have to be mean and let her go for quite a while as I found doing the poping in every 5 or 10 mins made her worse).
I would also consider an earlier bed time I know it sound silly but kids need around 12 - 15 hrs sleep at this stage and if he has cut the 4-5 pm sleep then perhaps he is over tired. (I know if DD is up too late she is hopeless all night.
Anyhoo hope this helps a bit
in the mean time :hugs: from us hope you get a better nights sleep soon

[natacha]

just a thought, have you been to an osteopath?

[nachos]

BB78 I feel your pain. I'm in a similar situation. My 13 month old has a 2-3 hr day sleep and then gets put to bed around 7:30. He settles fairly quickly but then wakes around 12:30 and screams and whinges till about 4:30 in the morning. No matter what I try he will not settle. I leave him in his cot as normal as he should know it is sleep time. He will then fall asleep and want to sleep till 8:30 - 9 am. But...i will have to wake him as I either have to take his brother to school or go to work. My elder child was a fantastic sleeper so not sure what to do. I'm thinking it might be ear pain or something similar as to me he looks like he is in pain...but doctors are saying his ears are a little pink but not that bad!!

Also....this has been going on for about 4-5 weeks now....so like you i am totally exhausted!