Scared after 1st miscarriage

[No2WhereAreYou]

Hi

I am 9 weeks pregnant with my 2nd pregnancy. My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage at 10 weeks, and it wasnt until recently the doctor told me my previous pregnancy was a blighted ovum.
I thought a blighted ovum was where the baby has not developed at all and no heart beat and fetal pole was found, but I remember going for a 6 week scan and both a heart beat and pole was found (i had on off spotting over 5 weeks).

Now in this prgnancy i have had no spotting, and m/s is still here, nipples are sensitive but my boobs aren't "bigger".

I am worried when I go for a scan they will say there is no baby! and I dont want to go for one before the 12 weeks.

Anyone know if I have been misdiagnosed?

[kas3]

Sorry, I don't have any advice, I just wanted to reply and show my support. My first pregnancy also ended in a miscarriage. I'm 18 weeks into my second pregnancy and I know what the worry is like. I keep thinking I'll turn up to my morphology scan in 12 days and something with be wrong with baby. I think it's pretty normal for ppl who have experienced miscarriage.

[becca022]

I'm still scared.

My 1st pregnancy resulted in miscarriage, then I had my son 11 months later. I'm now pregnant again & even at 14 weeks I'm still scared that at one of my scans they won't find a heartbeat.

I guess if you go through something as heartbreaking as a miscarriage the feelings never truely leaves you. I'll never fully 'relax' in a pregnancy because I know what 'can' go wrong.

[No2WhereAreYou]

Thanks ladies, much appreciated;)

[SJsMum]

I would agree with what everyone has said. I have 1 DD but have had 2 m/c (7 and 16.5 wks, the 2nd was a chromosome abnormality) and a blighted ovum. My GP said no to an early ultrasound so the b.o wasn't picked up until the 12 wk scan. I am ~7 weeks pg now with a clomid baby and demanded an early u/s. When I went they couldn't yet find the heatbeat so I have to go back next week. I am very frightened and probably won't relax until I give birth to a live, healthy baby! Having said that the choice is give up (I am 38!) or feel the fear and do it anyway on the off chance that my bad run of luck may be over this time....I try to only worry about what I know for sure and push the endless "what ifs" to the back of my mind. best of luck. you are definitely not alone

[Queen]

I too am scared, I did not find out I was pregnant til 8 weeks, then miscarried at nine, I am so scared, I will not tell anyone until 12weeks next time.

[inka2980]

I also agree with everyone!
I am 16 1/2 weeks pregnant and I'm still really worried about m/c after 2 previous m/c's both at 8 1/2 weeks. Even though I've seen my baby 4 times on ultrasound I still worry that it's going to end badly!
:hugs: to everyone!

[lovebeingamum!]

Anyone know if I have been misdiagnosed?

First of all, congrats and things sound like they're on the right track :thumbsup:
Try not to stress too much (easier said than done), and just take it a day at a time.

As far as being misdiagnosed... personally I feel that 'blighted ovum' seems to be thrown around by Dr's a bit willy nilly...
My OBGYN also said that I had a blighted ovum when I went for my check up after my m/c. I'm not sure how he came up with that considering the baby was only 5/6 weeks and I was supposed to be 8weeks when I m/c.

From what I've read a blighted ovum is where everything is going along hunky dorey, or so you think, until you go for your scan and there is nothing there and usually a d&c is needed.
No, we couldn't see anything on the u/s, but it all would've been too small to see anything (I didnt have an internal). How can he say that it was a b/o?? How does he know there wasnt a 1.5cm object (bub) in there, that would've been smaller because it died 2/3 weeks before??

It certainly didnt make me feel any better (is that their intentions??), and I still think of it as my lost baby... so that's our conclusions and we havent told anyone that the m/c was classified as a b/o

On a happy note, you just have to spend a little time on here to realise how common m/c are, and even though there are unlucky women who find it difficult the next time - there's just as many success stories that go on to have a happy healthy bub!! I think m/c are just one of those unexplainable things and doesnt mean that it will happen again.
Sending lots of sticky baby dust to you :babydust2: