fingers crossed he's changed for good!!

[claireandbailey]

Today i have made arrangements with my ex's mum for her to see Bailey. She was meant to have today off work and we were going to her house, but she got called in to work and so the plans changed we are going there tonite instead.
I msg'd my ex on his mobile to ask if he was gonna be home cos i was bringing bailey over. He rang me about an hour later saying that he was meant to work but he was going to call in sick because he really wants to see bailey!!!!!!!!!!!!
He even wants us to go over an hour before his mum will get home because he wants to spend some time just with bailey. :confused: :confused: :confused:

This is really wierd considering the fact that he never wanted to see her before i always had to push him to see her. even on the phone he was really nice and friendly to me, when i was talking to him bailey woke up from her nap and was gigglin and he was so happy and excited to hear her.

I want to be happy that he wants to see her but a part of me is a bit wary. I suppose i just gotta wait and see wat happens.

[Veritas]

Good luck with it...

I sincerely hope that he has changed for your sake and Baileys.... but I can completely understand where the instinct to be hesitant comes from!

[claireandbailey]

I wish sometimes i wasnt such a worry-wart about things but i cant help it. he is always so hot and cold with me i just wish he could make up his mind wat he wants so he doesnt keep screwing my mind and emotions,.

[Jem]

good luck with it all... and its perfectly understandable why you are a bit wary, and on guard, hope it all goes well :D

[Veritas]

I can completely understand why you're worried.... I haven't even had bubs yet and I'm already like that....

Guess it's just the protective mother instincts!

[claireandbailey]

today is gettin weirder and weirder. Ex just rang me to ask if we want to have dinner at his place cos he's gonna cook. He also wanted to know if bailey would eat wat he is making but i told him that i would bring baileys dinner.

[Jem]

wow... what do you think about that ??

[claireandbailey]

its all just too strange i dont know wat to think.

He sounded really excited that we were comin over.

[Jem]

be sure to let us know how it goes :D

[loopi1]

I hmmmmm I don't know wat to say as I haven't been in your situation. My guard would be up also if my DS father wanted to see him since he is 2 and he has never seen him. So I sort of understand why you are hesitant.

All I can advise is, take him up on his offer of a meal (least you don't have to cook) and play it by ear, if he is enjoying Bailey's company go with it but don't get ur hopes up of being this happy family just yet. Keep cool, calm and collected don't let him think he has u reeled you in like a snapper. You are Bailey's prime carer and what happens with her is up to u, don't let him think you will jump thru hoops whenever he feels like seeing her, it must be a 50/50 split, especially if he desides to be a more hands on daddy.

Make the time together about her not about the two of you, you never know this may well be the start of Bailey getting to know her dad.