Would you sign a pre-nup?

[A Party of Five]

Let me know what you think ladies, I am married and haven't signed one but that being said both I and my DH start on level ground when we got married. I personally however feel that it shows lack of trust in your relationship and told DH as much and he totally agreed with me.

Anyway this is not to make anyone feel bad about their decision just out of curiosity!

[cocobambino]

Are you bored YM:laughing::laughing::laughing:

[Hokey Pokey]

Nope don't have one and don't want one either.

[sockstealingpoltergeist]

No I wouldn't- people shouldn't go into it thinking of the what ifs- dooms it from the start.
However if I had a lot of money and allready had children I would want them protected so that no one could steal their home away etc etc. I can understand it in that case.

[missie_mack]

PreNups aren't legally binding in Australia however they may be taken into consideration should the couple divorce without having had children.

In theory I believe that a person should be able to take away what they came with anyhow, based on it being in the same condition it was in when they came together.

However most things are improved after the beginning of the relationship and wages are invested into the item and in those cases I don't find them fair :no:

I probably wouldn't sign a prenup just have a mutual agreement. By making the agreement legal it shows a lack of trust in the partner and a doubt that the marriage would last- and if that is there I have to wonder why anyone would be marrying in the first place :confused:

[JATS]

I'm married and haven't but can't say I wouldn't...

DH and I had nothing when we moved in together, everything we have we worked for together.

However if I hadn't met someone so young, if I had say spent 10+ years working and building wealth and THEN had met someone who had little or nothing or even roles reversed, If I'd met someone who had everything and I had nothing I don't know...

Part of me says I wouldn't marry them if I or they felt the need to sign a pre-nup but part of me says it's ok and even smart to protect yourself because you just never know, and you can't wait forever for the perfect person to show up on your doorstep! Any marriage is a leap of faith...

I'm pretty sure I wouldn't but I can't write it off, too complicated.

[A Party of Five]

Are you bored YM:laughing::laughing::laughing:

Trying to kept my mind of other things :(

[shed]

Yes, I would sign one. I would make sure I was happy with it of course and then I don't see the problem.

We aren't having one because we don't really feel the need for it, but I would definitely come out of a divorce better off than DP anyway, its him that is the reason we have what we have. I came in with nothing :o.

So if he doesn't want one then neither do I ;)

[~*clairesmum*~]

i agree with u yummy mummy of 5, it does show lack of trust in ur partner n dooms the marriage from the start

[Chunkydunks]

It would be a huge waste of time in this house. Before we even got married everything we had belonged to both of us. We bought it with OUR money. Neither of us had anything left from pre-together life.

[JenL]

I think if one person comes into the relationship with more weath than the other, then a pre-nup or contract is essential. But if the weath is built during the relationship then I wouldn't feel the need.

[Mamalicious]

No, we don't need one. :)

[tootiredtosleep]

My Dh only bought debt into our relationship and I was debt free but didn't have alot, so we wouldn't have anything to put into one anyway!

But, if things were different, yes I would sign one. I wouldn't marry for money.

[Benji]

After what I went through with my X, I trust no one.

If I was to ever get married, I would sign one.

I don't really own anything of any value, maybe my car, but I can't afford to lose it all again.

I bought everything that XDP and I owned, the only thing he ever contributed was paying for his smokes, beer and petrol and clothes (his own - never bought anything for DS either).

He decided that he would make life a living hell for me unless I gave him everything :( and I did :( but thankfully got to keep my car.

I am not going through that again - sleeping on the floor is not fun.

[lovebeingamum!]

I can see alot of different points with this question.

I understand that things change down the track... and also what you've worked hard for should always be to your benefit.

However, I also believe that a womens work in the home is just as valuable as the monetary work a hubby does (or other way around)

Hard question, would really depend on circumstances... esp if its like, you dads dad money or something too...

[Kazamataz]

I would in certain situations.

I personally think they are a ridiculous thing.
Your meant to be saying your vows for life!

However I don't a heap of money or a large amount of assets.

If I was marrying a man who had a lot of money or a lot of assets and those close to him (family/friends) suggested that he sign a pre-nup then I would do it to put their minds at rest.

But only if he wasn't pushing it, I would want him to be thinking this was a for life commitment.

I understand how hard it is for friends and family to sometimes accept new people.
Esp if one person was rich and the other was poor.

I would totally get their concerns if they were within reason.

Did that make sense?

[QTB]

i agree with u yummy mummy of 5, it does show lack of trust in ur partner n dooms the marriage from the start

:iagree: :yes:

[TeamAwesome]

I havent and automatically think hell to the no would I but, then I thought about it and realised the only situation I might possibly sign one would be if my DH was to die leaving us with a magic fortune (as in it appeared over night, lol) and then I remarried down the track I would ensure that my children would be the ones to have access to the money and any other assets left by their father not a future DH. I hope that makes sense. I guess that really as I don't believe in divorce it would actually need to be a will thing but yeah that's my hypothetical reason as to why I would.