Older or Younger

[SuperMum10/12]

Hi l was just wondering I have teenagers and younger children 20 18 15 12 9 6 5 4 2 1. My thread is about the younger kids learning from the older kids dose anyone else have this problem :hair: :hair: :hair:

[mum of six]

sorry but omg u have all the kids? how in the hell do you di it,i thought i had it bad with 6 lol,ur a super dooper super mum :)

[CJJHRA]

Mine are 16, 12, 10, 7, 7 and 4

the twins are always wanting what the elder ones have, and are always whinging that the 16year old gets to do everything, and them nothing.

the younger ones have learnt certain things at an earlier age than the older ones, like believing in Santa, the eldest believed till he was probably 10 or so, the twins knew at 5! Now they are trying to tell their sister hes not real, and she gets upset.
and the attitude the little ones have learnt from the elder ones..

[SuperMum10/12]

Hi mum of six ... I don't know about that... I guess like most mums I enjoy having a large family .. My husband and I work very hard together and at the same time we have lots of fun ...You never get lonely and you always have a endless amount of hugs and kisses its nice and we have never had any regrets with having the amount of children that we have if it wasn't for my age and risk factor we would have loved to have more children ... Back in 2000 I also had twins but they didn't make it they were twin girls thats were the 10/12 comes in to my user name...

:hugs: :hugs:

I think if were on the ball and willing to work hard but enjoy our family then its worth it all..

...the good and bad and the happy and sad...


:valentine: :valentine: :valentine:

[SuperMum10/12]

Hi CJJHRA ... We to have the Santa problem its funny with some of my younger children April 6 Zowie 5 Kyle 4 Dekota 2 they believe in Santa even though there older brothers and sisters don't and they now that mummy and daddy buy there presents I'm not shore how that works but they still believe in him witch is good ... My older 2 Daughters have a big age gap between them Melissa is 20 and Tayla is 9 .. Tayla is a little girl that is very confident and thinks and acts a bit older than she is . She also thinks she should be able to do what she wonts ,she don't think that she should have a curfew witch is 5.30 or she needs to let us know what she is doing and were she is going ,the bit that gets to me is when she gets in to the discussion of the rules then she throws Melissa's name in to the chat and then I remind her the age and the reply is thats not fear , and storms of no one wins that argument ... :shame: :shame:

[SuperMum10/12]

Hi mum of six ... I don't know about that... I guess like most mums I enjoy having a large family .. My husband and I work very hard together and at the same time we have lots of fun ...You never get lonely and you always have a endless amount of hugs and kisses its nice and we have never had any regrets with having the amount of children that we have if it wasn't for my age and risk factor we would have loved to have more children ... Back in 2000 I also had twins but they didn't make it they were twin girls thats were the 10/12 comes in to my user name...

:hugs: :hugs:

I think if were on the ball and willing to work hard but enjoy our family then its worth it all..

...the good and bad and the happy and sad...


:valentine: :valentine: :valentine:

[neostudded]

Congratulations on having so many children! :)

I am from a large family (seven children, plus two step brothers).

[lotsakids]

my older kids think its funny to teach their 3 year old sister things some are funny but some things they get told off for they seem to think she's a performing seal if she says any swear words i threaten to wash my 17 year olds mouth out with soap lol cause i know it comes from her or her friends she doesn't usually swear at home but things slip out and her friends aren't used to having little kids around

[sja]

My 4 are all under 5, but I already have this problem. The 4 and 3 yr olds are always getting told off for teaching the 21 mth old bad habits. He's picked up his sister's fussy eating habits and will say YUK the second he sees his food. Whenever I tell him no he then says "why?". He has no idea what he's saying, just knows that's what the older two say when I tell them no. He also picks up on a lot of the naughty ways to do stuff - ever since he was about 15 months old he's been pushing his high chair around to use as a step - he opens doors, gets up to the kitchen sink, gets into all kinds of trouble by using his high chair as a ladder! My first never thought to do this stuff until she was much older.

Some of the stuff is good though. I catch my 4yo teaching my 3yo how to read. And they both show the 21 mth old how to put his clothes in the washing basket, pack away his backpack, and things like that. They even got the potty out one day and peed in it to show him how it's done :rolleyes: Not sure yet if that's a good thing or not!

I don't even want to think about the bad stuff that teenagers must teach their pre-school aged siblings. I feel for you - there must be so many bad habits and naughty tricks being passed on in your family supermum! But from what I read on here, you seem to have it all under control :)

[canberramomma]

The fussiness and the table manners are my biggest bugbear! Oh, and it's never cute for your younger ones to be behaving like they've got PMS!:laughing:

[mum of six]

Hi mum of six ... I don't know about that... I guess like most mums I enjoy having a large family .. My husband and I work very hard together and at the same time we have lots of fun ...You never get lonely and you always have a endless amount of hugs and kisses its nice and we have never had any regrets with having the amount of children that we have if it wasn't for my age and risk factor we would have loved to have more children ... Back in 2000 I also had twins but they didn't make it they were twin girls thats were the 10/12 comes in to my user name...

