Tea Lady
11-04-2006, 08:08 PM
This is probably in the wrong place, but until there's a section for post-miscarriage rants it will have to do.
I'm just feeling miserable after my horrible gynae appt yesterday so I thought I'd inflict my misery on everyone else too.
I had to wait an hour for my appt only to go in and realise the Dr really had no idea why I was there. I can't blame him because I'm not really sure what the point of the appt was myself, but I had my list of Qs that I wanted to ask and I thought at least I could talk to an expert and it might put my mind at rest about a few things.
Anyway I found him hard to understand because of his accent (not his fault) so I think I answered his 1st Q wrong (about whether I'd had other blood tests - I said no because I hadn't had any since the m/c but I think he meant "at all"). He then told me that he'd send me for another blood test to see if my HCG levels had RISEN - what the????? I was floored so I mumbled something about bleeding for a week etc and he said that there was a slim chance it was still ok etc etc and so I told him that they'd done an u/s at the emergency dept and found nothing and he said it might have been too early. I don't think he even read my file properly (I m/c at 7 weeks) because I think he must have got it into his head that the pg could have been much earlier than I thought and that my HCG levels were low because of that. It was just so awful for him to talk as if the pregnancy might have continued because I know it hasn't and it's painful enough without someone acting as if everything might still be ok. It's hard to explain. :(
Anyway, I'm not really annoyed at him because he was trying to make me feel better and like I hadn't wasted my trip but i found it so upsetting - it was like he was telling me the miscarriage wasn't real, but I was so flabergasted at what he was saying that I couldn't even explain myself properly to him. :( It was just horrible - he kept talking about what he'd do if my levels were higher and I just wanted to shake him. And I didn't get to ask any of my questions after all that.
I decided I might as well have the blood test since at least it would show if my levels are back to 0, so I went to the MATERNITY SECTION where they take the blood (fighting back tears by this stage and trying desperately not to think about what just happened) and the very nice girl who took the blood looked at the form, and when she saw it was for HCG she said "Oh, I wonder what this is for?" obviously assuming I was confirming a pregnancy. I could have died. :crying:
Anyway, I at least made it back to the car before I bawled my eyes out. It's just so frustrating because now I feel terrible about it again and before yesterday I was feeling fine.
End of rant. Thanks for reading.
I'm just feeling miserable after my horrible gynae appt yesterday so I thought I'd inflict my misery on everyone else too.
I had to wait an hour for my appt only to go in and realise the Dr really had no idea why I was there. I can't blame him because I'm not really sure what the point of the appt was myself, but I had my list of Qs that I wanted to ask and I thought at least I could talk to an expert and it might put my mind at rest about a few things.
Anyway I found him hard to understand because of his accent (not his fault) so I think I answered his 1st Q wrong (about whether I'd had other blood tests - I said no because I hadn't had any since the m/c but I think he meant "at all"). He then told me that he'd send me for another blood test to see if my HCG levels had RISEN - what the????? I was floored so I mumbled something about bleeding for a week etc and he said that there was a slim chance it was still ok etc etc and so I told him that they'd done an u/s at the emergency dept and found nothing and he said it might have been too early. I don't think he even read my file properly (I m/c at 7 weeks) because I think he must have got it into his head that the pg could have been much earlier than I thought and that my HCG levels were low because of that. It was just so awful for him to talk as if the pregnancy might have continued because I know it hasn't and it's painful enough without someone acting as if everything might still be ok. It's hard to explain. :(
Anyway, I'm not really annoyed at him because he was trying to make me feel better and like I hadn't wasted my trip but i found it so upsetting - it was like he was telling me the miscarriage wasn't real, but I was so flabergasted at what he was saying that I couldn't even explain myself properly to him. :( It was just horrible - he kept talking about what he'd do if my levels were higher and I just wanted to shake him. And I didn't get to ask any of my questions after all that.
I decided I might as well have the blood test since at least it would show if my levels are back to 0, so I went to the MATERNITY SECTION where they take the blood (fighting back tears by this stage and trying desperately not to think about what just happened) and the very nice girl who took the blood looked at the form, and when she saw it was for HCG she said "Oh, I wonder what this is for?" obviously assuming I was confirming a pregnancy. I could have died. :crying:
Anyway, I at least made it back to the car before I bawled my eyes out. It's just so frustrating because now I feel terrible about it again and before yesterday I was feeling fine.
End of rant. Thanks for reading.