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hey there just wanting info on high cholesterol in children if anyone in here has kids with it and why.
we found out that SD has high cholesterol at 10 years of age . and i will clarify she is not over weight and doesnt have diabetes just wondering if anything else causes it apart from diet and lack of exercise??
its no surprise to me and DH really as 1 of her half brothers (they all are living with the mother) has black rot on his teeth at the very top of his teeth so we are guessing diet.
I'm pretty sure it's more about diet than diet and exercise. What can you do to help her? Maybe you and your DH need to get custody of these kids and save them from their mother's love...
I'm pretty sure it's more about diet than diet and exercise. What can you do to help her? Maybe you and your DH need to get custody of these kids and save them from their mother's love...
the SD is DH only child ( the mother has a hubby who she hasd the kid with rooten teeth to and 1 set of twins which have her hubby's name yet arent bio his and they havent even been adopted by him as it was a fling and the bio father told her to get f#####.iykwim)
we have asked her what the levels are yet she reckons the doctor phoned her and said to her that her cholesterol is high and the mother reckons she has a dr appointment this week sometime to discuss the results. she is interstate so we are waiting back on what she has to say in her next email. there are no custody orders etc but how could we prove it on diet alone (i know might sound silly but would like to know also we are trying to find out the doctor so we can get a copy of her file and see what else is in it)
my DH never gets a say in anything she just wants her money from him and thats it.(shes one of those lol)
As a parent he's entitled to speak to the doctor and see the documents.
Hi Pumpkin
After talking to a dietician friend of mine, I found out that cholestorel levels are more to do with genes than diet and exercise. Having said that, diet and exercise have a huge impact on it as well. (I'd hate to see the cholestorel levels of my DSD and DSS!). My DSD was at the doctors a lot last year with stomach complaints, she told me she had holes in her stomach (:eek: but very unbelieveable, and we never know what to believe these days), anyway, she now no longer eats Maccas (but still lots of chips and pies etc), but apparently hasn't had the same stomach complaints since (for now...)
As a parent he's entitled to speak to the doctor and see the documents.
does he have to provide a birth certificate for her to prove he is the father or just find out who they take her to and ask for a copy over the phone once he has sent a signed stat dec or something?
Hi Pumpkin
After talking to a dietician friend of mine, I found out that cholestorel levels are more to do with genes than diet and exercise. Having said that, diet and exercise have a huge impact on it as well. (I'd hate to see the cholestorel levels of my DSD and DSS!). My DSD was at the doctors a lot last year with stomach complaints, she told me she had holes in her stomach (:eek: but very unbelieveable, and we never know what to believe these days), anyway, she now no longer eats Maccas (but still lots of chips and pies etc), but apparently hasn't had the same stomach complaints since (for now...)
supossedly diabetes runs in her mothers side but DH side has nothing about cholesterol plus supposedly there is more risk of it if she is obese which she isnt shes like a rake. we know she eats fruit but apart from that we dont know what they feed her iykwim. so we mainly put it down to diet ourselves as well but were looking for any alternatives i will keep posted when she replies back about the levels and the control measures the dr specifies. (now to try and contact the doctor) just a bit strange when we were down at xmas and saw her ( 2 times) that her half brother who is about 4 nearly 5 has two front rotten teeth right at the top i think this is the main reason we put it down to diet iykwim)
Hi again pumpkin
Firstly - it may well be due to malnourishment rather than genes, but genes can be a huge factor. My grandmother is a really healthy lady (for an 82yr old), slim and eats very well, but still has relatively high cholesterol. From working with people who've had strokes/ heart attacks etc, I also saw people who didn't have high cholesterol, but were obese.
Anyway, in your case, I'd say that diet sounds like the culprit (like my step children), especially looking at the evidence of you SD brother's teeth. (The other main thing to rot teeth in a child that young is epilepsy medication - something that can also be common if he might have been diagnosed with ADD or the like).
As for the talking to the doctor stuff, regardless of the presence of legal orders, the mother may be seen as the custodial guardian (also known as the residential parent etc), and you may not be able to talk to the doctor without her consent. I was told as a therapist that I wasn't able to speak to a non-custodial parent without the custodial parent's sayso. This has been incredibly frustrating for me as a stepmum, but something I understand from the point of view that sometimes (particularly in the light of some homicide cases) this protection is needed for the child. As a step mum I have been frustrated with not being able to speak with therapists directly involved in the care of my step children (but was naughtily able to find out when my DSS wasn't taken to a specialist hand therapy appointment and so didn't get treatment when his mum said he just didn't need it - not so:shame: )). As a therapist myself, I have been involved in a situation where the father was turning up wanting to know some details about his daughter's therapy, but we were unable to release information before he went to through a lawyer and FOI. He was trying to prove the children's mother unfit - sad story, but in the end, she kept custody of the children and he was murdered.
Bottom line, as stepparent (or non-custodial one), you get to feel really frustrated and powerless.:(
InSaneOne
09-04-2006, 22:37
hi pumpkin,
firstly let me tell you that i haev high cholesterol. i was diagnosed at 17 with a level of 9.7 which is very bad. my mum has been taking tablets for her high cholesterol for as long as i can remember. my dad's mum also has high cholesterol and is medicated for it. recently after much nagging to see a dr my dad is now on medication too. my little sister has a semi-high level but is managing by diet at the moment. as i child i was not obese i was very active and because mum had high cholesterol we ate healthy all the time. (never chips or fries in sight).
now i am about a 5 and the dr said if i can keep it below 5 or better yet under 4, i can go off tablets and control it by diet. and we wait and see.
in my case it is mainly genetics that caused the high cholesterol not diet. if you have any specific q's about cholesterol i can see if i can help you answer them.
I may be off the mark, but I honestly can't see how even a non-custodial parent is not entitled to medical information about their child (unless the parent is responsible for the medical problem or injury).
Honestly Pumpkin if this woman is only in it for the money, get that child off her and raise it yourself. Apparently it will cost you less and you will also be saving a life.
I may be off the mark, but I honestly can't see how even a non-custodial parent is not entitled to medical information about their child (unless the parent is responsible for the medical problem or injury).
Honestly Pumpkin if this woman is only in it for the money, get that child off her and raise it yourself. Apparently it will cost you less and you will also be saving a life.
I agree that it sounds unlikely, but I was just reporting my experience. We know in our situation that FACS (also called DOCS) has been involved in the children's other house, but were never able to find out details (of these interventions as well as medical and therapy issues) - this may have been important information as to whether we should pursue custody (as we have considered). I particularly looked into this when we DSS attended speech pathology (and :eek: OT - although we hadn't had contact with the children for a period of a few months at this time due to the mother making threats and the small issue of an assault charge I'd placed on her), we wanted copies of therapy programs so that we could carry out the programs when the children were with us. Biomum wouldn't provide them to us, and we were unable to get them ourselves.
As for the otherside... I guess patient / client privilege has to be maintained for the child's protection - there are a lot of suss parents out there where it's hard to know if they are really trying to act in the best interest of the child.
As I said - very frustrating all round.:thumbsdown:
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