:hugs: :hugs:

I think if were on the ball and willing to work hard but enjoy our family then its worth it all..

...the good and bad and the happy and sad...


:valentine: :valentine: :valentine:

I know what u mean,i actually envy you,i wish i had never got my tubes done other wise i'd prolly have the same username as urs lol....

[Rating]

How do you guys go on holidays and stuff..

Do you have 2 cars.

[CJJHRA]

ah yes... the copying of eating habbits... dont get me started LOL

[lotsakids]

How do you guys go on holidays and stuff..

Do you have 2 cars.


whats a holiday? have only ever had one that was to sydney 7 years ago

[CJJHRA]

hehe, um our last holiday was um... 11 years ago, when we only had two kiddies and one on the way, and we left only took the eldest with us as the other was a only about 15 months and mum offered to have him for a few nights.

[Rating]

Ok then Ill stop baby making lol..

[Ys_Woman]

Mine are 21, 7, 6, 6mths

Thankfully my eldest moved out of home a few years ago. She was very moody and was suffocating the little ones with her moods. If they were in the lounge room when she got up..she would send them outside. When she wanted to go outside she would make them come inside. It was awful. She just couldn't handle their exuberance.
I think in some ways they are a little scared of her but since she moved out she frequently has them for sleepovers and they just adore being with her. I send one at a time so she doesn't feel overwhelmed.
The 7yr old boy & the 6yr old girl are very similar in abilities and interests but way different in nature. I think it is the 6yr old that starts most of the trouble there:D.
They both love the bub, Dane, very much and I figure by the time he is a preschooler the others will be that much older and there won't be the sibling rivalry with him that they have with each other currently. But I do expect to hear lots of: "Muuu-umm, Dane took my (insert item here)!" lol.
They keep you on your toes for sure.

Amy:)

[CJJHRA]

My eldest stays at my mums weekdays for school and everything runs alot smoother with him not around, when hes home he thinks hes boss of them.

[SuperMum10/12]

Hi Everyone there is a few things that you have all commented on that l as well have with my older children. My 20 year old Melissa moved out of home for about 3 years and now she has moved back in it is nice to have her back but its like having 2 mums in the house . And trying to make a 20 year understand that children like to play with things and don't just wont to sit in one spot and not do anything is a challenge. Don't get me wrong she is good with the kids and they luv her a heep but as one of the Ladies commented before they are a bit frighten of big sister she can get a bit cranky .. As for my older son Jamie he is 18 and he lives with my mum and dad dew to his job we see him on the weekends but as he is not used to having to mind his P ands Q he has a bad habit of dropping a few of those word that little people aren't meant to say but I loose count of how many times we pick him up on it it just doesn't sink in I think he is worse now that he doesn't live at home ... Someone asked do we go on Holidays in my house there is no such thing we go to the big park and have family BBQ's and and family get together days that is good as we couldn't afford a big trip and I think it would be a lot of hard work and very expensive and it would take a lot of our savings.. I was also asked do we have 2 cars no we don't I do not drive if I need to do things I walk or my husband Craig takes me its good excursive for me and the kids ...
My 5 year old can walk further than her older sister and brother I can say who wonts to come for a walk and the younger ones say yes before the older ones ...

[anewme]

Try not to see the older ones teaching the younger ones so much as a problem, just more of an occasional challenge. My favourite sight is when I see my eldest girl teaching my eldest son to draw as they don't normally get on that well. Think that might ge due to she was an only child for 6 years and he was a boy:laughing:. I found most challenging that my little daughter has aspergers and my youngest daughter has learnt traits. She has to be told that there are special considerations when it comes to her bigger sister. She can get away with things that her younger sister can't. For example my 4 yr old has to undress and dress herself, but my 7 yr old still gets help. Overall the oldest teaching the younger is positive and priceless. My life without my Jo would be so much harder, after all shes typing this for me. (i should get paid for this)

[maorimama]

Yes my youngest son has learnt things off his older brothers that I rather he didn't. I think when there is such a big gap the youngest want to grow up too fast.

We will be ttc #5 soon and my oldest will be almost 17 yrs older if all goes according to plan.

Supermum 10/12 I envy you your children, we are hoping to add a few more with the help of ivf, I would be completely happy with at least another 4:fingerscrossed:.

[SuperMum10/12]

Hi Everyone ... thank you for you feed back on this .. I agree with you all, I especially like the lady that said that she noticed the naughty things that her older Daughter taught her younger one but she noticed and liked the times that they draw together My children luv to sit and draw together we do that nilly every day, myself and Melissa 20 and Dylan 15 also sit and draw or colour with the little kids its lots of fun... So they can show them good and bad things :ecomcity: