Why is he like this? I'm going crazy

[SummerLove]

Hey there, I'm not sure if this is posted in the right area... I don't really know where to post it =\ I'm 17 and I'm a SAHM, my bf's 21 and he works. DD is 9 months today ^.^ When she was first born, my bf had all the time in the world for her. He'd get home from work and take her from me... it was actually kinda hard to get her back off him! He slowly started losing interest in her and now, it's hard to get him to do anything. He doesn't see her about 4 days of the week cos he stays out, and when he is home early enough and she's awake, he goes in the room and watches tv or plays playstation. He literally won't spend more than half an hour with her. If I'm in the same room with them and she's crying, he won't tend to her until he's finished with what he's doing. He never gets up during the night and she's just started teething again (we're going for the 4th tooth) and I feel like I'm losing my mind. If I leave them alone together, he'll stay with her for about 10 mins then just keeps calling me until I come take her. He only gets one day a week off work, and he goes out. I don't know what to do but I need help!! I mean, God knows I love DD and I'd do anything for her... but I just don't get any breaks =(

[jdsmummy]

Have you tried talking to him? You could suggest he gives your dd her bath a couple of nights a week? Unless you talk to him theres no way in knowing how hes feeling. He may be feeling slighlty over whelmed being a dad and working full time. Sometimes partners forget that even though your at home its not an easy job looking after kids all day. Hopefully you can sort something out.

[SummerLove]

I've tried talking to him... all he says is I should be able to cope on my own or we end up fighting

[Benji]

:hugs::hugs::hugs:

I have no idea why some dads are like that. If I went to work all day, the FIRST thing I would want to do when getting home would be see and spend time with my family.

My ex was exactly the same. I'd hate to say it but that's a major reason for my leaving him.

I got sick of him spending all day at work, watching TV, ignoring us, and seeing his friends / mucking around with his cars on his day off.

So one day I took matters in my own hands.

I walked out....

Like he always did. I just said "seeya I'm going out to the shops" and left him there with DS. I knew that he wouldn't hurt him. I knew he would watch him because I had forced him to but I did feel guilty.

But it was so worth the coffee alone, browsing the shops alone, driving in the car with the music loud, singing at the top of my lungs :D

[kiripearce]

Hmmm dont have this problem so i feel for you...but you're doing an awesome job taking all the responsibility. My partner works too and only has about an hour each night with his boy before he goes to bed and he loves every minute. Maybe just start small, get him to do bath or a feed. Also i try to give them as much time together as possible. I walk my partner to the train every day and pick him up and my son is now old enough to wave bye to daddy...he loves that. Talk Talk Talk, just find out what he's feeling.
Goodluck hon
Cheers
Kiri