View Full Version : Anyone planning a freebirth?
Just looking for support and a chat.
I am seriously considering it.
I know that I'm having this baby at home with as little interference as possible, and really leaning towards freebirthing. :yes:
Ohhhh Sheena if you have a free birth can I come too.
DoulaRobyn
07-05-2008, 17:08
I am not planning one for my self.... but I will be my sil's doula when she freebirths at her home in July - so it should be amazing :)
I would have liked to freebirth my last three but my blood pressure wouldn't allow it. I did however do what my body asked me to do and feel my babies slip out into my own hands :) = fantastic birth experiences.
PookieLady
07-05-2008, 17:11
I would love to free birth i think it would be just so amazing :D
I think im going to see how my HBAC turns out and then i will deffinitly FB for #3
Sarah
:wave:
Do you feel like you are getting much support for your choice?
I don't really but I know I wont get support in hospital so I really want to have an unassisted birth. Hubby is mostly onboard. He is starting to understand how I feel but I don't feel truly supported.
mrsdj1234
08-05-2008, 16:15
I'm planning a freebirth.
I have only told people about the possiblity of having a homebirth with a midwife, and that has been met with so much negativity, that I refuse to tell people what we are really doing.
Hubby is well and truly onboard (it was mostly his enthusiasm that convinced me that freebirth was the way we are going).
I am getting lots of negativity so I can see how it might be easier just to say oh I am having baby in hospital, no need to worry. :rolleyes:
I hate getting advice when its not asked for. :hair:
DoulaRobyn
09-05-2008, 11:10
I get past their negativity you have to work on your positivity about your freebirth. Firstly educate yourself - knowledge is power. Then write down why you feel trully passionate about your decision. Then speak about it with other people with confidence and if they are rude enough to tell you negative things about your passion then you can tell them what they are doing and how it makes you feel.
ie "Please don't be negative about my personal birthing experience, I would like your support because when you say *insert negative comment* it makes me feel *negative emotion caused*"
Often we don't speak up and say these things because it makes the other person feel uncomfortable. What you have to remember is that they are the ones that have put the negative feelings upon you, you don't want the negative so hand it back, with a smile on your face :)
Get so excited about the experience that you are going to have that you can soar high above everyone elses judgement - get so absorbed in your pregnancy that no one else exists ;) (hrmm this is more something that happens occasionally when you have other children)
Boost your self confidence - remember you know what is the best thing for your body, mind and baby! Own your pregnancy!
*jumps off soap box*
That is great!
I just feel like I am going around in circles sometimes.
But you are right, it is MY pregnancy.
DoulaRobyn
09-05-2008, 19:00
These circles -or cycles- are rules that you have set for yourself... and rules - especially ones that cause you unhappiness- are meant to be broken!
DoulaRobyn
09-05-2008, 20:06
I found that I felt comforted by having women with me that had birthed before - like that they were going through the pain with me because they had felt it in their own bodies before and they knew what I was going through. They knew that sometimes I needed my brow mopped but other times I just needed my own space and that they didn't take my actions or words personally.
Hrmm I do remember thinking to myself that dh had no idea what I felt because he didn't have the bodily instruments I had. So when he was saying "Oh I see the head crowning, they don't call it the ring of fire for nothing" it didn't help me out!!! So I felt that dh was there because this was partly his experience too, so he didn't need to be just there to support me but that he may need some support too! I mean this was his baby too..... know what I mean?
Freebirth is all about you though... your body, your mind, your soul, birthing the baby that you have grown inside your own self. The experience of being able to reach down and show yourself what you have made is fantabulous! --- very selfish in a positive way!
Yeah I feel that I only want hubby there. I don't feel close to women generally.
I don't really feel a need for a support person whatsoever.
I feel the same way you do Kymmy, when i first imagined having my baby at home i only ever pictured my husband and myself being there. Having a stranger in my house just didnt fit. So im planning on freebirthing my bub in the next few weeks and im very excited about it.
PunkyDiva
09-05-2008, 21:20
I just want to yell "don't do it " when I hear other talking about freebirth or unassisted but I know I felt the same feelings as I planned mine and nothing a freind who is a Middie and Homebirth addict or my OB said could sway me from my dream so :hugs: and lotsa positive :goodvibes::goodvibes:
I freebirthed my first in feb and it was the greatest experience of my life :D I found that I really wanted women who had homebirthed with me, but more than them my DH. When my DH and I touched my pain eased, it was amazing.
I was in labour for 59 hours so we were really glad we decided to have our doulas with us at different times so that DH could take a break, coz I found it much harder to labour alone, it hurt more :)
Yeah sorry PD, not sure what you mean?
Its good to hear from those who have been there.
Thanks for the understanding Mamalicious and lillipili. :hugs:
For those planning a freebirth, are you having a free pregnancy?
I am enjoying this pregnancy. It feels so right for me to take care of myself.
I didn't enjoy my other pregnancies. I wonder now the reasons why.
Im not having a free pregnancy, i quite enjoy going down to the hospital for my antenatal appointments. My hospital is fairly small though so i dont have to spend hours waiting, usually go down and get seen straight away and come home again. Im also glad i know what position the baby is in and that it is head down.
I went to my GP once during pregnancy because I wanted to find out what my blood type was. I also needed to get a letter from a GP who saw me during pregnancy to confirm I didn't make it up, so I went thinking my GP would do that for me once the baby was born, how wrong I was :no: Next time I'll see a midwife once off just to get the letter.
