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OneNowOneLater
24-05-2008, 13:10
Just curious. After having an only child, who wants more?
Personally, i really dont want anymore kids. i'm happy with my one. Pregnancy was the worst time of my life. Prenatal depression, post natal the works! Hated it!
Poll coming.
MummaBear03
24-05-2008, 13:12
I do but think the age gap now would be too much. I like a closer age gap. If I could adopt then I would adopt a 2 or 3 year old that would be perfect! I'd have liked another baby but like I said, the smaller age gaps are better for me so it's not going to happen now :(
OneNowOneLater
24-05-2008, 13:15
Hehe, i wasnt expecting two responses by the time i'd finished posting the poll.... YAY.
jdsmummy
24-05-2008, 13:25
First year of my ds's life i didnt want to think about having another. Now he is 18 months and im soooo broody! Think we might try in a few months so there is a 2 1/2 year age gap! Always thought id have a big age gap but things change!
I soooooo didn't ever consider having another child. I was joking to DD in the hospital that she was an only child for sure.
I didn't even make it 7 months before getting clucky again. :laughing:
We are now chatting about ideal timeframes and the likes should we ever sorta maybe perhaps kinda sorta maybe want another :D
mummysangels
24-05-2008, 14:24
Yes I would love to have another bub BUT As much as I'd love to I can't :no:.
ETA - Mummabear. I feel the same, Worry about the age gap. But I don't think it should stop you from having any more. There are Pro's and Con's to have big or small age gap and if that meant you got to have more children (if you want to) then I say go for it. Now I don't worry about the age gap so much what happens, happens. If there is a 3 year age gap GREAT!!! If there is a 10year age gap GREAT:D!!!
:iagree: I have a 4 1/2 year age gap between DD1 and DD2 and a 6 year age gap between DD2 and DD3. I thinks its great as they are awesome helpers :yes:.
Ana Gram
24-05-2008, 14:36
I am completely uninterested in having another child.
Yes, wanted another bub, wanted a 18 month-2yr age gap, but reality (secondary IF) ruined my plans.
Chunkydunks
24-05-2008, 16:09
We're working our way up to a 2nd child. I so can't wait. Sitting here eating pringles doesn't help though:laughing:
mummysangels
24-05-2008, 16:29
:hugs:why if you don't mind me asking?
Everything that could have gone wrong during pregnancy and labour did go wrong, I had a tough time and nearly lost my baby as well as my own life, so the risk of that is to high to go for a 4th child and I choose to be here for my girls.
I really want another one. All I've ever wanted to be is a wife and a mother.
I would love another one right now, but want a partner well and truly first.
I wasn't too fond of being pregnant but it was soooooo worth it (although, I didn't have any major complications apart from bad MS, spotting and a bad birth - nothing life threatening).
Oh god, there is no way in hell that I will have another.
I love, love, love my little boy so much but I just could not have another. Pregnancy was horrendous - it was bad enough putting myself and my partner through it, having that stress on DS is unfair.
DS has also just hit the terrible two's......that helps to cement the only child position!
KatiesMum
24-05-2008, 17:34
I would absolutely love another .....
but it wasnt meant to be. I am (very slowly) coming to terms with that ....but it is a long and difficult road.
neostudded
24-05-2008, 19:00
I dont currently want another one.:)
Im desperate for more kiddies and have been since the moment DD was born but pregnancy was also the worst time of my life utter hell but luckily child birth was a breeze so I decided to wait til DD was in school before trying for #2 just in case I had the same pregnancy problems as I did with DD but its now been 6mnths and we are still waiting and I must say at night I lay in bed and think 'how bad would it be if she is an only child?' - I no there are some really good points for her if we dont have any more but nothing in my mind out ways the loneliness of being an only child.
GoldLeader
29-05-2008, 18:56
I was adamant that we would only have one child after 5 months of extreme "morning" sickness and then almost losing her at birth. My daughter was extremely clingy for the first 3 years and I longed for the day that she showed some signs of independence. Now that time has arrived and we are TTC#2.
