any one get self conscious at people looking at them?

[Jesska08]

I find if ie ever go out with my 2 daughters i get stared at.. although im 21 even sometimes just with one of my daughters stare at me. sometimes i stare back or just ignore them completely but it honestly makes me self conscious to take both my daughters out because i feel like everyones looking at me because they think im an idiot..

anyone else feel this way?

[xygirl351]

I am a proud young mum and when ppl look at me i smile nod my head and keep walking.

[tyler's mum]

I am a proud young mum and when ppl look at me i smile nod my head and keep walking.

:iagree::iagree:

[petamarie]

im 23 with 1 and 1 on way, but i look younger, if i go out with my mum, (who's only 43, so another young mum) ppl assume that my boy is hers!! when they get corrected they generally look horrified, i just laugh. i think that its great having kids young, you have so much more energy for them, and as they grow up yuor more likely to stay in tune with there needs! so think how silly they are and give your beautiful kids a hug!:valentine:

[Benji]

Yes! I hate it when people look at me.

Most people are usually admiring how cute DS is, but when they look at me, then DS, then me again, I hate it.

I don't know if I look younger than I am, but I just feel self conscious. Esp if he throws a tantrum for example - totally normal toddler behaviour.

Also, I've noticed that at the supermarket a lot of older mums ("normal" aged mums) give the kiddies lollies to keep them occupied, but when I give him a lollypop made from fruit juice (organic) it's like I don't know how to feed my own child, I have had a few comments.

[cocobambino]

Also, I've noticed that at the supermarket a lot of older mums ("normal" aged mums) give the kiddies lollies to keep them occupied, but when I give him a lollypop made from fruit juice (organic) it's like I don't know how to feed my own child, I have had a few comments.
:iagree: I just flash my diamonds lol, but it gets annoying

[Jesska08]

i havent had any comments THANK GOD.. i dont know what id do really. you know , knowing me im probably being self conscious and thier just looking at the babies but even when i see someone young or even around my age i take notice, not really in a bad way tho i just notice.

i dont really mind that much when im with my DP because i feel like i would be respected a bit better by the older generation of mothers because im with him. but its when im alone that i worry!

which i shouldnt :D i know! but one of those things ya cant help

[kiripearce]

I'm 26 and i still get it because i look much younger. They're probably just jealous. It really irks me when mothers do it just because they're older. Older doesnt necessarily mean better mother, i have so much energy and love taking my boy out with me whereas i see some mums who just look as if they dont enjoy their childrens company.
Just remember its their insecurities that makes them do it:)

[musicalmumma]

I find it depends on what Im wearing/made up that day, but I hate getting looks coz yeah I do look younger but as my doctor said 24 is not too young to be a mother, atleast I can chase my baby around and play with him.
And as long as we take care of and love our children it shouldn't really matter to anyone else how old we are.

[mummysangels]

I am a proud young mum and when ppl look at me i smile nod my head and keep walking.


I agree :yes:

[millymel]

I am in my thirties with an 11 year old but I look younger then I am so people often double look at me with child that age ... I hate it but thats their problem

[mum_inlove]

Yes, I get stared all the time. I'm 25 but I do look a bit younger. They must think I'm the babysitter or something. I normally just smile at them.

Funny story, one day, there was a guy who came to do our pool maintainance. He came up to the door and said to me ' hello, is your mummy home?' in this note as if he was speaking to a child. I burst out laughing and said "I am the mummy'. He kept apologising until he left :laughing:

[Leisa21]

Yes, I get stared all the time. I'm 25 but I do look a bit younger. They must think I'm the babysitter or something. I normally just smile at them.

Funny story, one day, there was a guy who came to do our pool maintainance. He came up to the door and said to me ' hello, is your mummy home?' in this note as if he was speaking to a child. I burst out laughing and said "I am the mummy'. He kept apologising until he left :laughing:
:laughing: Thats hilarious.

I do get stared at a lot but I dont think that 21 is young to be a mum. I looked like I was 18 when I was 15 and havent aged since :) So ppl think I'm a lot younger than I am. I dont care too much because I generally walk around in a state of bliss or sleep deprivation so if people have an issue they can stick it. I"m married (not that it makes a difference) and happy I dont care what judgement is passed on me. It does make it hard to make friends tho:yes:

[SweetAngels]

I used to be self conscious about it, and like someone previously said, eps when they are thrown a tanti in public......

Till one day an older lady popped up behind me and said "don't you just wish you can give him (my 3yo son) a lil smack?! Stupid law they brought in" she then smiled at me and walked off :confused: (NZ no smacking law)

That has happened a few times actually, and is always coming from the same age group that frown at me for being a young mum (Im 24 with 3 kids and I look younger) I now don't worry about their screwed up faces (haha) as far as I'm concerned if they think smacking is the answer, I'm a better mother then them :yes: so they can frown all they want, just cross their fingers the wind doesn't change direction HAHAHA

I'm a happy young Mummy too, wouldn't want my life any other way :D

[kayla Lilyz mum]

Who cares if they look, let them! You know what kind of mother u r and thats all that matters! I was 16 when i had my daughter and it happened all the time and i used to worry about it but now i don't think twice, I know that im a good mum and if they want to stare and make there comments so be it! Obviously got nothing better to do!

[Mum&bubs]

It used to get me alot, because I am 20 with a 3 year old and 19 month old. It was worse when I was even younger, but these days I just stare at people that stare at me, it soon gets them to look away.

I was always scared to go out without DF, because I always thought people looked at me more- and it's true, I get far less looks when I am with DF.

But yeah, sometimes I feel a bit self conscious when I go out with my girls even though I know its the ones staring with the problem and it really makes me mad/sad that people can make us feel this way.

[JATS]

I had Tom at 23 and was forever getting stared at, had some 40+ yr old woman announce rather loudly to her friend in a shopping center;

"isn't it a shame that so many single young girls are having babies for the baby bonus?"

:banghead: I swear I nearly decked her! Made sure I flashed my wedding ring, along with a glare. She blushed and dragged her friend off. Silly old moo would have been floored to know I'd been married long before conception, and that we went through over 18 months TTC to get DS!

Must admit the other day I got caught out 'staring' at a younger mum. In the RTA alone waiting to be served a girl who looked in her late teens walked up the the register with her partner, she was carrying a totally GORGEOUS newborn baby.

I was just gazing over daydreaming about, and wondering if/when we will finally get our #2, then realized she was watching me. :o :laughing: I gave her a knowing smile with teary eyes and she seemed to get it.

I hope she didn't get the wrong idea. I was just wishing I had a gorgeous new baby to hold too. :cloud9:

[*~Kate~*]

Ohh i get it all the time !! i'm 23 and have three little boys. but i look about 17 still LOL
I have to admit it does bother me , but in saying that for all the bad comments and stares i get , i get just as many good.
Its funny i get the most judgement from "normal" aged mums....

[miasmumma]

hi girlz,
i find im in a similar situation to most of you guyz. i think i got most of my stares when i was pregnant though (im 22). now that ive had mia(4.5mths) i dont notice it so much (maybe im too busy focusing on her i quess:o). i have definatley been known to flash my wedding ring mostly at older mums though:laughing:. that being said i also find it funny that the attention revolves more around how cute mia is when hubbys around. on the plus, i live around penrith and there are lots of young mummy's in the area.

[Jesska08]

gah i was walking across the road at the lights with my 6 month in the pram and my 3 year old holding onto my hand and the pram and an old guy walked past TSKing!!!! god i was angry...

but i have to say i often look at young mums too, not disaproving tho, i just look because i can relate

[tomnabbysmum]

ha it all sounds so familliar im 23 with 2 bubs when i was pregnant i got lots of tssks and if my ds starts yelling at the shops i can see the older people noding their heads also when i go out with my mum every one thinks the kids are hers and when she says no no not mine they look at me usually with a bit of a smirk i used to be very paranoid but i dont really care any more i just think they have nothing better to do

[Jesska08]

omg that reminds me of when i was at the shops and there was this lady with 3 kids and one was asking for something and she was SCREAMING at it and saying well go back and get it but u better want it and etc n it must have said something and shes was like if u dont stfu ill put u in the boot on the way home!!! my brother and i were like O M G

[cinnamonbear]

i was when my dd was first born

but honestly i dont car what others think anymore.. i know im an awsome mum so thats all that counts

i dont even notice if people look at me strange anymore (i dont think they did to start with i do believe it was all in my head as i was worried people would look and think badly of me)

people do look at me constantly but its more because i got such a beautiful baby and they want to say hello to her and give her compliments:p

[lunawolfspirit]

that so sad people still look at younger mums and tisk and make their opinions known when no once cares what they think.

who the heck do they think they are.

my mother in law had her first kid at 16, that kid is now 30. my grandmother was married at 16 and my pop is 10 years older then her, they went on to have 6 kids.

i was married at 19 and now having my first bubs at 22.

my sister is almost 30 and she has no kids and just got engaged and found out she has bad issues with her ovaries, so now she is depressed because her little sister is married with a baby on the way and she feels like she is missing out because she may have left things to late.

i think having babies in the 20's is a great age, no disrespect to other mothers younger or older
its just like what some one else said
as long as you're children are loved safe and well looked after then you are doing a great job no matter what you're age is.

[lotsakids]

its not stopped for me i had 3 kids by the time i was 22 so people stared even though im not particularly young any more (34) now i have 5 i still get stared at. my daughter whos 17 thinks its funny when she's at the shops with her 3 yr old sister and people make comments because they think shes the mother she tells them off "to mind their own business cause they're sisters" its so rude to comment or stare

[lunawolfspirit]

yeah you are right no one has the right to judge you.

i was catching up with family who live in a small town and they were telling me how they got a reputation for the most silly things, and its like people in city's wouldn't care about jo blow down the street, but they still stair at young mums or mum's with a few kids.

its just so rude they should mind their business

[blissfullybonkers]

i dont even acknowlege rude ppl like that anymore,people are so judgemental!!!i have been known to flash my E-ring at ppl though!

one thing that happend the other day was...well... im nearly 24 and my dad is 45 this year(he looks younger) and we went to the shops and an old man said to my DD 'i bet you keep mummy and daddy busy':dizzy: omg eeww!, it was weird my dad just said 'mummy and GRANDAD thanks':laughing:

[mummyanddaddytobe]

hi im 22 and get that a lot as i look so much younger then i am, as im only pregnant its prob going to get worse when i have our baby but wat gets me is an older mum can be pregnant or have children and they dont get looked at twice even know there is a chance she is a bad mum who neglects her children but me who looks younger gets looked at like im some money hungery dole bludger who only is having a baby for the baby bonus, i hate it how people can judge me with out even knowing me i am married we own a gorgeous house and we are financially stable. sorry about my rant but it really gets to me:)

[the_original_duchess]

you should see the looks i get. im 23 and im having my 4th.
theya re truely priceless.
somedays i get comments but meh to them. we are a happy healthy functioning family and if people want to think badly of me i ptiy them. they dont know what fun my children are:D

[Rileynjill]

I agree it is so hard going out and being judged! i suffer from social anxiety (fear of large crowds etc) and whilst pregnant and now going out with my 17 month old little boy it made enjoying being a mum so hard!. I am 22 and have recently started seeing a natropath who has given me some herbs and other remedies to stop the panic attacks in public. I spent a lot of time miserable at home for the very fear of being looked at and judged when riley was born. Now i am starting to feel more confident, but you see on the news people who cannot even feed or properly take care of their chn (all aged mums) and i just think what are they (the ppl in the shops at the park etc looking at me for? i push around an expensive pram, i am well clothed and so is my son and i look great! Probably just human envy striking again i say!!.:)

[Teley]

i dont even acknowlege rude ppl like that anymore,people are so judgemental!!!i have been known to flash my E-ring at ppl though!

one thing that happend the other day was...well... im nearly 24 and my dad is 45 this year(he looks younger) and we went to the shops and an old man said to my DD 'i bet you keep mummy and daddy busy'omg eeww!, it was weird my dad just said 'mummy and GRANDAD thanks':laughing:

:laughing:Yeah, I feel weird walking around with my dad too, I'm 20 and he's 44, but he looks 30, even though I look my age. Sometimes they give us these freaked out looks, and sometimes these sweet ones (when he's in Aus, he lives overseas), and honestly, it's the sweet ones that freak me out the most:eek::barf:O M G THIS IS MY DAD NO WE ARE NOT MARRIED!!!

I used to have anxiety issues until I realised a fun trick...make myself out to be younger than I am, and say things like, yeah, the baby bonus was good and flash them a huge grin:D. I get a kick out of ****ing the idiots off, honestly, it's funny if you don't take their pathetic views seriously.

ALTHOUGH, last Thursday, my DS's daycare teacher, who is usually so awesome, and I were having a convo about age, because I asked how old she was (she has stepkids) and she is 36 and looks 25! Then I told her to guess my age, and she says, hmmm...20? And I was like, wow, you guessed! And she was like, yeah, young, too young. I was like:eek:. Excuse me? She stutted and I forgot what she said, but I think I'll have to catch up with her and tell her that comment was inappropriate, it really took me aback because she is usually a nice person to talk to!

[mum2bubba]

Yes I get stared at alot. Its annoying. :rolleyes: