Keeping the spice...

[gnagflow]

Just wondering how everybody keeps the spice in their relationships when ttc.

We try to keep it spontaneous but when you say things like "I'm in the zone so it's on from now until ...", it kind of kills the mood and we're running out of characters!:o

If only everybody was ttc at the beginning of a relationship when all you want to do is jump each others bones!:hugs:

[twitch]

:laughing: I know the feeling! I dunno what you can do, it does get tough when it's all "in order to" but as long as you keep the lines of communication open and talk to each other about it, maybe have a bit of a joke about it, that seems to help us a bit. Sorry I'm not much help am I!?! :laughing:

[QTB]

we were ttc DS1 for 2 years, and we felt exactly like you do now! TMI coming up!!

so with DS2 (who took 19 months ttc) i desided we would only have spontanious sex, for fun when we both felt like it. if i was ovulating (i didnt ovulate often but always knew when i was due to ov pains!) i wouldnt tell DH, i would just get him worked up and pretend it was spontanious, and tell him afterwards when i put my bum up on pillows :laughing: he told me he found it much better as he wasnt "expected to perform" :)

[gnagflow]

:laughing:I'm glad I'm not alone.

I have tried the "just getting him worked up" method but now he's a bit more in tune with me, he knows what I'm up to.

Now we try to make it fun and joke about ourselves and the situation but sometimes he must just feel like a sperm-machine!

[ringneck]

we play games, and i have a lot of sexy lingerie, it helps though that we have sex all through the cycle not just when i o.

[wakydoo]

I hear ya hun!! We are only in our first month of trying and it's just not happening for us...I think it's the pressure of being 'expected to perform' on DH's behalf...looks like it is quite common though, which is comforting to hear...but...how do we get thru just the next couple of days??? :confused: I need help...and some more tips, cos nothing I'm doing is working.:no:

[LittleMissyMoo]

This is a great thread :laughing:
I think exploring is a great way to keep things revved up. Go to an adult shop and each choose a toy or video or game (whatever you fancy). They have a huge range of things that aren't necessarily over the top. The take turns in trying out your new purchases, it'll be fun and something new.

[xxkristyxx]

As crazy and as hard as this advice may seem.. you need to just RELAX and just enjoy the whole process.. dont put too much pressure on yourselves and really just trust that it WILL happen when the time is right! :goodvibes:

Enjoy your partner, enjoy ur time together and enjoy making love.. It seems in alot of womens case that when they are stewing over when they are going to get pregnant that it takes forever to happen, but when u relax it just "happens" and its such a pleasant surprise! (I know, coz this happened to me!) hehe.:cloud9:

Take care, all the very est of luck hunni!!!:babydust2: