Becoming a new dad

[hp-mum]

Hi to the dads :wave:

My hubby and I are expecting our first bub in around 7 weeks and my DH is a little concerned about being afraid of the baby or not being able to connect with it.

He hears all the negative things about a new baby, like the sleepless nights etc but no one has really told him about the positives and the joy it is to be a new dad.

I was wondering if some of you could share a little bit of what you felt when you first saw your baby and what you do or did to bond?

Thanks in advance!

[LibranTwin]

Just letting you know that my hubby is feeling the same way. Whenever anyone asks how he is feeling he says that he hasn't got a connection with the baby. I just keep telling him to wait till it's born and it will be pretty much instant :)

I look forward to reading more replies to this thread!

[Xanthic]

Bubs love their dads. All 3 of mine happily slept in my arms from day 1. Your connection with your new baby is entirely dependant on you. Spend time with your bub and the connection will be there from the start.

The challenge: It's your responsibility as dad to became the master-burper! If bub has a sore tummy then bub will cry. If bub has a tummy full of milk or formula then bub will sleep for several hours at a time. Help out with feeding by doing the burping duty in the middle and end of a feed. This will help big time with bonding to your new baby and will help out mum. If you are going to be formula feeding then you can share the feeding and get more bonding time.

[hp-mum]

Thanks for the reply Jeff, I will get DH to read your post.

I'd love to hear some more! :)

[FarmerBlog]

I have bonded with both babies before they are born, but just talking to the "tummy" and also I like to shine a torch on the tummy as that always get's a good kick :D

But Xanthic said burping is also a good way to bond.. Another thing I did was not to use a pram, we purchased a baby pack and always carried him around in that and there is nothing better than to look down and see him sleep or look back at you and smile :yes:

[aje001]

It can be hard for the Dad to bond with the baby before it's born, as we're not the ones carrying it. Most of the bonding happens after the baby is born, when you're actually able to hold and cuddle and burp the baby.

I was lucky when my son was born. The doctor didn't want Leisa to feed him until the Pead had checked out his airway. It took about 3 hours or so for the doc to come in and check him out, so for about an hour and a half or so I was able to just sit there holding him.

[wayne]

hi all my wife and i are 5 1/2 weeks on.
I am happy to let all know and iam looking forward to being a dad

[aje001]

hi all my wife and i are 5 1/2 weeks on.
I am happy to let all know and iam looking forward to being a dadHi Wayne, good to hear. Let us all know how it's going, and if you have any questions dont hesitate to ask. Send me a PM if you want my email to chat later.

[dangerman]

I'm already teaching my son (its a boy, it has to be, no girl could ever come out of these 'nads!) how to avoid knives, nunchuks, spears and those sort of things by sticking pins into my wifes tummy & getting the kid to avoid them. When he grows a bit older & can kick back I'll show him the Inutero Roundhouse Kick (IUK) and maybe a couple of more punching moves. That should bond us well & teach him to fear me. I'm also planning on (once his born) taking him pig & roo shooting but not before he turns 2.

If its a girl, I'll be gettin a DNA test coz no way it aint mine.

[aje001]

I'm already teaching my son (its a boy, it has to be, no girl could ever come out of these 'nads!) how to avoid knives, nunchuks, spears and those sort of things by sticking pins into my wifes tummy & getting the kid to avoid them. When he grows a bit older & can kick back I'll show him the Inutero Roundhouse Kick (IUK) and maybe a couple of more punching moves. That should bond us well & teach him to fear me. I'm also planning on (once his born) taking him pig & roo shooting but not before he turns 2.

If its a girl, I'll be gettin a DNA test coz no way it aint mine.Lol, good work!

[MetalTechHead]

hi all my wife and i are 5 1/2 weeks on.
I am happy to let all know and iam looking forward to being a dad

I am sure you'll be fine..

There are a few of us blokes on here if you get a little stuck or want to know anything...

Like nearly everyone has echoed..The connection will be there when you look into bub's face for the first time and hold him or her in yer arms..

there is truly nothing better than that feeling..

All this time waiting for the new family member finally over..

"Well worth the wait" is a ridiculous understatement..

I am thinking of starting a petition to make the whole process about 8.5 months shorter..for everyone's sakes... of course, as long as the baby will be okay with that haha

[aje001]

I am thinking of starting a petition to make the whole process about 8.5 months shorter..for everyone's sakes... of course, as long as the baby will be okay with that hahaPut my name down on that one.... It's kinda like planning weddings... just get it all over and done with, so you can get on ith the fun times

[MetalTechHead]

haha precisely...