Do you get scared

[tyler's mum]

That one day you will wake up and still be alone:confused: Im so scared that before i know it tyler will be all grown up moved out and i will still be alone.

I dont go out tryed the internet dating with no luck. Everyone says i will find my mr right just hard to believe when sitting at home iykwim.

[Ana Gram]

Very occasionally I get the feeling that I will never be involved with anyone again and actually care. Most of the time I don't care at all. But once DD is at school full time, my ex and I are going to be sharing a house, so there will definitely be no chance of any romance for me.

[OneBabyBoy]

It's a real cliche but one that I think is true - You have to learn to really love being by yourself. Once you are happy by yourself and with yourself you will see people coming into your life, I think they are attracted to that. Just my opinion Tam, something to think about :hugs::goodvibes:

[Amberlea]

I dont go out tryed the internet dating with no luck. Everyone says i will find my mr right just hard to believe when sitting at home iykwim.

Funnily enough - I did find Mr Right by sitting at home.
He was a friend of a friend in Adelaide and we started talking on msn.. and here we are happily engaged a year later.

Maybe you need to look within yourself and find out why you so desperately want someone in your life - if it is because of sheer loneliness, then you may need to look for other ways to overcome that.

Theres no point in thinking that you are always going to be alone, because that is going to do nothing but make you upset and isnt productive at all, and there is no truth in the matter.. The only people who are alone forever, are those who have chosen to be.

You need to be happy within yourself before you can be happy with anyone else.. and I agree with what OBB said.

[SmileyBJ]

I think I'm very slowly finding my happy place within myself, that I'm enjoying being single again and also have hope & truely believe I will find another special person oneday even if its 3years or more down the track... :)

[sandy cheeks]

I agree with the other ladies Ive been alone since ds was a baby his 4.5 now and i must say i enjoy it no 1 telling me how/what to do I still have to deal with ds dad telling me what im doing wrong in regards to ds which is really anoying im here 24/7 his not.
In some ways im glad i dont no carnt find the father to this baby cos then id have two dads telling me what to do so in answer to ur question no im not scared I want a career/good paying job studing takes up too much of my time none left 4 luv (excp the kiddies) and when the kids r grown up and moved out its time 4 mum to go overseas and do as i please.
In past exp u carnt go looking 4 love it will find u when u least expect it u need to b content with urself first.

[Mum2Bug]

I have been dating a man for the past 3 months and in recent days I have realised that im not sure if a relationship is what I want. Im happy single, my life is my own, I dont have to try to fit someone else into my life, I dont want to be rearranging plans or finding babysitters to be able to find time to date the man in my life. At the moment Im having a few issues regarding whether I want this to continue further or if I am better off staying single.

The one thing I am finding toughest is the emotional aspect of it all. Having a man in my life has turned me upside down emotionally and some days left me wondering what is going on?? Why do I put myself through this? Why do I allow someone else to be able to influence my emotional wellbeing?? And this may sound selfish but Im starting to get to a point I dont want someone to be able to do that. I just want to be living the happy life I was living before where I knew what I wanted and exactly when I wanted it.

[tyler's mum]

Ive never really liked being alone but ive never liked being in a relationship. Weird i know i have many issues that im slowly dealing with such as trust and so on. The day time im fine being single but its at nite when tyler is asleep. Its the shareing my day with someone shareing what new things tyler is doin. Yes i share with family and friends but its not the same iykwim. I do like that i do things my way (with tyler) It would be nice to have someone here to give me a hug when im feeling down just to help me with the everyday things

[missmaisy]

i hear ya!the days go so quick most of the time, but it's the night's that get me down, and not having that someone that is there waiting for you , or to make you a cuppa n help with tea n stuff.
what didn't u like a bout net dating if you don't mind me asking?

[tyler's mum]

i hear ya!the days go so quick most of the time, but it's the night's that get me down, and not having that someone that is there waiting for you , or to make you a cuppa n help with tea n stuff.
what didn't u like a bout net dating if you don't mind me asking?

Did'nt seem to have any guys i liked. Ive met guys from on line before having tyler so i dont have a problem meting that way. Just cant seem to find a guy i would want to date iykwim

[SimplyMum]

I have been dating a man for the past 3 months and in recent days I have realised that im not sure if a relationship is what I want. Im happy single, my life is my own, I dont have to try to fit someone else into my life, I dont want to be rearranging plans or finding babysitters to be able to find time to date the man in my life. At the moment Im having a few issues regarding whether I want this to continue further or if I am better off staying single.

The one thing I am finding toughest is the emotional aspect of it all. Having a man in my life has turned me upside down emotionally and some days left me wondering what is going on?? Why do I put myself through this? Why do I allow someone else to be able to influence my emotional wellbeing?? And this may sound selfish but Im starting to get to a point I dont want someone to be able to do that. I just want to be living the happy life I was living before where I knew what I wanted and exactly when I wanted it.

I get what your saying here. Life in most ways, was simpler without a 'man-friend', but in the same sense it's good when he's around.

I don't know if this was just a coincidence but I really started to like being single and enjoying my alone time when my 'man-friend' came along. It was weird, in one sense I was like, this is good, it feels right and in another sense I was thinking, oh bugger, now I'll have to deal with his problems and trying to find more time. But for the most part, he usually fits in around me and he's minimal fuss. It's more like, he has to deal with my problems!:laughing:

Tam- just try to relax. Perhaps you could try to find something to do (outside of being 'mum') that you enjoy or that makes you feel good. Don't think about how or where to find a man. Could you do a computer course, or a cooking course?

[*munchkin*]

I do think the hardest part about being a single parent is getting used to spending SO much time on your own. But I've come to accept it, and even enjoy it. I just try to keep myself busy, and plan ahead so that I'm catching up with friends during the day on weekends, or having them round for dinner at night.

I also try to make myself pick up the phone and call a friend even if I'm really tired and don't feel like it.

I agree with the idea of finding something you want to do - whether it's reading books about a topic you've always been interested in, learning to knit, cooking, scrapbooking, watching DVDs of a TV series, doing a fitness DVD at nights...absolutely anything that strikes your fancy (sorry if my suggestions are daggy!!!).


But for the most part, he usually fits in around me and he's minimal fuss. It's more like, he has to deal with my problems!:laughing:

I know what you mean! I've been dating a guy for about 2 months, and I figure that if he's serious about being part of my life, he has to fit around me. And that mostly means nights at home, and days wrestling a toddler. That's my life, so he either likes it or doesn't!

[tyler's mum]

Thanks for all the good advice ladies:yes: I dont have any real hobbie boring i know. I do like scarp booking and would like to get back into that once i have some spare cash.

flyangel01 Congrates on your wedding:valentine: i will have a look at that site

[Teley]

I used to get scared, even very recently I was scared.
Now I've just resigned myself to the fact that maybe it'll happen one day, but there is nothing I can do about it.
Maybe I will be alone. But whilst I am alive, let me hope that I can secure a better future for my children, be there for my friends, and leave this place a better world.
I do want to be in a relationship. But at the same time, I'm not holding my breath.

[neostudded]

I agree with onebabyboy, I am also really trying to enjoy being a single mother.

Yes, it is hard work! in so many ways, but I have become so much stronger now.

I am trying to change the way I think and I try to be happy and treat my body well/take care of myself ect.My well being is important as a single mother, as I have such a young person soley in my care.

I try as hard as I can not to let it get me down, I try and think of all the positives.My son is nine moth's old now and has a pretty good routine, so I can have a break for a few hours every week, at least once a week.

I am trying to do the best I can, for me and for my son.

I know that when the time is right, I will find someone. :goodvibes: