Missing My Mum

[froggychook]

My Mum died just under a year ago......:gloomy:
It still hurts like hell everyday but everyone else is now getting on with their lives.
It is hard being a Mum without a Mum.

Only a grieving daughter knows the feeling
Does anyone one know of a motherless mothers/daughters group on the Gold Coast.

P.S I am New to BubHub .......:shakehands: Hi !

[WorkingClassMum]

I was brought up for many years by my grandparents - a day barely goes by that I don't miss them

I wish they could have met my kids:crying:


Sorry it's a soggy hello - but welcome too :wave:

[Seekrit]

Hi, welcome to bub hub.
And a huge :hugs:

My mum died 10 years ago, this year... and it does get easier... it takes a long time though... and it never ever gets better, does that make sense?

And being a motherless mother is horribly heartbreaking, isn't it. sigh.

There's a wonderful book called Motherless Daughters by Hope Edelman, it helped me out a lot.. so much stuff she wrote could've come from my own pen.. it not only helped my sister and I but also my husband to understand why I do some things, you know?
She's also written one called Motherless Mothers but I haven't read that one yet...

:hugs: There are, surprisingly, a fair few of us on here who are in the 'same boat'... :hugs: I hope every day you heal some more.

[mrsd]

:wave:Hi Froggychook - what a cool name !

Welcome to bubhub !

I haven't lost a parent yet but my MIL passed away when DH was only 26. We were already married with 3 daughters and while we wouldn't have wanted her to have suffered any longer with her cancer, there are lots of times when I wish I could share stuff with her. He still misses her lots. She loved her 2 boys and I know she would have loved our eldest son born a couple of years later.

However I truly believe that she is still with us in thought and I say something to her every time I see her photo (there's one in our entrance way so I seem to speak to her every day!). I wonder what she thinks of bubhub - she loved technology and being in the forefront of it (and she loved talking) so she probably thinks it's fantastic.

[froggychook]

Hi Girls,

Thanx for the book recommendation Seekrit, I have already googled it ! Will pick one up soon.

Froggy is my DS nickname and Chook my DD's one mrsd.

I am finding I am so angry that both she and Dad are gone (Dad died 9 months before Mum) and that they won't be a part of my childrens life.

My DS wont even know them as he was born only 6 days before we lost DAD.
Dad held him when he was a day old, then never saw him again.
My DD idolised them both . She was 3 when they died........ but she is already forgetting stuff about them despite my best efforts to keep their memories alive. This breaks my heart.

I know they are always with me and I get signs that they are near all the time.:angel::angel:
But I want them here .....I want them back !
Thanx 4 the hugs right back at ya :hugs:

[Ky]

Hi and Welcome froggychook :wave:

Life is hard enough as a mother without having to do it without Mum around ...

My Mum died 12 ½ years ago and although the days have grown easier and the grief has softened around the edges, there are still times when I miss her like crazy.

Be gentle with yourself ... you are only a very short way along grief's journey.

Sending hugs ... :hugs:

Ky

[Queen]

:hugs: :hugs: Sorry for your loss :hugs:

OMG, ladies you have made me cry so hard, I ache. Loosing my Mum is my greatest fear, as she is my rock. I can not comprehend how you all cope so well.

I wish I could say something wonderful and inspiring but I am all out.

Take care
See you round the threads.
Rowie xoxo:hugs:

[GabberQueeN]

iam so sorry :( i know what its like but with my dad he pasted away when i was 18 long story....i wish he was at my wedding etc etc i still cry all the time.



hugs hugs hugs i don't know what to say but i know the pain.:hugs:

[Blueberry Crumble]

I lost my mum to cancer when I was 22. She was only 46. It was the saddest most horrendous thing. She never got to meet her grandson. When she was dying she said sadly that she was never going to meet her grandchildren. It breaks my heart that my son is never going to know her :( But having said that I am going to bring him up to know her, what she was like and how hard she worked and what a fantastic mother she was to us. She was just such a lovely person, and I want DS to know that.

If we have a girl I will be naming her after my mum.

[Moops]

Hi hun

I know exactly how you feel, my Mum died suddenly 4 years ago one minute she was here the next she was gone. I think due to the sudden tragic nature of it, I sank into denial and never let myself think about her too much. I was scared if I let myself break down I would never get up again.

In the past year I have gotten married and had my Son, I think about her alot now and you are right it hurts. I wonder what she thinks about her Grandson and if she thinks I'm a good Mum like she was.

My Mums name was Jenny. When I was at the hospital in labour with Luca the midwife walked in, smiled at me and said "Hi, my name is Jenny". I knew she was with me.

Please pm me anytime if you need to chat :hugs:

[neostudded]

Hey, I havent lost a parent but I just wanted to give you some of these :hugs::hugs::hugs:

[Blueberry Crumble]

Hi hun

I think due to the sudden tragic nature of it, I sank into denial and never let myself think about her too much. I was scared if I let myself break down I would never get up again.



This is how I am. Even though I think about her everyday, I cant dwell cause im scared it will sink me down. I haveto keep going for her sake and the sake of my family

[jas]

Hi froggychook,
Its been almost 1 year since i loss my mum as well so i understand exactly how you are feeling :hugs:

I think for me the one of the hardest things is when everyone else starts to get over it, i feel like i cant tell anyone that I am still crying myself to sleep every night because i dont want to upset anyone

I might have to try and get a copy of that book too!

[JesLiz]

i lived with my dad and grandprents when i was a kid and i miss my nan and pop so much pop has been gone 11yrs and nan nearly 3

[HugsAndKisses]

:hugs: to all of you!

i havent lost my mum yet...but i know it is only a matter of time as she is very sick and has parkinsons disease also:( i know i will be a mess when she is gone even now sometimes i cry myself to sleep just thinking of her leaving me forever:crying:
also its hard sause im already losing her in a way to the parkinsons disease as it makes her mind not work properly and so its like she is changing alot...
i dred the day i'll lose her.....:(