19 single 30 weeks pregnant

[luckie_me]

Hi Im 19 single and 30 weeks pregnant! The Father Doesnt want anything to do with me or the baby! I have moved state now and not sure about what to do with the B/C.(if i should put him on it or not!) I dont want him in my babies life at ALL! He disapointed me and i dont want him to disapoint my baby aswell! To go with all this confusion, i just found out i have gestational diabetes!! hmm fun!

[katkz]

as a single mum of three i feel for you but as for the b/c i think that's something only you and the father can decide on. my three have their fathers name but i was with him for fifteen years. i hope you find the answer soon.

[Femme-Fetale]

oik well i was with my ex for near on 2 yrs when i fell preg and it was not ment to be possible (medically wise)
I would say dont give the child HIS last name if ur not togeother
PLs PM or MSN me if u want more detail, i dont want to get into my personal stuff here so soon, but am willing to share with those that need it, and from there its up to you. :fingerscrossed:

[MissSparkle]

Im not a single mum but my best friend is. Her partner left her when she was 12weeks prg and she was 17. He told her he wanted NOTHING to do with the baby or with her. She gave her baby her last name and left the fathers name off the birth cert. Hes now popped back into their lives and wants to be a daddy (the baby is 8months) but my friend says she doesnt regret not having him on the BC as she knows who he is and if her child wants to find his daddy she knows his details

[♥Heaven Sent♥]

HI there,
I dont really have any advice to give you about the B/C but about the gestational diabetes dont worry too much about it i am a full time diabetic type 2 and i have been fine i have a 1 yr old daughter and she's just as healthy as any other bub i know if not healthier.There is alot of help for diabetics when pregnant and the doctors look after you really well and you will probably get regular u/s checks for size of bub and etc.:hugs:

[angelickaren]

hi about your b/c i would say put him on because i was told when i had josh that if i didnt put the dad on it woud be hard to get passports and other stuff so i would put him on he made it so he should be reponsible for it also re chid support you will need that if you are going to collect it

[Mum2Lucas]

hi about your b/c i would say put him on because i was told when i had josh that if i didnt put the dad on it woud be hard to get passports and other stuff so i would put him on he made it so he should be reponsible for it also re chid support you will need that if you are going to collect it

its not that much harder to get a passport if the fathers not on the birth certificate. it just takes a few more weeks to get processed. i never put my sons father on the birth certificate because he never speaks to us and he has to sign it and if they wont sign it then theres not much you can do. and you can still get child support too. ultimately it is your decision though and only you know whats best.

[luckie_me]

oh ok i live on the gold coast and he lives in tassie and we wont speak to each other at all!! So what happens there? Whats does he have to sign? I dont think he'll sign anything! if he doesnt sign does that mean he dont have to pay for the child? I think he has talked him self into not being the father if that makes sence coz he want a DNA test done... I was very Faithful to him I'm shocked he would even ask for it!!
**MEGAN**

[jessi]

grrrr men!!

best of luck with this, I have no idea what id do!

[steph_alyssa]

i had the exact same problem, i'm 21 and single and have a 4 month baby alyssa. Her father wants a DNA test which we still haven't been able to do coz it's sooooo expensive. the forms they give you in hospital to send away for the birth certificate need to be signed by both parents, and he wouldn't so now my birth certificate says 'father - not stated'. but i don't think it matters coz by the time she needs her birth certificate for anything like getting a license or whatever she'll be old enough to understand why he's not on there. don't worry about it too much good luck with your pregnancy and enjoy your new little bundle! if you are anything like me you won't want to share her with an undeserving male anyway!
steph

[Mybaby]

Hi I'm a single mum to a 1 year old and my son's father isn't in our lives at all. If you don't want anything to do with the father then don't have him on birth certificate.If you do and If you want to go over seas then he will have to sign the paper's to allow you and your child to travel.He will have a say in everything with his name on the birth certificate.

It is not complusory to have the father sign the certificate but if you want to get child support and he says no then the courts will ask him to do a DNA test to prove he is the father then he will pay child support.

Goodluck

[loopi1]

I wrote this post for a thread asking for advice on the B/C. Luckieme check out a this thread it may help you.

