help with trying to fall pregnant

[maybe1more]

Hi all my name is jenny im 26 and have a son Connor 14/07/03. ive been trying for 3 months for bub #2 and havent had any luck as yet. I have heard to help to fall pregnate you should do the Wild Thing twice in the same night/day to increase chance, thats all good and well but my partner falls asleep after the first round, let alone another round! I also heard that afterwards of laying down for a least 10 minutes to "bake" the cervix. Does anyone know the tricks of the trade? I will be gratefull for any info as i dont want a big gap in my kids and would also love a daughter, not that it really matters i would just be thrill to be excpecting again. :D

[Moorish]

Hi Jenny,

Can I recommend you buy the latest issue of Mother & Baby mag (June/July) (it's like my baby bible!! :D ).
They have a great article on 10 conception theories exploded!

One thing inparticular was they explored the idea of how diet can increase chances of having a boy/girl with a dies hight in potassium & sodium eg bananas, spicy & salty food & red meat for a boy OR a diet of calcium and magnesium rich foods like milk, cheese, fish, rice & nuts for conceiving a girl.

Also, don't stess too much about falling pregnant as it's been proven that it's easier to fall pregnant the second time around. We found that with our first child I had ovulated on day 7 of my cycle, 2nd child was on day 14 (roughly) and my current pregnancy was day 7 again, so in relation to 'doing it' twice in one night, I say just do it whenever you can get your part up to it! (Don't worry, I'm in the same boat, I'm always more interested in round 2 because round one just seems like a warm up!!! :D

As for tricks, anything that involves a 'deeper' experience might help as it gives all those swimmers a little head start! Also, 'girl' swimmers are larger and live longer but 'boy'swimmers swim faster so they've got more chance of winning the race! So having a little fun a day or two before you ovulate (if you know when that is) is probably more likely to result in a girl if you fall pregnant.

Hope these tips help!
Anna.

[maybe1more]

Thanks anna i appreciate your advice, the only problem i have is i dont know about ovulation is this the pains u get before a period? I heard your supose to take your tempture at the same time every morning and chart it , then when you have a rise in tempature it means your ovulating! I confuse with it all. :confused:

[angcaltam]

Hi Jenny,
Try looking it up on the net. Type in something like "how to choose the sex of your baby".
It should bring back something that could help you. I'm trying for a girl and the way I found when I was ovualting was the CM.
Good luck with everything and keep us up to date on how you are going.
My periods are due on Sunday and I'm hoping that they will be a no show, fingures crossed.

[Justin&Beckfirstbub]

Hi Jenny,

My advice may seem a little simplistic but..............I had an implanon cotraceptive rod in my arm for 3 years and was reallt excited and anxious to conceive once it was removed. For the first month I read everything I could and hit my husband up at every chance I could! I then got my period and felt a little down. I was discussing this with my doctor and explained I was planning to test my temperature for when I was ovulating and she suggested I just forget about it for a while, concentrate on being happy and just have sex when we felt like it. I took her advise (I still wanted to fall preganant!) and just relaxed about it a bit and what do you know I am now 4 weeks pregnant!!!!
Sometimes if you just relax and enjoy yourself good things happen!
The only thing I did do is made sure I laid down for a while after sex to help the little buggers swim...... :D
Good luck!

Beck

[Alleycat]

:) I hope it is Ok that a male is replying, just thought a point of view from the OTHER side might be helpful.. hehe

It took my wife and I almost 12 months to conceive, I did the test thing to make sure the boys and girls could swim, once we both knew there was no problem that side we went back to the bedroom. As much as I enjoyed the love making it becomes different when you know you are doing it to have a baby, so for me it was difficult to just turn it on like a tap, so twice a night may get difficult. Not to use excuses but after a hard day sleep is so wonderful....

So after more months of trying my wife finally went to the temp method and within two months we were pregnant with our wonderful little boy Cole.

I hope this gave a little help. :)

[Mischief]

Hi Alleycat!

My hubby is the same....pre baby trying he was always ready, but now we are trying for a baby and I'm the one doing the nagging I think sometimes its a bit of a turn off!

Girls, try to give the poor guys a break! LOL (I'm guilty)....it might be pretty easy for us to think..."okay, baby making time...." and *roll over* but guys have to be *in the mood* and I guess its not a great turn on when the woman is looking at you like a sperm bank instead of like a god or something! :) I know its a real worry....(for me anyway)...when girls only have a time span of about 24 hours to get the swimmers to the egg, but guys dont feel that same sence of urgency....its not in their make up to have to hurry! Their swimmers can last 3-5 days!!!!

Being aware that you are trying to make a new life makes a huge difference too....it makes it all so much more emotional and it makes you more aware of WHAT and WHY you are doing *it*......I must admit personally its taken the edge off it for me, but its made it a brilliant experience in so many other ways!

1 - Try to enjoy yourself.......(easy said...hard done I know....I'm stressing and its only been 2 months...lol)...
2 - Eat healthy - for a boy they say to eat alkaline based foods, and for a girl eat more acidic foods.
3 - Relax, get lots of fresh air...
4 - Dont drink heaps of coffee, tea, coke, or alchol....

Most of all, enjoy each others company....live it up now, because by all accounts once bubs comes along you dont have much time together anymore!

Good luck!!!!! Fingers crossed for all off us trying to conceive that it happens really soon!!!

Luv,
Kat

[Milly]

Hi there!

My suggestion is to read "The Billings Method" by Dr Evelyn Billings (with contributions by Dr Westmore) as it is fantastic in understand your body and your cycles. It is a method that has been around for years and for me it made reading my body so easy. It can be used to achieve or avoid pregnancy. I did not have to chart (you can do if you are that keen) but I could read my cervical mucus which indicated to me about my fertile times very easily. We had just one cycle on it and conceived right when my Cervical mucus indicated fertility.

There are also classes available in the Billings Method too.

That's my recommendation. :)

[maybe1more]

thank you so much to everyone one on your advise, every bit helps me, it was also great to hear from a males point of view.I agree with the comments of trying to relax and just go with it all, i must admit sex is diffrent when your trying and every time i think in my head "maybe this is it" instead of just relaxing and enjoying the moment and i have been thinking of my man as a bit of a sperm bank :eek: but after reading everyones thread im feeling a little guiltly so maybe i should let my man take charge in the bedroom instead of me "bugging" him every night.Im also going to work out how the ovulation part plays a roll so if i happen to 'bugg' him then ill make sure its on the approprate day :D Thank you all again i will keep in touch with my endevours.

[Jamily]

I am not sure if this will help, but it worked for me. Try to abstain from sex from the end of your period to ovulation - apparently this builds up lots of healthy sperm. This tip came about from a study which showed that one religion (forgive my ignorance I can't remember which one) who didn't have sex for 13 days after a womens period had substantially bigger families than most. It could be total nonsense but maybe worth a go. Good luck.

[Mischief]

hey Claret, I read something similar. Jews also tend to have bigger families because a woman was seen as *unclean* for 7 days after her blood flow finished......it might have been what you were reading...thus making it about 14 days into the cycle when a woman was deamed *clean*....

[Wannabe Mummy 2008]

Hi everyone:smiliedance:my husband and I have just decided last month to try and have a baby. we have only been married for six months but with me turning 29 this year we thought we'd better get started soon. I was a little disappointed when I got my period just after boxing day, I actually cried and didn't realise just how much I want to be a mum but having researched on the internet I didn't realise just how tricky it would be.

But having found this website I realise what better way to get advise and support from real women trying to achieve the same wish:flowerz:.

Look forward to chatting and listening to you all ... good luck too:wave:

[Helenau]

I actually cried and didn't realise just how much I want to be a mum but having researched on the internet I didn't realise just how tricky it would be.

But having found this website I realise what better way to get advise and support from real women trying to achieve the same wish:flowerz:.

I could not agree with you more. We have been TTC since June, but its only now that I have realised I can do more than just "trying" lots. Im now starting my new year with charting and hopefully with temp too as soon as I buy a thermometer LOL.
Good luck to you in your journey :)

[Nomsie]

For a bit of help click here (http://www.fertilityfriend.com) and it will take you to a website that will help you chart your cycles.
I don't take temps like a lot of girls here- it would freak DP out! But it has been wonderful in me trying to understand my cycles, and now I know that I have relatively short cyles of around 26 days... I O normally on day 12/13 etc... well it's supposed to be helpful, hasn't worked yet! lol :laughing:
But it's a great first step tool!
Good luck!

[KatiesMum]

Hi All :wave:

This thread is in the 'general chat' section ..... there is actually a whole section of Bubhub dedicated to TTC - come and visit us ...we have lots of tips to share and support to offer.

As far as bd'ing more than once a day .... I wouldnt even try!!!!

Most FS's advise to bd every second day (but many couples do every day around ovulation)

To predict your fertile times charting your basal body temperature (bbt), monitoring your cervical mucous (cm) and OPK's (ovulation predictor kits). I actually find opk's work really well for me.....

Anyway - come join us and share the experience.

[misskl]

Hello All.

My partner and I have a few issues and we are trying to fall pregnant. I stopped taking my pill about ten months ago as my BF and I were super keen to have children. After nothing happening for a few months of irregular cycles, we were getting very dissappointed.

After 9 months my doctor suggested I try Clomid as I'm not ovulating, and said my BF should have a sperm test. The test came back a low sperm count with 98% abnormalities. My doctor said that I prob wont fall pregnant on the Clomid and may need IVF.

My BF has had a sudden change of heart about a baby, I think the test result is a blow to his self esteem...and also he's scared of the IVF process. Would rather cut off his hand than do sperm samples.

I'm quiet upset about this as he was actually more keen than me to start a family...I guess I just have to be patient and hope he changes his mind again. Not easy to do when I just started first round of Clomid and think I'm about to ovulate.

And did I mention he also has a low sex drive, only wants sex about once a week.

Has anyone managed to conceive with a similar sperm test result? Or been in a similar situation to me?
I'm guessing it's quite normal for men to feel bad about a bad test result, any guys out there to offer me an opinion?

Thanks, I know it's a long one.
:ecomcity:

[swoozie]

hi my name is Susie me and my partner are also trying to have a baby.
i have to beautiful boys aged 7 and 5 and my partner also has a son aged 5 we have been together for a while and have come to the decision that we want to try and have a baby together.

i wasn't to sure if it would have as i was taking the conception needle which ended up stopping my period all together for 2 years. only in the last 4 months i have been getting my period which is a good sign.
i also went to see the docter which then i was informed that most people trying to fall pregnant will do so within the first 12months but if this should not hapen then furture testing is needed.

im also doing what most people are saying on here about thating you temp and knowning your menstration cycle there is a really good web site that may help all you wanna be mums and dads i advise you all to give it a go as there is no harm in trying new things its called www.fertilityfriend.com i hope this web site helps your understand your bodies a bit better as it has helped me alot. good luck all keep your chins up and in due time it should happen :flowerz:

[Mischaswonderland]

we followed the sperm meets the egg plan
http://www.pregnancyloss.info/sperm_meets_egg_plan.htm

and it worked first month, i cannot recommend enough using opk's!! i also made hubby wear boxers instead of briefs and we also used preseed!! we had been trying for months and months prior, and once we made those changes it happened!


"As you are trying, make sure to "release" the sperm in your partner at least once during the gap between ovulation and new cycle Day 8 so that no more than 10 days elapse without new sperm production. Sperm is also a cause of genetic damage, not just eggs, so keep it fresh!"


hope this helps!

[ANonnyMouse]

I also recommend the Billings method.... and although this might not work for everyone, for me I know I'm rampantly horny around the time I ovulate, so this means if I was trying to conceive I wouldn't be pestering DP for sex every couple of days.... just a couple of times over the few days I'm at y randiest. And by the same token, I know when I'm in that state, it's best to avoid sex because I'm likely to fall preg. This is of course, also in conjunction with checking my body for all the other imminent signs of ovulation.

[kar]

Girls, if your periods are not regular but are within a few days can I say that using ovulation test kits from about 2 days prior to when you think you might be ovulating can really take out a lot of the stress, esp if you or your partner are really not able to have sex every or multiple times a day for a week.

Can be very hard to predict in my experience and frankly peeing in a cup was easier for me than taking temps checking mucus etc. We got pregnant pretty quickly after we adopted this strategy as my periods were not completely regular, we both were working long hours etc.

You can get them from the chemist but I got mine via a doctor, not sure whether they are more accurate but they actually cheaper. Think I will probably go straight to this method when we are trying for No 2.

Good luck!

[kar]

PS - I was also told by the doc that having sex every 2nd day from day 10 through to 20 should mean that if you are going to get pregnant you will provided your periods are regularish. Don't forget that even with your timing absolutely perfect and not probs with anything else there is only about a 25% chance each month, so taking a while is completely normal.