Should I go solo when I dont know the bride+groom?

[MilkOnTap]

A guy from hubby's ship has invited us to his wedding - which we RSVP'ed to saying we could come. Hubby has been crash-posted now, so wont be here anymore. There are about 3 or 4 couples who have been invited who will be affected by the crash-posting.

I have only met the bride+groom once - and that was at their engagement party. I was looking forward to the wedding - we were going to get a babysitter and have a really nice night out. But now with hubby away, I just dont feel like I should be going on my own when I dont know the bride+groom from a bar of soap - nor anyone else who will be there.

Would you go? How would you let them know that you wont be attending??

[meggs]

Hey there,
What a dilemma! Can you go with another partner of someone who is away like your partner?

Maybe you can just say that you cant get a babysitter? Or just go to the ceremony??

I would be hesitant to go too if I didnt know anyone....Im sure they wouldnt mind if you didnt go they might be able to invite someone else in your place...

[QTB]

i would go to the ceremony, say congrats afterwards then leave, i wouldnt want to sit thru the reception not knowing anyone, it would feel a bit awkward i imagine.

at least going to the ceremony and saying congrats you have made an effort :)

[susmamma]

I'd keep the babysitter booked, ditch the wedding and head out for a night with a friend (or a few friends)!!

Personally - it would be too wierd for me to attend a wedding under those circumstances, but why waste a planned night out ay???

Put on the frock you were going to wear and go kick up your heels!

And just send them a little card in the mail saying you'll politely have to decline the wedding due to unforseen circumstances, deepest apologies but....

Useless husband gone awol...
Gone looking for him.
If not back in 12 months, send search party.
Have a great day.
Sorry to miss it.

:D

[JenL]

Do you know any of the other women who will be alone? Even if you don't maybe call them and see if you can go together.

I think it's rude not to turn up. Weddings are not cheap and I am sure the bride and groom would appreciate a phone call to say you are unable to attend or that you will be attending alone. :)

Or the other option is to call and tell them you really would love to come and is it ok if you bring a GF instead.

[SassyDiva]

No I wouldn't go to the wedding solo if I didn't know anyone.