11/12 nearly 12 years

[duncoru]

I had my baby when I was 16. After that I went back to school, uni etc. I am now working in a professional job. I have been married for 1 1/2 and hubby would like to start trying to concieve. I don't know how 11 yo will take it. She dotes over our friends kids, but I think she may feel a bit competitive if we have one of our own. She has no contact with her dad (who has gone on to have several other kids that he doesn't support). I just don't what to do. Any suggestions?

[Amy91andLilUns]

heya hun, the woman over the road had a little girl when one of her boys was 10/11 and the other mustve been about 8 and they dote on her :)

[StrawberryTheMilkshake]

I think you might find that your 12 year old would be an enormous help. Id talk to her, let her know that things might change- you will be tired, etc.... that your love for her will not change, and you know she is going to be the best big sister anyone could ever have. I think now she is older you could really involve her and she would love that (i hope!). I dont know your daughter but i think she might just surprise you!

Hey, congratulations on making it in life..... feels good doesnt it!

[InSaneOne]

my stepchildren were 13, 12 (girls) and 10 (boy) when my first dd was born. they just love her. the girls like to dress her up and play with her. dss loves to play on the floor with her - she climbs all over him and they love to play hide and seek. now 2.5 years later i have number 2 and again - they just love to cuddle and play with him.

you could try asking her if she wants a brother or sister. most girls that age love babies and would be a big help to you. you might need to set aside a day where its just the 2 of you - so she doesn't feel forgotten.

[jembelina]

My baby sister was born when I was 12(nearly 13) and I was absolutely thrilled. I was thrilled to find out mum was pregnant, went to ultrasounds adn antenateal appointments with her. I even attended the birth and watched her enter the world! I was like a second little mummy and in heinsight must have been a huge help to mum! I have always adored bubs and small children since I can remember. I loved every minute of it, got excited about all her milestones, helped with bathing,feeding, nappies, etc - because I wanted to!! I guess I am more of a mother figure for her than a sister...but we can still giggle and girt around and bicker with the best of them. I think we share a different kind of bond than other siblings born closer together and I love it. My sister has a different father to me, but taht makes no difference to us at all!

Jsut thought I'd share my personal experience, feel free to ask me any questions.