I went thru this a few years ago. I wanted my son's father on the certificate for the reason of having his name. But the father did a runner the day I told him, tho I knew where he was he wouldn't see me or answer any of my calls. When my DS was born I left him a msg on his mob and I dropped around some photos of our son. A few weeks later I contacted CSA to claim maitenance, not to get at him or to punish him but I needed financial help or I wouldn't be able to look after the both of us anyway they asked me if I knew who the father was and I said yes, gave them his address and phone number etc... all I knew, and they came back to me saying he wanted DNA tests. I called Legal Aide (fantastic people) they told me wat I needed to do and say, So when he dragged me into court I was prepared and the judge ordered DNA tests. He was the father and tho our son was now 9mths old he had to backpay me from when I orginally applied for child support (when our son was 1mth old). He wouldn't sign the papers for the BC so when I recieved the certificate it had the fathers area blank. Because I knew and had proof who the father was. He wouldn't and still doesn't acknowledge his son. SO my boy has my surname which he shouldn't but noone can force his father to sign the paperwork.
Go thru CSA even if you don't want the money put it in the bank for the child, child support is there for a reason, it's there for the child not you.

I beleive in this situation always tell the truth, because it eventually comes back to bite you. Especially when your child asks you who his/her father is.

Anyone who is wanting or have to get a DNA Test go thru Legal Aide they are fantastic, if you know 100% that the father you suspect IS the father it wont cost you anything.

And to get the fathers name on the BC he Must sign the paperwork, so if he wont do it then you can not do anything about it. When I filled out my DS' BC paperwork I put down the fathers name but because he didn't sign it my son went under my name and the fathers area was blank.

[greatmum]

hey lucky me
i was the same as you when i was 19 i fell pregnant and the father wanted nothing to do with us and my son is now 4 and he still doesnt want to know us if you need to talk let me know i know you can get thru it like i have you come out the better person believe me from sarah

[foolish2]

hi hun i just turned 20 im 25+4days pregnant my bf and i are fighting and i think we will break up i have a 15mth old daughter to,i know it can be hard he isnt my duaghters dad as i was engadge before i meet him and her dad didnt want anything to do with her so i thought it was best as he destroyed my life i didnt want him doing it to her,she has only ever seen him once and she will never see him again,just do what you think is right cause a child will always love and need their mother

[debz]

I didn't know who my dad was, and I was much more settled once I worked it out. (even though I never bothered seeing him). I wish his name had been on the birth certificate.

It was a little scary because I actually went on a date with my cousin without realising it. Thankgod nothing happened!

Also, I think you ex should have to support the child financially. He might make more than you would get on welfare.

If he won't sign the certificate you may have to get a DNA test. If you don't put his name on it, it will seem as if you are admitting that you are unsure who the father is.

Good luck

[Will]

I have ds's dad on the birth cert.

If you do have him on there, he will need to sign the papers. If he doesnt sign it, you will need to get him to sign a stat dec to get him to pay child support, and if he also refuses that, then i think you can get a court order to get a dna test, but i would assume that costs a bit......

[singlepregnanthotty]

Hey,

Im 20 years old and 33 weeks pregnant with my first, im in the exactcly the same boat as you, I would love to talk to you further, my email address is amberjzarewicz@hotmail.com

Maybe we can help eachother out!!!

Hope all is going well with your pregnancy.

Amber
xx

[Sazeby]

Hi Im 19 single and 30 weeks pregnant! The Father Doesnt want anything to do with me or the baby! I have moved state now and not sure about what to do with the B/C.(if i should put him on it or not!) I dont want him in my babies life at ALL! He disapointed me and i dont want him to disapoint my baby aswell! To go with all this confusion, i just found out i have gestational diabetes!! hmm fun!

Same boat i was in almost 2 years ago. You don't have to put him on the BC especially if he isn't willing to cooperate.

[winner]

I'm in a similar situation and although all the info and support i have received is brilliant!! a lot of info contradicts itself so i'm even more confused cause i don't know what info is correct, and what isn't...

I've now passed my due date but when bubs does finally arrived my intention is to give baby MY last name however, i will be putting the fathers details down as the father. I know he will refuse to sign the B/C because he wants the child to have his last name in which case i will just write a dec. stating why he wouldn't sign. I want his name on the B/C because i don't ever want to deny my child the right to know who his father is and don't want to be seen as denying the father anything either. This is my plan but in the meantime i am seeking legal advice asap so as soon as i find anything out i will be sure to let you know...

[neostudded]

This post was made in 2006

[bec1008]

hahahahaha i was seriously going to post a reply then till i saw what neostudded wrote!!

Rofl that just made my day!
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