How quickly the memories of the awful times fade and are replaced by how much fun we are having.
LivinOnAPrayer
02-06-2008, 17:48
I dont want another but DH desperatly does.
DD is sick with alot of complicated problems, labour was a night mare and really, almost 2 yrs have past and we're still in hell. No thanks.
Saying that, i love my little miricle to bits! :flowerz:
karenj24
05-06-2008, 19:19
I have a 13 month old boy, and I am unsure if I want another baby. I didn't have a great family life growing up (too many issues there). I am struggling on a day-to-day basis with one. I think I wouldn't be a great mother to no 2 or 1 if I do. Motherhood doesn't come naturally to me. It may be selfish, but if we only have one child we would still have time for ourselves and provide the best start possible for no 1......
0BleSseD0
05-06-2008, 22:36
:yes: Certainly!
OneNowOneLater
05-06-2008, 23:09
I know I've already responded:o
BUT
Me Me Me I would love more children and Aisha wants some siblings:laughing::hissy:
:laughing: you're a dag jen!!!!!!!! :laughing:
subaruforestermum
06-06-2008, 02:28
Yes, it has taken nearly 3 years for me to actually want another after DS....
But I have ended my TTC diary, and the effort of trying as we just couldnt do it financially right now..and my feeling of failure, and moving to the country to limit the choices my son has, has made me feel like a pretty bad parent.....so I am not wanting to inflict that on another child....
bell n d
06-06-2008, 10:32
It has taken me 5 years to say it but YES!
I want another child...with my new partner. We have been together 2 years now, and I realise that yup he is the one.. haha
He is so good with me DS and DS isn't even his child..He would be awesome as a dad.
DS loves kids, and I would love to give him a little sister or brother to play with. I always wanted two kids, and I wanted them close together - actually 2 years apart - but with all the **** that went on with DS's father and I, I am glad that we didnt have another child.
DS is now 6, 7 in October, The age gap will be big once the DP and I decide to have children, but DS will be at an age where he can help, and he will feel rewarded to do so, as he loves helping his mummy. :)
Ange&Seth
29-06-2008, 13:41
I am quite happy with the one gorgeous boy that I have and am not really interested in having anymore but I refuse to let him grow up as an only child and I made that decision years ago.
PiercedDoll
29-06-2008, 17:32
oh most definitely!! We are currently in the process of TTC #2:)
LittleButton
29-06-2008, 18:02
O yes i do i do...! But when the time is right. ;)
kayla Lilyz mum
29-06-2008, 21:09
yes i would love one and are just about to try and start ttc#2, my dd is turning 5 i october and im more than ready! yay cant wait to get my:bfp::smiliedance:
rjsmummy
07-07-2008, 10:33
I would so love to have another 1 or 2 but I'm not doing it on my own this time. Even though I breezed through pregnancy and the birth and my little man is and has been an absolute joy since, I want to share that with someone special and also be able to be "me" at the same time and not just "Ryan's mum". I want any future children of mine to have a father figure in their life also.
So the initial plan at this stage is to find a husband... which in itself is very difficult given I work from home and don't see much of the outside world :laughing:
KateRose2010
24-10-2008, 09:06
i've got a 3 year old and at the moment she's a handful, i know she'd make a great big sister and i honestly don't mind the bigger age gap, i just don't know if i want another baby yet or at all, i know hubby does... so have just come to the decision ' it'll happen when and if it happens' and i'm completely fine with that!
pinkishbunny
24-10-2008, 09:14
I'm done...No more.. my youngest is now toilet trained and we are content with just the two :)
I change my mind daily on this issue!
Pregnancy and birth was horrendous and nearly fatal for both of us, if I did get pregnant again I would probably spend a lot of time on bed rest and I think that might be unfair on DS.
But then I worry that I am being unfair on DS by not having another.
Also DS has some medical issues which mean he requires a lot of appointments, physio, speech therapy etc and I dont know if I could cope with that and another baby.
So that's a dont know from me.
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