Need to vent

[Kayangel]

My little boys dad, the guy i fall madly inlove is now the guy i hate with a passion, i never thought i could hate him, i thought i would always be inlove with him even though we arent togerther but i can no longer deal with him treating my son and i like sh!t, he wont sign the birth certificate, he wont came and see his son when he has been invited to many times, he hangs up the phone and he isnt paying a cent to help support his son. Is it terrible to say that i now hope he stays out of our sons life, i think my son will be so much better off without him as his dad will never love him the way he should or our son will never be his dads number 1 he will always put his gf and her 2 children first.

Today i was told Mathew (ex) was in the local paper for being a so called "hero" and for being a fire fighter following the footsteps of his uncle and it said that Mathew was a father of 2 omg the 2 kids there talking about arent his, what about the son he has doesnt he get talked about? hearing this made me feel sick. This guy has no heart and is totally in the wrong, my son should have a father but it will never be Mathew as he doesnt want a bar of his son and this is now the way i want it to stay even though that may sound selfish.

[Benji]

:( so sorry to hear that.

Contact child support agency - they will get you some money from him.

It sounds like your baby is better off without him to be honest.

My x also abandoned DS and I but in a different way and I'm beginning to think DS is better off without him rather than seeing him when it's appropriate for X and then for him to just watch TV and not be a parent.

Look after your little man, he's better off with one switched on parent.

[neostudded]

I am so sorry kayangel :hugs::(

I can imagine how you must be feeling.

If it was me I would probly get a DNA test done on my ex.

Good luck with whatever you do.

[bec1008]

Hey,

I can totally relate to how you are feeling right now. I am in a very similar situation and all i feel like doing right now is punching the living daylights out of my ex to knock some sense into him. But i can't. Its unfair isn't it?
Just wanted to let you know you're not alone here, it sucks big time that men can be so immature and cannot actually accept responsibility for their innocent child.
But its okay to be angry right now, but just try to do what i am doing and focus on your little boy and how he's going, because from what i have learnt recently is that bubs can feel your tension and know when mum is upset or stressed and its alot harder to remain on the same level as him when you are stressed or angry.
I really hope for you that things can work out.
And also, its not selfish how you are feeling. You only want whats best for your little man. If the father doesn't wanna make an effort, he ain't worth it in the first place.
Take care :hugs:

[Kayangel]

Hey bec :wave:, I noticed you have just joined this site, welcome to bubhub its the best site so many lovely ladies! I also noticed u live in Melbourne im also in Melbourne, where abouts in Melbourne are you? Im in S/E (Cranbourne).

Why dont u come join the May mum and bubs birth thread? we r a great group!

Is ur ex going to have any contect with his son? has he signed the birth certificate?