another scared young mum to be

[Jaime19]

Hi im jaime i have just turned 19 and am expecting my first child a little boy in 11 weeks. Not really knowing what to expect as the time gets closer i am starting to really worry. if any one has any advise i would love to listen to anything anyone has to say.
thanks heaps

[cocobambino]

HI welcome to bubhub, I was PG with my first and 17 and 2nd at 19, its a scary time but you will know what to do when they are boen trust me, there is alot of advice treads in the young mum section you should check them out there is plenty of tips and you can ask any questions

[cocobambino]

http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=164675&page=5

there u go

[YMo7]

i was 19 when i fell pg with my first and 20 when i had her.
my only advise is to listen to yourself and your baby more than you listen to anyone else.
everyone will offer you advise with what is best for you and bubs but only take in what you think is right - i was given so much info that it conflicted and i didn't know what was right and what wasn't.
the only thing that is right is what makes your new little family happy and comfortable.
good luck and take care.

[Mathermy]

:hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:
hi jaime:wave:
Welcome to bubhub!
What exactly would you like to know? What is worrying you the most? Is it birth related or more general concerns about becoming a mummy?

There is a wealth of info here & from what i gather plenty of young mums who have been in your position. Bubhub is a great place to ask questions and get lots of different advice-it's also a great place to turn to when you just need a vent or a hug. Don't be embarassed to ask anything-people can only help if you tell them what you need.

There is also an option here to send/receive private messages with other members, you just click on a person's username and send them a message that only you and they can see. i know that many people here have made great friendships that have carried on into real life. I'm pretty sure there are organised 'meets' from time to time so perhaps be on the lookout for one in your area if that is something you would be interested in.

Have you been to your local library? Most libraries have a comprehensive section on pregnancy,birth, parenting etc. A quick google search will give you more info than you could ever want/need about just about any subject too-you just need to be careful that any advice comes from credible sources;)

hope to see you around the hub
best wishes!

[Jaime19]

Thankyou i am already getting given alot of advise but t always agree with the way that it is forth coming. my mother is a child care worker and if i tell her i am worried about something all her advise to me is i have qualifications in this so i am right . i dont know how to tell her nicely that i may want to do things differently.

[Mathermy]

no mummy, not even the most experienced, is always right;)

I think it seems fairly common for there to be a bit of a power struggle between new mums & their mums. I'm sure your mum means well-it must be hard because you are her baby and it's hard to pull back and let you make your own way.

You need to trust your own instincts and as time goes by your confidence as a mum will grow. Noone has all the answers right away-you are building a relationship with your bub and like any other relationship it takes time and patience:valentine:

[rileysmumm]

HI Jamie I fell Pregnant when i was 17 and had my little man when i was 18. i was exactly like you, iu startd to worry about 3weeks prior to giving birth..i woke up thinking omg im really going to have a baby i started think about the pain everyone talked about and that got me worrying about other things. When the time came to go to hospital all the worrys went out the window. I had an epidural to ease pain and calm me down and i dont no what i would have done with out it! alot of people think they no whats best for you and your baby, do what feels best for you and your little one.
Good luck with everything and cant wait to c pics of your little one :)
take care
Mel

[littlerayofsunshine]

hi jamie,
I was 18 when i fell pregnant with my little girl and 19 when i had her. it is normal to feel scared and anxious, your life is about to change in a major way, where abouts do you live? If you ever want to chat pm me its always nice to have somebody to speak to

[neostudded]

Hey Jamie, I was sixteen when I fell pregnant seventeen when I gave birth to my son.

I am 18 now and my son is nearly 10 months old.

Just remember your the mother and you know what is best for your bub.:thumbsup: