worrying!

[Kayte]

anyone got any cures for it i can't stop worrying about how much i want this baby - sounds stupid i know :(:(

[clucky]

the only cure i've got is buy some bubba things.
i'm just as eager as you, but not yet preg. you sound like you are due around about december, congrats and good luck.

[jayneo]

:o Read some good 'ol books on babies and their development - it helps me whenever I get worried as I can try and picture everything that is going on in there.:)

[Oscar's mum]

:o Read some good 'ol books on babies and their development - it helps me whenever I get worried as I can try and picture everything that is going on in there.:)


Ditto or just cruise around on Bub Hub!

[*Country Bumpkin*]

Hmm well first of all- are you worying that you dont want to keep the baby or are your worrying about how you will cope with a baby.....

If its cause you dont want to KEEP the baby- well i myself have had an abortion...not the nicest experiance in the world but I know that I made the right decision fo rmy life and for the childs sake. I suppose that if you are worrying and trying to decide if you will keep bub you have to weight up alot of things.....is this what you realy want..... will you have support....etc...

Its a decision that you and your partner have to make together if hes willing....its not all about what he wants though so dont ever feel pressured that you have to do what hes telling you too.....

If you worrying about how you will CARE for bub- then dont!! I was worried at first too.... but trust me once you start getting used to the idea you will be fine. I was only 17 when I fell pregant and my DP is 22 so were both very young but it really does come naturaly..... if you decide to keep bub there are alot of supposrt networks for young mothers and father and single mums too....

If you need to chat any time just PM me or add me to MSN sweetness_69_01@hotmail.com(yeah i know dont laugh I was 14 wen i came up with that name...)

Youll be fine:hugs:

[*Country Bumpkin*]

Hello again!!!

Well after reading your OTHER thread I have discovered that you are excited.... ok so you can scrap the first lot of advive I gave you and move onto the second...

When I was first pregnant I was a blubbering mess alllll the time.... I worried SO much I made myself sick..... and you know what- bub is fine!!

Go out and buy yourself a good pregnancy book that you can read and look at pics in.... I have one that cost me $50 but it got me through all the worry.... I used to look at the pics every day and think ohh this is happeing that is happening etc.... I used to show DP every sunday too- he liked to see what developments buby had made....

Also go and buy a couple of little bub clothes.... they are sooo cute and make it all seem so real!!!

[Kayte]

Im just worried about losing it :(

[Oscar's mum]

I am sure you will be fine! We all go through what you are feeling, it isn't nice is it! Just remember that we are all here for support if you need it!

[shed]

We're all worried about the same thing when we are pregnant it seems. You're not alone there. I worry about it all the time too.

I worry that I am not going to be one of the lucky ones. That I am going to be "one of those women you hear about"

I worry that I am 36 and this might be my last chance and something is going to happen to take it all away.

I worry that its going to be discovered that I have cancer and that I have to sacrifice bubby and have a hysterectomy.

I worry that my baby is going to be stillborn. I worry that he's going to be a SIDS victim. I worry that he's going to run out on the road and be hit by a car when he's a toddler.

I worry that he's going to be killed in a road crash when he gets his P plates.

I worry that I am going to have a car accident and he's going to be taken away.

All I do is worry.

DP worries too but we don't talk about it.

All I say to myself when I get in this state is that MILLIONS and MILLIONS of normal, healthy, average babies are born every year. THOUSANDS and THOUSANDS are born EVERY DAY. HUNDREDS have been born to bubhub people/

And mine will be one of them.

And yours will too.

:hugs:

[zafyrezmummy]

All I say to myself when I get in this state is that MILLIONS and MILLIONS of normal, healthy, average babies are born every year. THOUSANDS and THOUSANDS are born EVERY DAY. HUNDREDS have been born to bubhub people/
And mine will be one of them.
And yours will too.
:hugs:

I think thats the best advice! Just try to be positive, I'm sure you'll have a wonderful troublefree pregnancy!
And, if worst was to happen, NOT THAT IT WILL, believe me when i tell you if anything goes wrong you'll have all the support and love and care from all the women here in bubhub land! These are the most genuine caring lot i've ever come across.
:)
But, having said that, you probably will be one of the many lucky ones and you'll get to watch your bub grow up over the years and years to come.
Best of luck! Take care of yourself and bubs and you'll be fine!

PS if you have any questions regarding m/c, i dont mind if you ask me, but just be prepared for teary answers!
Kayte I'm sure you'll have a healthy pregnancy and then you'll have an adorable healthy bub sooner than you realise, all these thoughts are normal and natural, i dare say it'd be something odd if you didnt worry..
-dimarie

[the_queen]

Worrying during pregnancy is nature's way of preparing you for motherhood. It's teaching you about how you can be enormously in love with someone you don't even know yet. It's showing you that no matter what does goes right, you'll still worry about what might go wrong.

Basically what I'm saying is, the way you're feeling means you're going to be a great mummy. :thumbsup:

For what it's worth, I still check Vallerie every night to see she's breathing and not too hot or cold. She'll be 5 in July. It never ends. Like Shed said, as they grow up you just worry about different things. The best advice I can give you is to get in touch with your mothering instinct and learn to trust yourself.

[*Country Bumpkin*]

We're all worried about the same thing when we are pregnant it seems. You're not alone there. I worry about it all the time too.

I worry that I am not going to be one of the lucky ones. That I am going to be "one of those women you hear about"

I worry that I am 36 and this might be my last chance and something is going to happen to take it all away.

I worry that its going to be discovered that I have cancer and that I have to sacrifice bubby and have a hysterectomy.

I worry that my baby is going to be stillborn. I worry that he's going to be a SIDS victim. I worry that he's going to run out on the road and be hit by a car when he's a toddler.

I worry that he's going to be killed in a road crash when he gets his P plates.

I worry that I am going to have a car accident and he's going to be taken away.

All I do is worry.

DP worries too but we don't talk about it.

All I say to myself when I get in this state is that MILLIONS and MILLIONS of normal, healthy, average babies are born every year. THOUSANDS and THOUSANDS are born EVERY DAY. HUNDREDS have been born to bubhub people/

And mine will be one of them.

And yours will too.

:hugs:


DITTO TO ALLLL THAT!!!! Except the part about being 36.....

Shed and I are both due in August and we have been through alllll of these feelings of worry at the same time..... I have even gone up in Sheds imaginary tree when Ive had a bad day...Im sure she would let you use it if you asked nicely:D

[jayneo]

Hi there Kayte,

Just wanting to give you a few words of support. The last thing that you want to be doing is to be worrying about all possible things that could/couldnt go wrong. This is very very normal - everyone does it - but it can only be doing more harm then good to you. Your little one needs you to be strong and thinking possitive. I remember being told by my step-dad "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change - the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference"
Never have more true words been spoken. The power of possitive thinking is far more useful than you may think. Everything will be fine and you will in a matter of no time have a healthy bundle of joy staring back at you. You will look at this moment and think that all that stress and concern was for no reason at all.

Whenever you feel down, stressed, worried - just concentrate on the human inside of you and if it helps - talk to him/her as if he/she were in your arms. This really helps. I am pregnant with twins (4 months) and I have had days/weeks where I do nothing but worry and it drives me insane. Just do what is best and relax and let your pregnancy just flow. Enjoy every precious moment you have left of this special time where you and only you can look after this special gift!
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Good luck and remember - if you need any help or just someone to listen - I am here when I can be. Send me a post.

;)

[Sara's Boys]

Hi, I think it's so easy to be worried an anxious, especially with your first. But try and think positive. You are creating life, this is the one true time in life as a woman you have to trust your body. Your body will almost always do whats best for you and baby. I love being pregnant, and this time around I am enjoying it so much more, because I know that unfortunate things happen to some people but I also now just how possible it is to have a beautiful healthy baby. I used to do a little pre natal yoga- now I am not the type to meditate, but the breathing really helps to relax body and your mind. I hope some of this helps. But be positive, because that little life inside you feels your vibes, so only give him/her the good ones!

[Kayte]

Hi all

thanks for all your support im confident / positive now :)

This is going to be a healthy pregnancy and birth :)

i cant wait !!!:smiliedance: :yelclap:

[*Country Bumpkin*]

Yahhh at a girl- thats the way:thumbsup: You wait till you feel that bub of yours for the first time.... all the worry and stress just slips away....:hugs:

[Kayte]

Thanks hunnie - were the same age im 19 in december :)