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Tam-I-Am
03-06-2008, 18:11
I can scarcely believe that this happened only 3 days ago - I feel so wonderful and Connor seems like he's always been a part of our little family!

I had been having pre-labour contractions since Tuesday 26th of May - in fact that day I was so convinced that I was in labour and so disappointed when it seemed to fizzle to nothing overnight. It meant that my parents took 3-year-old DD overnight and DH spent the rest of the week at home with me, however, which was really lovely. On Wednesday we decided to spend the afternoon at the movies before DD came home as it was clear that I wasn't in labour anymore. We went to see the new Indiana Jones movie in the Gold Class cinema and spent a lazy afternoon folding little baby clothes and nesting.

The rest of the week continued and I got a little more frustrated with every 'fake' contraction that I had. On Friday night, DH ordered a gourmet pizza for dinner from our favourite Italian restaurant for dinner and went to pick it up - however 10 minutes later called me from the supermarket car park to inform me that the LPG tank in his car was leaking and he'd had to call the fire department as it was too unsafe to drive. He was unsure about how long it would take, so I asked MIL (who lives next door) to come down and sit with DD whilst I went to pick up the pizza. I had to drive past the supermarket on my way to the restaurant – and there was DH’s car, surrounded by three fire engines, lights flashing and sirens blaring – my DH sure knows how to make a scene!

Anyway, after picking up the pizza, I stopped in the supermarket car park to find out how long my DH was going to be. The fire fighters were quite concerned when DH laughingly informed them that I was in labour – and they promptly offered to help deliver the baby right there in the car park :laughing:

I went home, DH following 10 minutes later, and after about ½ an hour called my lovely midwife Allison to inform her that contractions were coming every 2 minutes and were beginning to hurt enough for me to have to breathe through. Ally decided to come out to assess me and arrived at about 10:15pm. She stayed for about 2 hours, during which time we chatted about what was to come through the night. It was clear that I was in early labour only, and at about midnight, Ally and DH tucked me up in bed with instructions to call Ally again when I knew the time was right. Ally left saying that bub still had a little way to move down before labour would fully establish.

I didn’t manage to get to sleep – contractions were painful, although the regularity stopped to a great extent while I was lying down. At about 1am I got out of bed and lay face-down on my pregnancy bean bag on the couch. I dozed on-and-off between contractions for the next 2 hours, when I decided to try to sleep again. Getting back into bed, I last through 3 contractions only before they were really hurting – I wanted water and I wanted it now. I got out of bed and climbed into the shower, where I was feeling an ever-increasing need to vocalise through contractions. DH heard me and joined me in the bathroom after about 10 minutes at about 3:15am. He asked me if I wanted him to call Ally again – I said no, I didn’t think it was time…DH timed me through the next 3 contractions and told me that they were coming every minute or so and lasting 90 seconds – which was a big shock, as I had no idea they were that frequent or close! I agreed that it WAS probably time for Ally to be called. I also asked that DH start filling the birthing pool, which had been blown up in our loungeroom for the previous 3 weeks in anticipation. DH set to work

Ally arrived again at about 4am, just as I had gotten out of the shower as it was no longer helping. I bounced on a fit ball for a while, really working hard now and grunting through every contraction. Ally rubbed my back, got me a drink and told me how well I was doing while DH filled the pool. At about 5am I was able to get into the pool – HEAVEN! The contractions felt like they were one on top of the next now and the downward pressure in my pelvis was unbelievable! I alternated between frog-crouching against the side of the pool and semi-reclining on my back, all the while rotating my hips and grunting/groaning/yelling through contractions.

All through the night, DD had been asleep in her own bed, but when I started going into transition and screaming through contractions, she woke up – at about 6am. She was a little distressed by the noises I was making, so I made a BIG effort to curb my noise as DH rushed her past me on their way up to MIL’s house (this had been pre-arranged since we had been planning the homebirth). I smiled at DD and told her I loved her, and she seemed reassured. DH was gone a sum total of about 3 minutes – I’m sure he would have won world records for sprinting :D

DH returned and, as he had for the length of time I’d been in the pool, knelt behind me and took my hands. I was, by this time, roaring through every contraction and complaining of unbearable pressure. Ally and DH were just amazing – DH using his physical strength and emotional support to let me know that he was there and I was doing well, Ally using her voice and experience. At about 6:15am I lost all faith in myself for a little while, crying through 3 contractions that I couldn’t do it anymore and that I hadn’t been able to do it with DD so why did I think I could with this baby. Ally and DH calmed me, and refocused my energy and attention back to birthing my baby.

At 6:45am my membranes ruptured with an audible POP – and the relief was AMAZING – the pressure just all disappeared, at least until bub’s head descended onto my perineum. I ROARED through the 2 contractions for his head to come, and a 3rd for the rest of his body to be born – my bubba was here! I held bub to my chest, and had a look – I had a son! A beautiful baby boy! It took about a minute for him to cry, while DH and I just stared at each other and our beautiful baby in amazement and awe. DH couldn’t stop kissing me and stroking our son, and I couldn’t stop saying “I did it! Oh my god, I did it!”

I stayed in the water until the placenta came (18 minutes after bub made his way into the world), and then stepped out of the pool and was moved to the couch where bub and I enjoyed skin-to-skin cuddles, our first breastfeed, and I had a bit of breakfast – I was STARVING! :D

Connor Anthony was born at 6:52am on Saturday 31st of May, weighing 9lb 10oz (4.36kg), 53cm length and 34.5cm head circumference in a completely natural, completely drug-free, absolutely wonderful, exhilarating, beautiful, mind-blowing, home water birth.

Leeny
03-06-2008, 18:16
What a lovely story.. You done a super job :thumbsup: Congratulations again!

punkbaby
03-06-2008, 18:25
Congrats thanks for sharing!! You done awesome!

Mahjong
03-06-2008, 18:27
What an inspiring story Tam!

Congratualtions again on the birth of Connor.

Star81
03-06-2008, 18:29
Congratulations what an amazing story.

Pixie
03-06-2008, 18:30
Awww Tami that is lovely your DH sounds really great! I am very worried about your roaring lol

Welcome Connor!!!

V8
03-06-2008, 18:31
Congrats Tam, great story, you did it beautifully! Congrats on baby Connor! :yelclap:

Fuchsia!
03-06-2008, 18:31
Wow great job Tam :)

You done so well, congratulations on you beautiful bundle of blue joy. Its a beautiful birth story :)

Mamalicious
03-06-2008, 18:39
Congratulations!!! That was amazing to read. :yes:

Starlet
03-06-2008, 18:39
Wow, that brought tears to my eyes! You did an amazing job! Congrats!!!

TwoBlue
03-06-2008, 18:49
wonderful.. just wonderful :yelclap:

SalTheGal
03-06-2008, 18:49
OK, Tearing up a bit here, that was wonderful- what you have done is truly amazing and such an acheivement- Tam you should be so so proud of yourself, we are all proud of you! :hugs::hugs:

Welcome again Connor- what a beautiful BIG bubba!! :cloud9:

Percy
03-06-2008, 18:50
What a fantastic story Tami. Congratulations again, I am so happy for you:hugs:

KarniF00l
03-06-2008, 18:53
Goodness Tam you are a very inspiring woman. Reading that was like I was there with you :laughing: and yup a tear or two shed also. Congratulations again, YOU DID IT!!! :smiliedance:

~Emmylou~
03-06-2008, 18:53
Wow that made me smile! Congratulations Tam and family, what a beautiful story.

Emi
03-06-2008, 18:59
wow what a truely inspiring story!!!

congrats you did a fab job on bring your little man into the world!!!

glad to hear everything went well!!!

veve
03-06-2008, 19:14
aww Tam .. goosebumps :D ...

