Did you keep your maiden name? [Archive] - Bub Hub Pregnancy & Parenting Forum

~Bec~

31-05-2008, 12:10

I kept my maiden name ('cos I was still a 'maiden' when I got married ;) ) but reserved the right to change it when/if we had children. We got a divorce instead :p

I'll be changing my name when I marry DF. I get a bit of confusion with my surname and DF's is straight forward so I'll be looking forward to not having to repeat myself all the time and getting it mis-spelt.

BB78

31-05-2008, 12:14

I changed mine which I am still trying to get used to (only got married on the 4th may) and I hate his surname its awful... which he knows I hate. It just feels odd as our son and I now have the same surname but my twins has my name (as i was a single mum for 5yrs with the twins) im still waiting for the paper work to arrive and then I have the long chore of changing everything that has my maiden name on it :rolleyes: bah.
I did want to keep my maiden name but my DH really wanted me to have his name.

Hokey Pokey

31-05-2008, 12:22

Nope wasn't a big change though, went from a mc*** to a mc*****.

shed

31-05-2008, 12:24

I am getting married in a couple of weeks and I am definitely taking DP's surname.

I really like his surname and I really hate mine, its got stuff-all to do with conforming or tradition and everything to do with the fact that I just loike it! :laughing:

I can't wait!

TeamAwesome

31-05-2008, 12:28

You bet I changed it, got me away from being asociated with the crazies I mean family:laughing:

JATS

31-05-2008, 12:35

~*clairesmum*~

31-05-2008, 12:40

well i couldnt vote as im not married yet but in about 5wks i will be, im changing my name cause its an old fashion thing to do plus i want the same last name as claire and dp, also my dps last name is not that common n i hate my last name lol as it has my dads n mums last name joint.

but my brother has decided when he marrys his girlfriend hes changeing it to her last name as he likes it better then our name too...

Chunkydunks

31-05-2008, 12:45

You bet I changed it, got me away from being asociated with the crazies I mean family:laughing:

I like this one:laughing::laughing:

I changed my name. Didn't want to be known as my fathers child anymore. I'm so glad I did cos if I moved down here with that surname EVERYONE would know me. No thanks.

TeamAwesome

31-05-2008, 13:47

I never got the 'official' marriage certificate, just the one the minister gave us and you need the 'proper' one to get your license changed. Been married over 4 yrs now, anything that can be changed without the proper one is changed, what can't be isn't.

It gets confusing and annoying, :no: I'd like to get it changed on everything ASAP.

This rule came in in QLD around the time I got married (I married FEB 04 not too sure when the rule came in) and I managed to some how only get people who said "I shouldn't be taking it from this but I will anyway as it's a new rule", lol.I had a friend who got married Nov 04 and they were so much stricter on her and my SIL who got married Mar 05 and they btoh complained how it had changed.

I'm going to eventually get around to ordering an official one with a pretty one to put on our walls with the kids pretty birth certificates. but that involves going to see a JP and well with 3 littlies I just keep having things come up... I've even had a PDF of the form saved on my computer for about a year now.:laughing:

Kirsty - glad someone liked it. :laughing:

JATS

31-05-2008, 14:41

This rule came in in QLD around the time I got married (I married FEB 04 not too sure when the rule came in) and I managed to some how only get people who said "I shouldn't be taking it from this but I will anyway as it's a new rule", lol.

I got married in NSW in December '03 and it was already in action here. :confused:

Mamalicious

31-05-2008, 19:12

I still have my maiden name but I'll be changing it once I get round to it.

I want to do it legally, so it will cost $150. :rolleyes:

Chunkydunks

31-05-2008, 19:14

if you have a wedding certificate and decided to take your DH's name it is legal. There are certain times when you do have to pay for it but its rare

studyingECS

31-05-2008, 19:18

My mum added my dad's name to hers.

lovebeingamum!

31-05-2008, 19:27

Yeah... conforming to the masses or not, I wanted to get married and take his name!! :yes:

We decided to pro-create, and I wanted our children to have his name, and I wanted us all to have the same name..... therefore we got married. I kinda only got married to take his name :laughing:

I miss my maiden name sometimes... esp when my dad's pet name is a shortening of it - Macca. But he still calls me that, and I'll always be a Macca :D

Mamalicious

31-05-2008, 19:31

if you have a wedding certificate and decided to take your DH's name it is legal. There are certain times when you do have to pay for it but its rare

I'm in NZ. :) I can do it that way but I just haven't gotten round to it. I was going to do it as a temporary thing but now I'm moving so not much point.

I want it done properly, plus I would have to change my passport anyway which isn't due for another 3 years.

kas3

31-05-2008, 22:05

I changed my name to DH's. I like having the same surname, especially now we're expecting a baby together. We did consider combining our names - not hyphenating it, but using the first four letters from my maiden name, and the last four letters from his surname, to make a new name - but it would have been an added hassle and we're both pretty lazy ppl :laughing:

SilverStarfish

31-05-2008, 22:13

I ticked the last one, though technically it's not true. I used a hyphen, but DH and the girls don't.

I liked my maiden name. I kept it because there's a good chance that it will die out with my generation - I mean, I know it's not like I'm passing it on or anything, but I wanted to keep it. Sentimental reasons, I guess :)

MyLittlePrincess

03-06-2008, 10:49

I changed my name but still end up signing my old initals for work related issues!! I miss my old surname starting from an 'A' down to a 'V' mind you now my surname is TOO common i wish i kept my original surname but i think the inlaws wont be inpressed!:laughing:

Pina Colada

03-06-2008, 11:15

You can legally be known as your maiden name and your married name - you don't have to be one or the other - they are both legal names.

I know a lot of people who kept their maiden name for their profession and married name for personal life.

Although, I can imagine it is confusing :)

~mia&ryan~

03-06-2008, 14:08

Nope I took DH's name, couldn't imagine doing it an other way.

bissym

03-06-2008, 14:40

I changed my name when I got married the first time. It was such a pain changing everything over (and then back again when we split).
This time I'm keeping my maiden name as I'm extremely proud of my family. My DF understands this and so does his family (he hasn't been on speaking terms with his father for 15yrs and so has no ties to his surname). Our DD has both our surnames hypenated and we may both change to this aswell. It may sound confusing but it isn't really.
Only a couple of male friends/ family are annoyed at this but that's because they're very traditional and when they have argued that it's wrong we just say "well it's right for our little family".

Herchy

03-06-2008, 14:42

I will be changing my name when DF and I get married.
Then DS will have the same last name as I.:)
It's one tradition that I want to follow:)

SassyMummy

03-06-2008, 15:28

I'm not married, nor am I engaged... but I do think about it.

I think I'd like to hypenate my name despite the fact my name would be like this:

Stacey ****** ** ******** - *********

:laughing: I'm using the surname of the guy I am seeing, but I mean, marriage is a LOOOOOOONG way off... but you know, just for example (his name is hte 2nd part).

Pretty long bloody name.

Meh. I'd do it. I kinda like my last name.

jag5000

03-06-2008, 16:10

yeah, I have kept my maiden name... I was going to hyphenate, just to please my DH, but it's sooooo long (I know where you are coming from stacey!)

we are a confusing little family - my DH and I split up before our DD was born, so I gave her my maiden name, we got back together and only got married 1 year ago (as of next week actually :) - my DH wanted to give our son his name, so he has it

so long story short - the girls (me and DD) have my name, the boys (DH and DS) have his name

(oh and the pets are hyphenated LOL)

A Party of Five

03-06-2008, 17:37

Nope wasn't a big change though, went from a mc*** to a mc*****.

I was a McC***** :bee:

toni796

03-06-2008, 18:04

I was very happy to take on DH name.

JellybeanLOVER

03-06-2008, 18:15

I changed to DH's name. And couldn't wait to do it:)

lilBoofD

03-06-2008, 18:27

I changed my name. We already had DD when we got married and she had his name, so I wanted us all the same.

WorkingClassMum

03-06-2008, 18:44

We're not married - so I have my maiden name

I couldn'y hyphenate our last names - we'd sound like a metal company!

BTW - 4YO DD frequently says she wants my maiden name so she's the same as mummy:confused:

Lastcenturymum

03-06-2008, 18:50

No. I just wanted to take his name and had no issues with it. It wasn't such a big deal when I got married about all that 'losing your individuality stuff'. I am still me, it's only a name, doesn't change who you are and saves a lot of hassle with kids names and documentation. Plus I didn't like my maiden name much, kids could make too much fun of it:D

chameleon

04-06-2008, 22:21

I took DH's name. I love his last name. It's really unusual and no one can pronounce it:laughing: My maiden name was boring and easy to pronounce so I like the change!:D

Nex

05-06-2008, 06:52

No, I kept my name for a couple of reasons.

1) it's MY name. I had it for a long time before I met him!
2) he doesn't own me.
3) my SIL and I share our first name, so to avoid confusion we both agreed to keep our original names when we married.

The only way I was going to agree to a name change was if we BOTH changed our surname...and he wasn't about to do that!

My daughter has his surname though. Living in a small town it's just easier for her to be known by a recognised local name.

subaruforestermum

05-06-2008, 07:00

I dont know what I want to do yet.....

I love my family, and what their names represents to me, yet I love DF and he will be my 'new' family...along with DS...

If we didnt have a child, we were going to both change our last names to something different, but because of DS he has DF's last name only(something my family werent happy with)..

I guess I have until next year to decide... I told DF I didnt want to take it, and he said that he didnt want us to bother getting married, cos then nothing has changed at all...

I dont know..... My last name isnt really my last name, its mum's last name which I switched to due to domestic violence as a kid..to try and hide..... And then the name I was born under was a false name anyway, as they changed their name when they came over here so they wouldnt be discriminated against for being German.....although they did change it legally....

Can you tell I'm confused at what to do??? lol

Rainbowbrite

05-06-2008, 08:33

I couldn't get rid of mine fast enough!!

forbetoel

05-06-2008, 08:37

No. I didn't even think twice about changing my name. I was happy to have my husbands name. I am also happy to have the same surname as my kids.

And no, I don't think my husband own me. It is just a name, it has nothing to do with power or ownership. It has everything to with us as a united couple, and we are happy with that.

Newhopekte

05-06-2008, 08:53

Well my DH & joioned both of our surnames together .. it sounds quite nice actually .. very posh .... :laughing: nah but he originally wanted to have my last name but i wanted his aswell.( also I did love mine too ) . so we came to an agreement & joined the 2 together .. I love it as he has my surname aswell as his own so we couldnt be happier .. so maybe if it sounds nice together if your stuck in what to do join them together ... best of both worlds that way :D
Good luck ...

mrsmamo

05-06-2008, 09:03

I changed my surname while i was still on holidays after our honeymoon :) :yes:

I always thought, im not sure if im going to keep my name as there were all girls and the name was to finish with us - although my nephew still has my maiden name (my sis was single when she had him).

I always thought, its just a name im still me - after i changed it though, a few months later i started to feel as if i was trapped and i was now viewed by everyone as someone else etc etc - just be having an internal meltdown - i soon got over it though and cant wait for Baby Mamo to join us :)

Yummy_Mummy

05-06-2008, 09:36

i am changing my surname to my fiancees..its an uncommon surname & i feel lucky to be able to have a part of the spanish heritage :)

bissym

07-06-2008, 10:37

Newhopekte, did your DH change his last name via depol (?) and was it difficult? or cost a lot?

Threadkiller

08-06-2008, 13:50

nope didnt keep mylast name

frayzlilso

08-06-2008, 13:54

I did, but really wished I hadnt. And now my DD has a different surname to mine, and I'm wanting to hyphen mine onto it ... but that's a whole other story.

I resented losing my identity.

I am THRILLED I have it back:smiliedance:

MummaFug

10-06-2008, 09:57

I kept my maiden name and Hubby also uses it.
He changed his name as he is not close to his father and it had no real meaning for him anymore.

xxSerendipityxx

12-06-2008, 10:50

I have numerous reasons for adopting my husband's surname, but the main one is because I wanted to have the same surname as our kids when they start arriving, for a sense of "family"...
Also, I had a hyphenated name from my Mum's marriage to my father and because my father left us at a young age, I grew to hate my name... so it gave me an escape from that.