I'm missing home, real bad

[Shakey]

i'm really really missing home, to the point that when I think of home and how far away I am from my family and friends, I actually feel sick in the stomach, I mean really sick, I feel awfull

don't get me wrong, I love it here, its a great country with great people, but I am really missing my family and friends in NZ, I don't really have anyone close here, I have my DH and my best friend (who is a wee way away) and that is about it, I just feel so loney:(, i've been here for just over 2 years now, is this home sickness just a phase? will I get over it? is it normal?

is there anyone else out there that has felt the same? either now or in the past?


now I thought that once I blurted this out I would feel better, but I don't :crying:

[mumofcuties]

oh you poor darling :hugs: :hugs::hugs: lots of hug for you. do you try to head out much and meet some new people? i moved from nz when i was 9 so that was a long time ago my dad and sister still live there and we are heading back for a holiday next month. do you keep in contact with everyone that you know over there and do you get to visit very much?? i dont really have any advice but if you need to chat im usually around somewhere i hope things get better soon :wave:

[Wondermum]

Sending lots of :hugs: :hugs: from a fellow kiwi ;)

I went through this stage (if you call it a stage). Just looking at your sig it was about the same time for me that I started missing my family back in NZ. About 6 mths after I had DS2 I went back to NZ for a holiday :yes:

Is it possible for you to go back for a holiday? I hope things start looking a little brighter for you soon :fingerscrossed::flowerz:

[MyFab4]

:hugs: Jo. I don't know if it gets better. I know we moved up from NSW 5 yrs ago and it hit me when I filled out my son's school enrolment forms and realised I didn't have a single person I could put down as a contact person. I was lucky tho and my family moved up not long after.

[Shakey]

Thanks guys

i've not long got back from a holiday in NZ, been back here for 2 mths now, now I want to go back again lol, I might see if I can get some money together to go back again, I keep in contact with everyone in NZ, thats probably half the problem, keeping in contact with everyone makes it harder in some ways

I havn't had a car the whole time we've been here, so thats probably half my prob too, i've got cabbin feaver real bad :yes: I think its really getting to me

Myfab4 your lucky your family followed you, how did you get them to do that, i've been trying to get my family over here for ages lol

[A&Omummy]

Jo big big:hugs: to you! I'm always online as you know if you wanna chat. I know what its like not having family around. So hard when ya just wanna drop in to see ya mum for chat and you can't. As I have said before if you wanna come over just let me know.

[Jenko]

Aw hun, i'm sorry your feeling so homesick. :hugs: Once you get that car going it really will open up so many doors for you.

Tell Carl he's driving next weekend and we can have a few drinks together ;) I'll try and cheer ya up. :D

[janetyeh]

Hi Jo...kind of feel homesick too sometimes. WIth no family and close friends nearby it can feel really isolating and lonely. That's why I was thinking of starting a regular meet going so that I can meet more people regularly otherwise I feel that I am always at home with the kids. If you ever have a car you can always pop over at our place. I'm always at home with the two girls so feel free to come over.

[Mahjong]

Oh hun :hugs: Could not read this and not reply. When are you getting the car do you know?

You have my mobile number and Im even closer to you now :yes:

What days are best for you?

[Lastcenturymum]

Just popped in when I saw your heading to say I know how you feel. I'm living overseas and miss my family lots.

Things I have found helped are to get involved in something outside the home (hard for you when you don't drive) and get out regularly. I find even going to the park and sitting in the sun watching the ducks is helpful :)

Sometimes going back home to visit is bittersweet, great to see everyone, but you know that you have to leave again.

I'm convinced no matter how hard we try to adjust to living somewhere else home is always where our hearts are.

At least I know I will be back home in about 3 years for good.

:hugs::hugs: to you and know you aren't alone

[maorimama]

I too felt the same about 3mths after arriving. My problem was that I did nothing but stay home day in and day out while the kids were at school making friends and DH was at work doing the same.
I decided that for my own sanity I had to get out and meet other mums so started volunteering at the kids school.
There are times when I miss home, but when I think of the reason we moved here I try to put those feelings behind me.
I think it would be a good idea to have a kiwi meet up, I know I would be keen.