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Oh you poor thing. Not what you need to be going through right now. You need nurturing and loving and valueing. I don't know what to say. I have had the whole TV issue and I know many, many women who have had also. Are you able to talk deeply enough to tell him how much you need his help right now? It would be awful going into birth carrying this weight with you. Sending loads of:hugs: your way.
Wow Chic, this situation sounds terrible. And don't apologise for 'ranting and raving' about it. It's hurting you and if you need support that's why we're here.
:hugs: to you about this whole thing. From what you've said above, talking isn't going to get you anywhere with him. If you've asked him to leave and he won't, then maybe you and Jordan could leave? Not as a definite, but maybe go and stay somewhere for a few days and leave while he's at work. Maybe leave him a note/letter explaining why you've left and how he makes you feel and that you and Jordan don't need to be around his negativity and that you don't want to bring a baby into a household full of shouting? I don't know if this will make things better or worse for you but maybe it might make him sit up and take notice of what you're trying to say?
Short of this drastic action Chic, I really don't know what to suggest. I really hope you can work through this though. But always remember that bubhub is here for you anytime you need it!
With your bub's birth so imminent, you are probably right in staying put for now. You may not be getting support but breaking the relationship at such a fragile time can only create a whole lot of pressure that you and your son just don't need right now.
Thats why i think maybe i should bite the bullet and leave. But the new baby?? It throws up signs for me to stay, how would i explain to the family?
Far out i just dont know, failing relationships never make sense i guess.
But would it be more beneficial for Jordan and Bub to have a father who always shouts at them and upsets their mum, or better off just to have a loving happy mum all to themselves? I'm sorry, this sounds like I'm encouraging you to leave him, all I'm trying to say is what you've already said Chic, you need to put yourself and your kids first coz it sure as hell sounds like he's not putting you guys first like he should :thumbsdown:
First up I'm so sorry to hear how poorly you are being treated - I can't imagine what you are going through everyday. It sounds like your partner had no decnet male models growing up and resents having to be a grown up!
With your baby being due so soon I guess you have no real choice but to stay put for the time being ... but if I was you and things didn't improve - I'd be making plans to kick him out. Sorry to be so blunt - I truely hope things get better for you :fingerscrossed:
I was 36 weeks preg when i left my ex and it was the best thing i ever did. I'm not saying it is what you should do, but you do ahve options. I gave him many chances to prove that he was responsible etc etc but to no avail.
I had a very stressed preg which was to him and very high bp.
My reasoning behind leaving was that if it's not a healthy environment for me, then it's not going to be healthy for my child.
At 41weeks preg ( boy was 12days od) I moved back in with my parents and i have never looked back.
You never know how strong you are until you give yourself the chance to prove it.
Good Luck and i hope everything works out for the best.
I'm sorry to hear you are going through such a stressful time.
When you go into hospital who is going to be looking after your DS? Do you have any family closeby maybe mum/dad that you could go to before bubs is born?
sounds like your DF needs to grow up and he needs a good kick in the butt for putting you through all of this and to make matters worse you are about to give birth to his child.
if he hasn't shaped up after the birth of your first child I doubt very much he's going to get his act together overnight. If you are able to I'd get him to sit down and sensibly talk about where your relationship is heading and what your concerns are for you little family unit because of the current situation.
if he doesn't want to get it together then if it is at all possible leave or tell him to get out. Are you able to talk to his family about it?
Glad to hear that you have had a chat and i hope that he starts getting his act together. I hope it all works out and goodluck with your next new arrival! :D
have you suggested counselling?
best of luck babe :hugs:
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