Wish me luck!

[GloomCookie]

Well, as of last night we've decided to start TTC. According to Fertility Friend (which I just signed up to, and have no idea what I'm doing with it :) ) I'm on CD 13 and fertile, so we fluked it with that. Theoretically I will be ovulating tomorrow, so we better get some more practice in. :D :fingerscrossed:

Anyway, I have a few questions: one of the old wives tales for prevention that I had heard was going to the toilet afterwards. I was wondering if there is any truth to that, because I always have to pee after... practice (TMI?) and I don't want that to ruin the chances of successfully conceiving. Has anyone else heard that?

How do I tell if I'm ovulating if I don't want to bother with the temperatures and all that stuff? Are there any easy signs to look for?

When is the best time to check if I am pregnant? When does the TWW start? I'm confused with everything to do with signs and stuff to tell if I will get that elusive BFP.

Oh and Mummy-2-2, if/when you read this, try and contain your squeals of excitement, otherwise I'd probably hear them from my house. :laughing:

[moonblossom]

I've always been lucky enough to be able to feel when the egg has released so when I've planned to concieve I wait for that little tell tale sign about two weeks after my period,

The last one was a surprise tho, didn't feel a thing and ovulated a week early, hence lucky number eight coming LOL

About going to the loo after...pfttt I say, I do everytime and that definately didn't stop those little squiggles LOL

Best of luck to you:thumbsup:

[GloomCookie]

moonblossom: Wow! 8 children?! How on earth do you manage?


I'm glad that you both have the same urge to pee afterwards and have successfully conceived. Myth busted. :D That makes me feel a bit better about my chances of conceiving.

[Seekrit]

You should pee afterwards anyway, risk of UTI :p

Good luck! :D Have fun doing the horizontal mambo and what not.

I have no tips as it was quite easy for us, we just had sex nearly every night (Oh, going off the pill did GREAT things to my libido!) and then, bada-bang-bada-boom, 2 lines! :)

[moonblossom]

Ahhh a little bit of insanity, lotsa love and MASSIVE ammounts of patients LOL

[nicoleE]

i heard that to increase your chances of conception you should lay down with your pelvis tiled up (on a pillow) for 10-15 minutes...?? I always though that this made sence as as soon as you get up gravity takes its toll on the little squigglies and the majority of them all come rushing back out!

[GloomCookie]

I'd heard something similar. But that doesn't really help me when I need to pee afterwards. :( Although it doesn't happen all the time, so perhaps I'll give that a go next time, bladder willing. (TMI? :D )

[Ruby Slippers]

Good luck :fingerscrossed:

[GloomCookie]

Thanks everyone for your luck.

I have another question. According to FF (only judging of menses) I am ovulating today. We BD in the wee hours of the morning (around 1am, TMI? :D) but I was wondering if there is a certain time that is better for increasing the chances of conception? Is it better to BD multiple times in the day (time permitting, of course :laughing: ), or is once enough?

[Mummy-2-2]

did you hear them? DID YOU?!!!!
YAYAY!!!!!!!

Well now you are gonna find out TMI from me:laughing:

We took Temps with T and BDd about 4 times a day:yelclap: (now he'd be lucky if it was 4 times a century!!) and also tilted pelvis afterwards. and she took about two or three months (cant remember)

With Ajay he decided to ttc, I went along with it thinking "we cant conceive if we dont do it" anywho, we did it twice, no temps, no nothing, and he was conceived within a month. (At the time I was not happy cos of the horrid pg with T)

By the way- dont make me scream like that again, I just got little dude to sleep!

[GloomCookie]

:laughing: :laughing: :laughing:

Just wait until we tell everyone we're pregnant! That'll make you scream! :D

[Mummy-2-2]

well you better bludee tell me before you tell them:shame:

[GloomCookie]

I could always be really mean and not tell anyone until the wedding, like the original plan was. :p How'd that be for torture for you? :laughing:

[Mummy-2-2]

:mad: :mad: :mad: :banghead:

[GloomCookie]

To be honest, I don't think I could do that. I think I'd be dying to tell someone!

[Mummy-2-2]

good! that someone better be me!

[Funkychicken]

Good Luck Gloomcookie. This may be way TMI but a surefire way to know you are ovulating is to inspect your discharge (you've probably already heard about this but I'll write it again). When it becomes really egg white like, you are ovulating. If you can't really tell from your knickers the best way is to use your fingers and then open your fingers apart. if it stretches all gooey and egg whitey you are ovulating. If it is still thin and runny, you aren't quite there yet.
I know I sound gross but it's the most obvious method. Our vet does this with our mares when he is determining whether they are ovulating, and it works for them as well!:D

[GloomCookie]

Cheers for that. I had heard about it, but not in the same amount of detail. I have noticed it appearing before, so I'll have to keep an eye on it now that I know what it's trying to tell me. :)

[sandj]

good luck!! hope you conceive :-)

Im trying too, all this information is great for me too.

[GloomCookie]

Good luck to you too!

[Jem]

Goodluck :fingerscrossed:

[GloomCookie]

We're still trying. I've no idea if/when I ovulated this month. I've discovered it is very hard to listen to your body when you've been ignoring any sign but the obvious (food, sleep, toilet) for the past 23 years. Anyone got any tips of obvious signs? Please remember that I'm not using temperature things or anything else. It's just me and my body, and my partner and his.

[SuperWoman]

Good luck!!! Fingers crossed!!:fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed:

[Luvmytum]

Hiya

I conceived in Jan following the basic principal of around 14 days after the first day of your last period. We just made sure we did it each day or close to every day for about 5 days surrounding that time ie a few days either side to be sure.

Luck would have it that first go it worked. Had a m/c at 11 wks but still glad it worked! Will follow the same thing this month & fingers crossed. Just got my AF so happy to start the process again!

It depends how regular your periods usually are too. If you think they are generally 28 days then somewhere in the middle is prob about right. Just look for the visual signs also - very moist discharge. that's the biggest sign.

Good luck!

[GloomCookie]

My period used to be like clockwork before I went on the pill. But a few years ago I had to come off it to get my wisdom teeth out and it's taken this long to get back into some semblance of a routine again. It's not quite back into the 28day cycle, but it's pretty damn close. I think that we timed it right with the rumpy pumpy, I suppose only time will tell now. Although if I'm not pregnant this month, there is always next month considering the timing on this month was a complete fluke. :D

Thanks for the advice. :thumbsup:

[GloomCookie]

Well... I still have no idea if/when I ovulated but my period appears to have gone AWOL for the time being. I'm assuming that the two week wait begins from the day your period was due to arrive? If that's correct, then I have 8 days until I'll be testing. I'm not sure how I'm feeling. All I know is that the past 6 days have flown by, so we'll see if the next 8 drag their feet.

[baby dancer]

I'd heard something similar. But that doesn't really help me when I need to pee afterwards. :( Although it doesn't happen all the time, so perhaps I'll give that a go next time, bladder willing. (TMI? :D )

I try to go to the loo before we bd, that seems to work for me as I always used to make a trip to the toilet afterwards.
I am trying the bum in the air theory! Not attractive and makes bd very un-romatic. I actually sleep with the pillow under my bum afterwards! Waiting on BFP at the moment if I get it then I guess I have the bum in air theory to thank!
As for Ovulating I wasn't sure and was advised to bd every second day from the 10th day of your cycle

TWW is Two week wait which is after you ovulate before AF.

Good luck :fingerscrossed:

[Jem]

Wishing you luck :fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed: :fingerscrossed: :)

[GloomCookie]

TWW is Two week wait which is after you ovulate before AF.

Ok... So when do I test to see if I'm pregnant? According to FF my period was due on the 25th of April, with no sign of it currently. I'm on CD35 at the moment.

[baby dancer]

Well I am hopless and I tested before AF was due!
I think it is probably best to wait one week (hard to do) then test.
I am on CD40!! I am testing again this weekend.
How long is your cycle normally?

[GloomCookie]

I believe it's around 28 days. Sometimes a bit longer, but only by a couple of days.

[baby dancer]

Well then your AF is already one week late. I would take a test this week :fingerscrossed: . Have you got an pg symptoms?

[GloomCookie]

I honestly wouldn't have a clue. Terrible aren't I? Basically I've been ignoring my body for the past 23 years and wouldn't have a clue if it's been trying to tell me anything except for the basic eat, sleep and toilet signs. :)

I have been going to the toilet a lot more frequently. I guess that could be a symptom?

[baby dancer]

LOL :laughing: no your not terrible, I have done the same! It has only been the past 5 months since starting to TTC that I have taken any notice of my body's signs!
Frequent toilet trips is definatly a sign and a good one!
Are you tired, hungry, emotional. Sore bb's, bloated tummy, headache, snuffley nose?

[GloomCookie]

Well, tired and hungry are how I usually am. I don't sleep very well and we only eat 1 meal a day (very bad, I know). But I have had more frequent headaches and sniffling.

[baby dancer]

Well I would take a test :fingerscrossed:
One meal per day, my god I feel like a piggy I love food, can't get enough of it!

[GloomCookie]

I would love to eat more than one meal a day but for some reason we just can't figure out how to budget for it.

Can you recommend a home pregnancy test? How expensive are they?

[baby dancer]

I have heard that Crystal Clear is one of the best brands, but it is expensive I think it's about $17. I have tried Confirm - didn't really like it though (probably because it gave me a BFN) and also tried fortel - wasn't a huge fan of that either. With the fortel test you have to wee in a cup, others you simply wee on the stick. They vary in price from around $8-$20 most of them you get two tests in the pack

[GloomCookie]

Should I check out supermarkets or chemists for the tests?

Thanks heaps for your help. Looks like I'm going to have to try and work a pregnancy test into the shopping budget.

[baby dancer]

Chemists have a larger range and then at least if you want help you can ask someone at the Chemist. I have bought mine when doing groceries but I think I am going to go to the chemist from now on.
You will have to work them into your budget but when you get your BFP it will be worth it!
No worries glad I could help, let's hope we both get our BFP's :fingerscrossed:

[GloomCookie]

Good luck! I won't be able to buy a test until Thursday when my fiance gets paid next... Man it's going to suck waiting for it. :)

[baby dancer]

Yes the waiting is the worst part!!
Good luck to you, make sure you keep me informed!:D

[MumsieMel]

I would love to eat more than one meal a day but for some reason we just can't figure out how to budget for it.



Sorry, just a question, if this is the case, are you sure you can afford a baby?

Do you already have children?

not trying to offend, just curious. :)

[GloomCookie]

You haven't offended me, I've been thinking the same thing. But everyone I've spoken to says not to worry about it, so we're not worrying about it. My fiance is trying to sort out work at the moment, so maybe we'll get some more $$ coming in soon.

[mumslilspunks]

Hi there, I too am ttc i already have a little boy and god knows how i fell pg with him, but since he was born never went back on the pill or anything and he turned one last friday!! So my theory is Sex up every day and afterwards, stand on my head!:yes: I dont know if it will help but atleast the little squigles wont have anywhere elese to go!!:D :D :fingerscrossed:

[littlepickle]

just wanted to wish you luck! Waiting is the worst part but also very exciting and full of anticipation!

[GloomCookie]

Waiting is more of an annoyance than anything else. If I'd realised my mistake about what the TWW was I could have bought a tester last fortnight instead of having to wait for this one. But yeah. Good luck to everyone else that is trying. :fingerscrossed:

[Faithcomesinnumbers]

Good luck and I hope all goes well. :yelclap:

[GloomCookie]

Well we discovered an extra bill that we didn't realise we had, so now I have to wait until Wednesday next week when my pay comes through before buying a test. :banghead:

[baby dancer]

Have you had any more symptoms?

[GloomCookie]

I've been waking up rather early every morning with a very upset stomach (I'm not a vomitor - TMI?). But again, I have no idea if that's a symptom or not. :confused:

Possibly my imagination, but I believe my stomach feels slightly heavier, as well as my breasts seeming bigger. But my bra is old and too small to start off with so it's not really easy to judge from that. :)

[baby dancer]

Nausea is a symptom as is sore bb's. Are you having to go to the toilet more? When was AF due again?

[GloomCookie]

I have been going to the loo more frequently.

According to FF my period was due on the 25th of April, it's saying it's next due on the 23rd of this month.

[baby dancer]

That sounds very promising :smiliedance:
I think you are going to get that BFP when you test :yes:

[GloomCookie]

:fingerscrossed:

[baby dancer]

I have my :fingerscrossed: for you. Let me know how you go :thumbsup: .
Enjoy the weekend.
Ilana

[GloomCookie]

Thanks, you too. :thumbsup:

[baby dancer]

Will do.
See you next week :D

[GloomCookie]

Well... Today's the day. I have a pregnancy test but it appears that my bladder has developed a case of stage fright. It's so damn frustrating. Also my fiance has gone out for a while and I'm not sure I want to test without him here. Aargh! What to do, what to do! :banghead:

[Mummy-2-2]

Just test DAMMIT! then get on tha damn phone to ME and tell me, then I spose you can call your fiyankee:D

[GloomCookie]

I would test, if my damn bladder would co-operate with me!

[Mummy-2-2]

So did you buy the test and then he went out? didnt he wanna know the result?

He already "knows" tho doesnt he?

[GloomCookie]

We bought the test and then my bladder had stage fright so he went out.
He came back just as I was testing, and it appears to be a BFN. So I'll be testing again tomorrow morning and then I suppose it'll be a trip to the doc, like you suggested. *sigh*

[Funkychicken]

We bought the test and then my bladder had stage fright so he went out.
He came back just as I was testing, and it appears to be a BFN. So I'll be testing again tomorrow morning and then I suppose it'll be a trip to the doc, like you suggested. *sigh*
This is such an anxious time. I remember so clearly the testing, waiting, testing and so on... I'll keep sending out the baby dust for you.
Good Luck.:fingerscrossed:

[Mummy-2-2]

Oh.... are you ok? Is fiyankee still there?

[GloomCookie]

I'm good. A little disappointed, it appeared to be a pretty definate BFN. But I'll test again tomorrow and then make a trip to the docs if it's still negative.

[GloomCookie]

After having no sleep last night (don't know if it's linked to the neg. test yesterday), I've tested again. It's still negative. :gloomy: I bought a twin pack of Crystal Clear. I suppose the next step is a trip to the docs.

Knowing my luck my body has just tricked itself into thinking it's pregnant again. It did it once before and I skipped my period for a month, but it came back. So I suppose only time will tell. *sigh*

[baby dancer]

:hugs: and :kiss: for you. When do you think you will go to the docs? I have my :fingerscrossed: for you still

[GloomCookie]

I have no idea. And my fiance is asleep so he doesn't know yet. I suppose when he's free to take me and when I can book and appointment.

[Fairyfloss]

Good luck:fingerscrossed:

[baby dancer]

I will keep my :fingerscrossed: for you :hugs:

[GloomCookie]

Thanks. :fingerscrossed: it'll be a good result.

[baby dancer]

I hope so :yes: :fingerscrossed:

[GloomCookie]

:thumbsdown: Well, my period rocked up yesterday so I guess it's back to the drawing board. :gloomy:

[baby dancer]

So sorry :hugs: and :kiss: for you.
:fingerscrossed: for this time

[GloomCookie]

Cheers. How's your luck holding out?

[baby dancer]

Well I am on cd23 so af should be due next week. Been taking vitex this month so with any luck that will have assisted. If af doesn't appear by wed I guess I will test :fingerscrossed:

[GloomCookie]

Much luck to you!

[baby dancer]

Thanks, same to you.
How long have you been ttc?

[GloomCookie]

We've only been trying since April, but my fiance has wanting to try for about 7 years now! :laughing:

[baby dancer]

I bet it feels like you have been trying for 7 years!
We have been trying since January and it feels like an eternity.:banghead:

[GloomCookie]

It doesn't feel like we've been trying forever at all. It might feel like it to him because he's wanted children for so long, but I'm really just going with the flow. If it happens, then wikid! but until then I'm not stressing about it. I'm hoping that all goes to plan because I think it'd be an excellent wedding present for my fiance.

[baby dancer]

Good for you that's great. I wish I was that relaxed. I get way to worked up over it. And I know it will happen when it's supposed to, yet I get myself all stressed.

[GloomCookie]

I was talking to a friend last night and found out that it took them 7 years to get pregnant, all because she was stressing herself out. As soon as she stopped stressing about it, she got pregnant.

[baby dancer]

Wow that's amazing isn't it. I have been ok this month, haven't stressed/obsessed over it as I have had lots of destractions so hopefully I can remain like this and falling pg will be easier.:fingerscrossed:

[GloomCookie]

It really is amazing what we can do with our minds. Stressing over it can cause us not to get pregnant, but want it too much and we can convince ourselves we're pregnant (http://www.findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m0689/is_n5_v30/ai_9147671), even though we're not.