(btw .. Jamie said he can imagine you roaring - said you have a big mouth!!! :laughing: tsk he is horrid) ..

a truly beautiful birth .. I cant wait to meet your little man

xx
Jen

emmwill
03-06-2008, 19:17
Congrats. That was such a well written account I could actually see it. And your description of the relief when your waters broke brought back memories.

mumx3littlies
03-06-2008, 19:18
Wow what a fantastic birth story:yelclap:Well done and a big congratulations to you and your family on the arrival of Connor:)

Sammilee
03-06-2008, 19:30
Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful birth story. You did a top job :thumbsup:. Congrats and of course welcome lil' (or should we say big :D) :babydust2: Connor Anthony :babydust2:

moonblossom
03-06-2008, 19:40
ABSOLUTELY beautiful Tam, congratulations to you and your family, truly beautiful to read.

kateyb9
03-06-2008, 19:47
What an inspiring story! :)
Huge congratulations, you did so well!

SilverStarfish
03-06-2008, 19:51
Well... each to their own, hey?

I still think you're slightly nuts :p but I wanted to send you a huge :hugs: and loads and loads of congratulations for birthing your baby the way you wanted to. You're an amazing mum!

p.s did you get to use Jen's present? :o

RaryGirl
03-06-2008, 20:11
WOW! That is so beautiful ... you've made me cry!

MrsMiggins
03-06-2008, 20:24
Oh Tami!!!! :hugs: I am so happy for you & your family!!!!

Thank you so much for sharing your intense & beautiful story with us all!!! I have goose bumps & a big lump in my throat (ooh! and now tears in my eyes!!)

I laughed at the bit about the fire trucks & firemen!!! What a great story to have!!! :D

Oh how I truly wish you lived closer right now!!!

~*clairesmum*~
03-06-2008, 20:46
wat a great birth u had congrats hun

welcome to the world connor anthony:yelclap:

rynosmum
03-06-2008, 20:57
How the heck did I miss the announcement of the birth of your wonderful boy?!?

Congratulations Tami:hugs: I remember many late night skype chats when we couldn't have been further away from where we both are today. If only we had known then what May 2008 would bring to us both :valentine:

Congratulations on the safe arrival of your gorgeous boy and for the amazing home birth experience - he's such a big boy too - what a mammoth effort - well done!!!:yelclap:

Mariposa
03-06-2008, 21:03
congrats again Tami :hugs:

lotti
03-06-2008, 21:09
Congratulations! What an awesome birth story! :)

Ashleigh<3
03-06-2008, 21:51
Congratulations on the birth of your DS. :bee:

You did such an awesome job! :yelclap:

I hope you're recovering well. :)

Shakey
03-06-2008, 21:57
Congratulations again Tam, what a wonderfull birth story :yelclap:

only1mica
04-06-2008, 08:04
Beautiful Tam!
Congrats on your little 'big' man ;)

~mia&ryan~
04-06-2008, 09:11
Wow what an amazing birth story!!! Gave me goosebumps!!:goodvibes::goodvibes:

Samaras Mummy
04-06-2008, 09:44
Congratz whats a lovely story....Welcome Connor :)

poshBecks
04-06-2008, 09:52
Lovely Tami. Just lovely :hugs:

GeorgiaAnne
04-06-2008, 12:26
Congratulations :yelclap: What an inspiring story!

Chickadee
04-06-2008, 13:08
Wow wow wow. Amazing Tami!

reAllytee
04-06-2008, 19:16
Tami what an amazing story !

You did it alright :D:yelclap:

Welcome earthside little man :goodvibes:

Funkychicken
04-06-2008, 19:18
Oh, Tami, what a beautiful experience you have had.

You did it, you really did it you clever girl! :yelclap:

I hope you guys are all snug and warm at home in this winter cold and soaking up the beautiful vibes of your newborn baby boy.

Can't wait to meet him!

:goodvibes::goodvibes::goodvibes::goodvibes:

DoulaRobyn
04-06-2008, 19:25
Congratulations on your roaring homebirth Tami - you did it alright! Good on you and best wishes to your beautiful boy!

toni796
05-06-2008, 08:54
How amazing. Congratulations again on your beautiful bubba boy.

Tam-I-Am
05-06-2008, 09:03
Thank you for all the good wishes and lovely congratulations!

Its been a bit of a rollercoaster ride (as I'm sure it is for everybody with a new baby!) over the last couple of days...lots of smiles and giggles and a few emotional moments interspersed! But all's well overall, and Connor is just gorgeous!

Anyway...to answer a few of the questions/comments in this thread:


(btw .. Jamie said he can imagine you roaring - said you have a big mouth!!! tsk he is horrid) ..

He IS horrid. Pots and kettles come to mind, anyway :laughing:


p.s did you get to use Jen's present?

No, unfortunately! LOL! I HAD been planning to get a funny photo with the beachball and floaties - but as it turned out, there was no time!


I laughed at the bit about the fire trucks & firemen!!! What a great story to have!!! :D

Definitely one to tell at his 21st!



Congratulations Tami:hugs: I remember many late night skype chats when we couldn't have been further away from where we both are today. If only we had known then what May 2008 would bring to us both.

Congratulations on the safe arrival of your gorgeous boy and for the amazing home birth experience - he's such a big boy too - what a mammoth effort - well done!!!

Thank you, gorgeous friend - I couldn't be happier for you either. Siana and Connor are such blessings :hugs:


I hope you're recovering well.

I am, really well, thank you! Surprisingly well, actually (and it doesn't hurt at ALL that I weigh less now than I did when I fell pregnant - bonus! :D



I hope you guys are all snug and warm at home in this winter cold and soaking up the beautiful vibes of your newborn baby boy.

Thank you - and we certainly are...the wood fire has been roaring and its all snuggly inside!

Thank you again, everyone!

misskittyfantastico
05-06-2008, 19:30
What a splendiferous birth story, Tam...what a splendiferous BIRTH!!
I could not be happier for you, lovely one. Enjoy your beautiful family :hugs: :hugs:

Toes
05-06-2008, 19:54
Wow, what a beautiful birth story! Congratulations, you must be so proud!! :yelclap:

HoopDeeDoo
05-06-2008, 23:10
What a fantastic birth!

Congratulations - you did so well! :yelclap:

2sweetgirls
05-06-2008, 23:33
:bee:oh what a beautiful birth story...:crying:

WELL DONE... YOU DID IT, YOU DID IT!

welcome bubba boy

0BleSseD0
06-06-2008, 11:00
Oh wow I have chills!

That was such a sweet story. Congratulations Tam, and congratulations Connor and Claire... who are now siblings! Yay! :smiliedance:

:yelclap: Well done!! :yelclap:

mixy
06-06-2008, 14:39
wow, congrats again, what a beautiful birth story!

red crayon
12-06-2008, 14:30
Ah, Tami, I'm coming in late, late, late as always.

CONGRATULATIONS!! Both on your amazing home birth and on the arrival of Connor. You must be feeling like nothing is unconquerable :flowerz:

Tam-I-Am
13-06-2008, 21:20
Thanks everyone :)

RC - I've felt a bit like superwoman since the day Connor was born - it has given me an unbelievable sense of awe in the human body and all its capabilities - and in my own ability to birth my bub without drugs - something I was never quite sure whether I could believe I'd be able to do!

AnD05
14-06-2008, 20:29
:yelclap: Wow, your story bought back many lovely memories. Well done, what an amazing job you did!!! :goodvibes:

Hokey Pokey
20-06-2008, 11:58
Congratulations!!

Tam-I-Am
31-05-2011, 10:49
Happy 3rd birthday to my little man today :) It's a very nostalgic day, remembering what we were doing at this time 3 years ago (We were both asleep, curled up together, at this time 3 years ago if anyone's interested. Sounds like heaven now and I wish I didn't have to go back to work so I could do the same today!) :p

FloatingFairy
31-05-2011, 11:09
Ohhh congratulations!!!!!!!! What a wonderful birth story :)
For a second there I thought it was going to be a fireman-delivered baby hehe that would've been interesting :)

ETA: HAHAHA OK So clearly I didnt check the date of this thead :P

happy birthday little dude