23mths bewteen boys

[laundrygirl]

My boys have 23 months bewteen them. They are 3yrs and 19mths old and as they get older I have to buy two of everything all it's a war. Most of the time play nice together until one wants what the other has. who's in the same boat? I'd like to hear what you do to keep them both happy

[Milly]

I would be interested to hear too. We will have 21 months between babies.

[jlrjyeboah]

Ha, Ha, I have that problem too. I have a 3 year old boy and a 17 month old boy. Everytime we go to McDonalds we have to get exactly the same meal, drink and toy otherwise there will be war. Most times they play really well together, until as you said one has something the other wants. The fun never stops :D . We are expecting a third boy mid october....should be very interesting.

[ali-oop]

Hi there,

I have 2 boys, with a (almost) 13 month gap. They are 2 and a half and nearly 17 months now. We are expecting our third boy in August, so there will be 19 month gap between the two youngest. It has been hard work but my husband and I feel that it is getting easier day by day- particularly as we get more organised! The two boys play well together and there was never any problems of jealously, as Declan can't really remember a time that Connor wasn't around. Hopefully once this little guy arrives, it will all continue!

[Emily's moocow]

I have a 19 month gap between my first two children and a 3 year gap between my second and third. My boys are pretty close always looking out for each other but typical boys also fight a lot. I dont think theres any jealousy between any of my kids as they were involved in the subsequent pregnancy and made to feel that they were just as important as the new baby. My boys have taken on a very protective role of their little sister (9 months) They enjoy playing together and yes when you go to the shop its two or sometimes three of whatever. As if the baby needs ice cream or a strawberry milk :D My advice try to spend some quality time with each child I know its hard but remember 5 minutes of Quality time :) is better than 30 minutes of just sitting near your children. :)



Teresa mum to Brock 51/2 Jacob 4 Emily 9 months

[Tamlee]

I have 4 children , a 7 year old daughter, a 5 year old son , a 3 year old son and a 2 year old son, there is nearly 2 years between them give or take a few months.
I haven't as yet found one way to keep them all happy besides buying them all the same things. My 7 year old and 5 year old got into the whole starwars thing, and wanted swords LOL, so I ended up buying them all foam swords (worked well) except I made one mistake and brought my daughter a blue and pink one and the boys green and yellow ones, now the boys want my daughters sword :D just can't keep them all happy :rolleyes: .
So my best advice is to buy the exact toy or what ever , write their names on it and that might keep em happy for a while LOL.
On the kids birthday's, I buy a little gift for all of them (the same thing of course) and the birthday child gets his or her normal amount of pressies. Kinda keeps it all running smoothly.
Anyway back to the orignal post. Yep I believe that making time for all children one at a time is great, my oldest enjoys horse riding so we ride together. My second loves motorbikes so we read about them, and whenever he rides his bike Im there with the digi cam and camera, and once he has finished riding we make movies etc. My three year old loves doing the house work LOL (I bet it won't last) but we do that together. And my 2 year old likes drawing so we draw together.
But everyday we read a book to our children, draw and do what they want but at different times LOL.
I have charts for everything else like computer/playstation time dvd time etc, they are each allowed different things on different days. And it works, I am amazed.
:cool:

[TwoBlue]

I would love to hear of tips from mums with boys and smaller gaps.
My son will be 20 months when our second boy is due.

Any great advise ? For after birth, adjusting time and afterwards when they are both moving around and playing....

Cheers

[kamckellar]

i have to buy 2 of everything with my twin daughters but try to get different colours.my boys are 20 months apart and for the last 2/3 years ive been buying them the same things.only because my younger son copied everything his brother did or wanted.now that younger son is nearly 5 he has finally broken away from his brothers influence and has his own tastes.nearly 7 yr old older son now dispises his brother having anything remotely similar.ive just done my xmas laybies and found that it was really easy to buy for my boys but my girls are another story.so i got 2 trikes,2 foldaway dollhouses,some more poponz for their collection but to buy something for them that is personally for themselves im stuck.

