Im having one

[LSCM]

Im having a termination on thurs. Im scared. Im scared mostly of going under a general. I dont want to be awake to hear any of it so im guessing going under is the best option.

The decision has been made, Dp & I are 100% sure this is the best option for everyone.

Ive been trying to avoid the whole thought of it. But i cant any longer.
Im approx 9-10wks.

Ive been reading thru all the posts in this section and its helped so much.

[naiwen]

I dont know much about this subject but please take some of these from me :hugs::hugs:.

[makingalolaorliam]

:hugs:best wishes for you and your family:hugs:

[neostudded]

Good luck :hugs: thinking of you.

[preciousbabyboy]

:hugs:goodluck for thursday :hugs:

[Kangaskippy]

:hugs: Take care...just wanted to send you some hugs and support at this time in your life.:hugs:

[Yummy Mummy of 5]

Big hugs to you sweetie :hugs:

I will be thinking of you please take care :hugs:

[cheezelz]

Speaking from experience I think that if you are 100% sure you you are doing the right thing and you are making the best decision for you & DP future. I know that the previous termination I had was the best decision I could have ever made for my life/future and I dont regret it or judge myself for doing it for a moment.
Dont be worried that you will wake up or remember anything. Both with my termination and DC when I had a MC I was put under the general before I entered the theatre and didnt wake up till it was all over and I was in recovery. It seems at first that nothing has happened at all but then there is a bit of pain which is the only reminder.
I wish you luck and strength for Thursday. You should know that you are a very strong woman for knowing what the best thing is for you in this situation.:yelclap:

[snapcracklepop]

Just wanted to give you some more of these.
:hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:

[Lollie86]

wanting to send you some :hugs::hugs::hugs:

[V8]

You will have a general so you shouldn't remember anything. Physically it's not really a big deal, but there's definately an emotional toll. :hugs: :hugs: Even though you know it's the right decision, it still might be good to talk to a grief counsellor as i was very suprised at how badly i reacted to a termination years after i had had it done. :hugs: Take care of yourself.

[Yummy Mummy of 5]

Even though you know it's the right decision, it still might be good to talk to a grief counsellor

I think that's a great idea :hugs:

[rowiechb]

:hugs::hugs:Take care:hugs::hugs:

[Mamalicious]

:hugs: for you. :hugs: :hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:

[LSCM]

thank you for your kind words.

the waiting for D-day sucks.
No-one IRL apart from a close friend and Dp know. Its so hard.

[Yummy Mummy of 5]

You have us :hugs:

[2sweetgirls]

:hugs:

[SorenLorensen]

just wanting to send you some hugs :hugs::hugs::hugs:

don't feel you need to explain yourself to any of us, this is the support section for terminations so that is what you should get :hugs:

[hayleysmummy]

LSCM- I agree with wha V8 has said I know I did the right thing when I terminated but it does emotionally creep up on you at times so please know if you ever need to chat you know where to come big hugs for you :hugs: this must be hard

[LSCM]

I wouldnt want anyone to have to go thru how ive felt over the last week or so.

I can totally relate now to how ppl who make this decision feel, only until you are IN the situation can u fully understand the feelings u feel and the emotions u go thru.


thank you girls, im unsure how i will feel after the surgery. I may need to chat about the emotions.

Im so glad theres an area in here i can post in.

[Yummy Mummy of 5]

I just wanted to give you some hugs sweetie :hugs:

[supa_star323]

I agree with V8 (I think it was). Talking to a counsellor is a good idea. It is amazing how it creeps up on you years later even though you know it was the right thing to do. I wish you luck, and don;t worry about the GA. It's not too bad, though where I went must have been a horrible place compared to others from reading the stories in here. They made me get up on the table and blah blah blah before giving me the GA. Anyway, not going into that.
:hugs::hugs::hugs: It takes a strong person to make a decision like this and know it is the right one a go through with it. All the best...

[spiraldancer]

:hugs:hi thinking of you i've gone down that road before so know about the waiting; to be honest once i was out i felt really relieved. what helped me was doing a little ritual explaining to the little being that i was sorry but could'nt go through it i had a good scream in the bush and let myself feel sad then let a balloon go . hope this helps i think acknowledging things lets us go forward many blessings goodluck:babydust2:spiraldancer

[rowiechb]

:hugs::hugs:More hugs:hugs::hugs:PM me anytime:hugs:

[Qube]

:hugs: good luck for Thursday :hugs: I don't have anything to offer advice-wise, so just wanted to offer some support. PM anytime :hugs:

[LSCM]

thanks... so so much.

im preparing mentally for it today.

[SorenLorensen]

:hugs: we are here for you if you need us

[rowiechb]

:hugs: Take care :hugs: We are here :hugs::hugs:

[maiko]

I'll be thinking of you tomorrow. :hugs:

[Ange&Seth]

Thinking of you Chic :hugs::hugs::hugs:

[trini246]

:hugs::hugs::hugs: i just want to send hugs your way & i am thinking about you :hugs::hugs::hugs:

[LSCM]

thank you for your thoughts.

It was a waiting game today but it all went well.
I found i was very calm and comfortable with going into the clinic. Afew tears at times but overall i was very content with my decison.

It was alot easier than what i thought it would be. Im feeling ok tonite. sore, crampy,but thats normal. The staff were amazing. So supportive etc.

I had a twilight due to my asthma and weight. I dont remember much apart from joking with the anesthetist about gin and tonics. the rest i cant remember until i was asked to roll onto the bed and wheeled into recovery.

thank you again to all who posted. I am relieved its over. And 100% happy with my decision for me and my family

[Sazeby]

Hope you're feeling ok after today, have you thought about speaking to a grief councillor?

[LSCM]

i have a good support network of friends that i will chat to about my feelings etc.

I will consider a councellor if the need be.
Atm i dont think i need to speak to one.

Im going to start a journal and see how i go.

[Yummy Mummy of 5]

:hugs: How have things be going for you sweetie?

[LSCM]

hi,
ive been going ok. I havent been on this forum much. I started work fulltime 2mths ago, and havent really looked back. the days after the termination were up and down. the what ifs flooded my head but i know it was the best decision i couldve made for all of us.

I keep thinking about the EDD, and how i will feel around that time. Im still unsure how i will cope.

i dont remember or recall much of that day. TBH im glad.

i was 9wks preg. my EDD was the 15th dec 08

But im doing ok. thank you for all your support. I really am grateful to have had this area to talk about it all.

[hayleysmummy]

No worries hun we are here for support not to judge your desicions

I still think about the babies birthday and the what ifs and I had it done 5 yrs ago, it takes time to heal but it does get easier

Know we are here if you need to chat :hugs:

You've coped really well