ok just a little question we have just started CC this week..
DD will put herself to sleep after about 5 mins of crying but then she will wake up 20 mins later after that she refuses to go back to sleep even if im patting her but she is still screaming if i get her out of bed and try to play she just cries cause she is so tired so my questions is should i persist with CC after she has woken from a 20 min sleep or should i get her up and rock her/feed her and hope that eventually the 20 min sleep will turn into longer?
she puts her self to sleep at night no probs and she sleeps through the night so i know that she knows how to do it its just the day sleeps that are the problem..
what do i do.
I thought, despite the fact that I can't tell you exactly what the right thing to do is... That I would have a go at helping you through this one....
I love controlled crying, it has worked so well on my non-stop crying bub.
This is my nap time routine... for the first few weeks anyway...
First set a routine for nap time. After lunch at about 12.30. Be sure to be home each day for that nap..(especially when you are just starting to teach the routine)
I'm a particularly cruel Mum, I have a 20 minute rule. I never extended by increments, just 20 minutes.. That means baby can cry for 20 minutes before I go in and take her out of her cot.
When I take her out of her cot, I give her a cuddle, I sing a song. Encouraging baby to be comforted by cuddles, rather than by the bottle/boobie, certainly helped me get my bubby to sleep. When baby is calm, I would try to put baby back in cot. Usually the response will be more crying. Don't worry. Leave baby in there with the door closed for a further ten minutes, then lesson is over. If baby has gone to sleep - GREAT. If baby hasn't o well.. baby has still learned a lesson. Take baby out of cot, play with baby, give baby boobie. Maybe baby will doze off in your arms at this stage, just chuck them in the cot to sleep.
Importantly don't over do CC. 1 hour of trying to get your baby to take a nap is certainly enough. You will have one REALLY p***ed off baby if you push it too far. The knack is to know what is too far. For me too far is when picking baby up and cuddling did not stop the tears. Set rules for yourself and the CC session, it will help alleviate guilt.
So for your situation I would try this.... When baby wakes up after twenty minute nap. ignore baby for whatever increment you feel comfortable with (maybe ten minutes), if (ten minutes consistently doesn't work go for fifteen, twenty minutes) Then cuddle and comfort before putting back in cot for a further ten minutes..... Or after the cuddle and comfort -end the lesson instead of the extra 10 minutes. (if you control cried to get the initial 20 minutes it might be a bit much to continue)
,,, are you sure that maybe lots of 20 minute naps might be more your babys style???
So. I may have helped you,, or not... I would be interested to know what another persons opinion might be...
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