[3TinLids]

Hi, I am new to this but as I have 21 months between 2 eldest boys I thought I would respond. With most things I have to buy 2 of everything. However, as Will is getting close to starting school I am finding that he is less interested in some of the character items that Julian is interested in. Less interested in Thomas, Toy Story etc which Julian is still really interested in. Another thing to consider when buying 2 of the same item of clothing is that the 2nd child will probably wear that item down the track. Will they still be interested in wearing it? :p

Rebecca 33
Rob DH 36
Will 10/00
Julian 8/02
Ashley 12/04

[Terrible2+1cutie]

I have a 15 month gap between my boys, i love it, my boys are 23 months and 8 months old and since Bailey has been moving around its been a great joy to watch them interact. They play great, they are the best of friends, there are no fighting over toys just yet, blaze loves sharing his toys with his little brother. Sometimes it is hard when they both cry at the same time (anybody would think that they were twins in a past life) but i wouldn't change having them so close for anybody.

Catherine

[Melissa1983]

Hi
Well i have 12months and 2 weeks between my two girls. To begin with it was hard, now Mikayla is getting older she is starting to help, they have there fights sometimes i feel just put them in a ring and let them sort it out ;) My husband wants another baby. So i will be interested in hearing from anyone that has the same gap and has a third. My youngest is 2 in Dec.

[Tisme]

I have 20 months between my two eldest and due my next 25 months after the youngest. I agree it has been hard work, but the major part of the hard work is putting up with people saying "are you stupid having them so close" I find my son who is 3 and a half has taken on a real big brother role Most of the time. When his sister gets hurt (as all nearly 2 year olds do) he gives her a hug before I even hear her cry. Not to say that it isn't terrible, but i've learnt to step back from the fights unless they get violent. Hard to do, but I've found it well worth it ... they work it out have a whinge, get over it and continue playing all in a matter of minutes.
As for the arrival of bub 2 with a toddler my nurses gave me great advice .... don't tend to the baby while your toddler is visiting unless they need a feed. Make sure whoever brings toddler in knows this so that if baby cries THEY pick it up not you. This allows the toddler to not feel replaced.
Age old let them get the nappies, wipes etc when you get home ... but also make a big deal of babies sleep time being THEIR time with you. It runs you ragged for a week or so after hospital but I found it helped Ciaran accept Alana quicker and easier.

GOOD LUCK.

[pooh_bears_mum]

hi my son is 23 months old, but he will be 26 when my second sond is born, im expecting quite a bit of jealousy and im single, but living with my mum. can anyone give me any advice?

kelly :)

[Peaceangels]

My two boys are 15 months apart, now 2.5 and 16 months and we had a problem with the oldest snatching every toy the youngest tried to play with, then a war would start with me trying to get the toy back to the youngest (all day, every day), so I asked a professional!
I go to a playgroup run by a local TAFE Child Studies Teachers and I asked this question to one of the teachers.
She asked did oldest child get into trouble and I said yes and her reply was that he is using any behaviour (bad in this case) to get your attention and basically I needed to spend more "one on one" time with him (I took a gulp, held back the tears and thought to myself "Ness your not a bad mother" - just felt bad). She is a lovely lady and reassured me that this is normal behaviour!
Anyway, her advice was that it needed to be every day, even if it was a bedtime story or time alone with him while my youngest was sleeping. I have done this (most days) and the improvement in behaviour is amazing!
The other stategy she suggested was to start playing some sort of turn taking game (ie - using a puzzle) every day to teach them both to take turns and this would make things easier as they got older.

[lisa&boys]

Hi All
This is prob a old post, but could relate as my two older boys have 26mths apart. When they were alot younger they would have good days and bad days and still do.
Activity wise they practically did same really, we did walks, parks, home activities, swam, cooked, playdoughed, played cars til i use to dream about them, sandpit play aswell even painted.
Now they are 9 and 7 and get along so well its not funny, play lots of games and sport together, some days they lock themselves in one of their room so the younger one who is 3 yrs old turning 23 cant get to them as they are playing pc games , cards, playing what they have named and made up their "school game"....

All the best

Go the boys!!! lol


cheers

[lisa&boys]

I just read over other posts and saw asking about third child....I didnt find any difference to be honest, he settltes in like he has been here the whole time, does really well keeping up with the two older ones too I might add.....i would love some of his energy sometimes.

cheers