Lillipilie did you feel you needed the hospital to tell you how your baby is positioned? I could feel where Harri was, I knew she was head down but posterior :)
I can never feel how my baby is lying, this one has been kicking me on both sides at once at the top, makes me a bit paranoid that it is hands poking me. But they told me it is definately head down, it is just a frog in disguise i think. :D
Hubby said to me I should birth the way I want!
So happy!
Hubby is keen on getting a birthing pool. :smiliedance:
Now coming up to 29 weeks.
Mum2Bella
20-06-2008, 17:15
reading this i always thought i had 3 homebirth but now ive relised iv had 3 freebirths whoo hoo im excited now
My unassisted pregnancy is going so well. Apart from negative feedback which is not warranted.
But it is my choice and I think its the best one for me.
No matter what ppl say I still don't want to go to the hosp.
I have to force myself to go to the GP ad get a hosp booking in appt. It sorta feels wrong.
With less than 8 weeks to go to my due date I am unsure of how prepared I need to be. I feel I need to read more I think.
I am not scared. Worried about things but certainly not fearful. I am excited about meeting bub when he/she is ready to meet me.
Mum2Bella
15-07-2008, 15:23
dont worry what others say,
trust your body n go with the flow of your labour.
I even had the midwife on my 1st n only vist to the hospital with my last baby,tell me dont worry about coming into the hospital just have bub at home,she said if more ppl can have birth like that it would be much better for bubs n mums,
i thought she would disapprove LOL
Thanks for your support. :goodvibes:
mrsdj1234
17-07-2008, 15:01
((((((HUGS))))))
I know what you mean by worried, but not fearful. I too am worrying (over tiny stuff, like getting stuff for the birth).
Just remember that you trust your body, and let it happen.
Mum2Bella
17-07-2008, 15:50
Iwould love to be at someones birth,i hope when my girls give birth they want ther mummy in with them,my mum never asked to come in with me so i didnt ask.
with my 4th i had every tom,**** n harry tell me they were coming to watch me give birth,i said who ever is 1st there get to stay,it was only my 2 younger girls n daddy that seen the birth
If my Mum and MIL were supportive them I would be happy for them to attend. ...I think.
I would love to attend someone's birth esp my own grandchildren.
neostudded
17-07-2008, 17:05
Kymmy, are you going to film your birth?
I wish I had of had a homebirth with my son and I wish I had of filmed it to.
Are you going to have a water birth?
How long to go now?
Kymmy, are you going to film your birth?
I wish I had of had a homebirth with my son and I wish I had of filmed it to.
Are you going to have a water birth?
How long to go now?
50days!
I am 33 weeks tomorrow.
Would love to film the birth. Will see.
Hoping to buy the pool in about 3 weeks. :smiliedance:
neostudded
07-08-2008, 22:55
Oh how exciting! :goodvibes:
I cant wait to hear how it all goes.
Thanks.
Getting excited now 36weeks.
We have ordered the pool so we are planning where to put it.
I think we will still be living here.
I went to gp on Wednesday. Tense but fine. Hubby doesn't want to go to hosp at all now. We were discussing the blood tests. I just want to book in and that is it. No internals palpitating baby or whatever.
38 weeks tomorrow.
We have the pool now - not yet set up. Busy week. Have to look at houses. So not motivated.
In a way I want to birth here but I don't want to move with a nb or miss out on a babymoon.
40 weeks yesterday.
Getting ready with pool set up now.
How many days I go over is anyone's guess!!
Just updating that I am 41 weeks.
No signs of bub's arrival.
mrsdj1234
15-09-2008, 16:55
I was thinking of you this weekend. I have been without my internet fix for the last week and I thought for sure you'd have had the bub.
ELV headed your way.
I'm really excited for you Kymmy!
Thankyou so much!
Yesterday had some action(regular contractions and pressure) but today bub is active and stretching out like crazy.
Not used to this. I had 3 labours that started and finished same day.
mrsdj1234
06-10-2008, 11:06
2 more weeks till my EDD given to me by the drs, but I'm still thinking that bub won't be here until closer to 4 weeks.
I'm now starting to get a little bit excited that it's going to be happening so soon, but I still haven't gotten my butt into gear and got everything ready yet.
Other than old towels, sharp sissors (for cutting the cord, DH is totally against lotus birth :( ) and something to tie the cord, what else should I be looking at preparing? I don't want to have a heap of stuff prepared, only to end up using about a 1/10 of it (like I did for my first birth in the hospital).
a couple of plastic undersheets to put beneath whatever you are labouring on are helpful, stops getting gunk and fluid on the carpet or floorboards...unless you are waterbirthing of course, then all the mess is contained in the pool :)
Gee, can't think of much else, a big container for the placenta, I'm keeping homoeopathics on hand to help minimise any bleeding...if I think of anything else I'll add it :)
There's not too much you need really...
Great thing about freebirth you don't really NEED anything.
ITs more important for your body and mind to be prepared.
We had shower curtains just in case I wanted to lay on the bed but we didn't use them. Had heaps of towels around the pool (though we had floorboards) as well as cloth flats. Wasn't worried if they were ruined.
Should have had scissors for cutting the cord (oh well next time!). Hubby was against lotus birth too but I was hopeful! He knew to wait til I had birthed the placenta and then til it was cold. We had a bucket for the placenta. Had a gunk container too to keep the pool clean!
I had candles (beeswax) which was lovely. Lavender from the garden smelt beautiful. A few bamboo washers for the perineum - baby came that quick though!
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