No BFP in over a year of trying, where to from here?

[all4you]

I am hoping that you can help me with some information

DP and I have been TTC for over 15 months now and still haven't had any luck.

What should we do now? Where do we go from here?

We were hoping for it to happen 'accidentally' at first, then we tried, and now we would like to have children, but it isn't happening / working for us.

Please let us know what to do from here

Thanks in advance

[Jamaica]

They say if you havent conceived in 12months you should consult your Dr. I think go see your GP and they will tell you where to from there and refer you to whom ever you need to see. Being that it has been so long they will no doubt be quickly trying to find answers. Good luck :)

[emma2938]

Hi,

I KNOW HOW YOU FEEL!!!!

DH and I were trying for 24 months exactly before i got my BFP.

I wnet to the GP after 12 months and had all sorts of blood tests done, and ultrasounds etc etc, but came up with nothing. I was 'healthy'. They said we could try Clomid or IVF etc, but we decided no, we would wait for it to be 2 years, then decide what to do, and you know what? hey presto, on our two year 'anniversary' we fell pregnant!!

I guess my message is dont lose heart, it can happen. we did nothing different at all. Infact we only BDd once that month. LOL

Good luck.:)

[MEKISS]

I'm no expert but I suggest if you haven't already to go and see a GP. They will probably get you to have a bt around cd21 to see if you're ovulating or not. Make sure you take your partner too cos they'll probably get him to do a sperm test as well.

My DH & I have been trying for 12 months & we have had both tests come back ok. We are now waiting to see a FS in June.

:fingerscrossed: it happens for you soon.

[all4you]

Make sure you take your partner too cos they'll probably get him to do a sperm test as well.


What is involved with this? I want to know that my partner feels comfortable before we start going to the dr.s I don't want any 'surprises' as his not always very open with others about this

[ringneck]

hi my partner had a sperm test, its pretty straight forward have to not ejaculate for 3 days prior to the test then he makes him self happy no lube or saliva into a little cup like wee sample cups and takes it into the pathology place within half an hour and hey presto its done, this will tell you if he has a low sperm count, low motility, or low morphology. your gp will either refer you to a gyno or fertility specialist who will do a blood test see if you have problems with your thyroid, adrenal glands, see what levels your follicle stimulating hormones are, your lh levels etc, they will more then likely do an u/s and if you havent had a recent pap smear one of them too. if anything looks abnormal in your u/s or they want a better idea of whats happening they may do a tubal patency test to see if your tubes are blocked or a laparoscopy.
are you charting?

[MEKISS]

I went to the doc's by myself for the first visit & had my BT done which then showed that I did in fact O that cycle.

The doctor then requested that we make another appointment for us both to see her. She explained to both of us what tests they perform, how a womans cycle works etc & then gave DH the instruction sheet on how to do the sperm test as well as the lab request form.

The test involves your partner ejaculating into a jar, by masturbation & using no lubricant at all. On our instructions it said that the ejaculation had to be performed no later than 5 days after his last ejaculation & to get the jar to the lab within an hour. The lab we use has no facilities for the men to do the test there so we got to do it at home.

Hope this helps.

[all4you]

Ok, thanks for the information, it will put DP's mind at ease knowing that they won't want him to do it there and then and no stress.

Thanks and anyone elses advice, please share

[~Emmylou~]

Are you charting so that you know when you're ovulating?

[all4you]

I have been charting my periods for over a year now.

I have not been BBT charting or anything other then marking on my online MyMonthlyCycles.com calendar when my period is here

[~Emmylou~]

Have a look at

Fertility Friend (http://www.fertilityfriend.com)

What you need to do now is chart your BBT and CM and work out when you're ovulating. Knowing when you get your period isn't going to tell you when you're actually fertile and likely to get pregnant.

Many women assume they ovulate on day 14 and waste lots of time aiming to do the deed around that time only to find that's not when they ovulate at all.

Many women on 28 day cycles will ovulate anywhere between day 10 and day 18 - and that is normal. But if you don't know you can't plan to catch the egg.

Honestly hun it's highly likely that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you or your hubby - you're just mistiming things a bit. Charting ovulation is very worthwhile before you go spending tons of money on fertility specialists, drugs, and testing.

Just knowing when you ovulate can make such a massive difference. I have a 28 day cycle but I ovulate around day 17. Knowing that meant we could time things with our last child to the point where we got pregnant with him after DTD once. That was it - once. But if I was working on the assumption of a day 13/14 ovulation I could still be trying now. I've been charting for 10 years now and it's such empowering knowledge to have!

:hugs: hope you get that BFP soon.

[KatiesMum]

Come over and join us in the BFP club (here (http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=176685)) - for girls who have been trying for 12 months or more.

Everyone is very friendly, has heaps of good advice and support - and most of all a thorough understanding of what you are going through :D

Also - all of the girls in the Long Time TTC thread (here (http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=174795)) are fantastic too ....

[NonnyMouse]

I feel for you! It took me 18 months to conceive my daughter after going off the depo, and after the eating healthy, stopping smoking, gaining weight (I was way too skinny) we still hadn't managed to conceive. In the end, I gave up trying, started smoking again, lost too much weight again, and stopped caring... then I had a bout of campylobacter that left me absolutely drained.... and go figure... THAT was the month I finally conceived! LOL

I've heard from others that as soon as you stop trying, it will happen, and that was certainly the case for me. So maybe before you start looking at medical reasons, you could just take a short TTC break and relax for a bit... it may be just what the doctor ordered.