Sister feels left out

[mum23boys]

I am just so frustrated right now I just have to get this off my chest.
I have organised a baby shower for my sister who I class as my best friend we are really close. We have a older sister that we both really dont have much to do with other then the times we happen to be visiting our parents at the same time. Why we are like this with her I dont really know we just arent as close to her as we are with each other. There has been some issues over the years but I cannot pin point why exactly we arent close.
Anyway back to the point she has had no input into the baby shower from the start. I did ring her when it was first planned and we had set a date but since then I haven't rang her and she hasn't rang me. Now she is all upset crying to our mum that at first she didn't care but now it has come around she is hurt that we didn't get her involved. She has been emailing my sister at work asking why she hasn't been included and why we cant have it at her place instead of the pregnant sisters. It was supposed to be at my place but it cant be now so we are having at the pregnant sisters house but she is taking it to heart and saying it should be at her place. It is more practical at the pregnant sisters house as she has more room and a really nice big deck we can have it on.
Now mum wants me to ring her and ask her to come and do what we have to do tonight and friday and be involved but to me it will just come across fake and that we are only doing it out of obligation.
Sorry for the long post and for it being abit confusing with all the sister this and sister that I just had to vent. Thanks to anyone who read this far. Any advice would be appreciated.

[Qube]

Oh, that's terrible :hugs: to you and your pregnant sister. That would really sh*t me, she might be feeling excluded, but trying to make your sister upset won't help. This is your sisters moment to enjoy her pregnancy, if she wants to get closer to you guys then there are less selfish ways to do this. And I think it is lovely that you are doing this for your preg sister. Perhaps there is some way she could help decorate or something?

[Lyglc]

I guess that I can understand that she may feel left out (and it probably has more to do with the fact that she realises you and the preg sister are far closer than her with either of you) rather than about the baby shower.

I do think that if she wanted to be involved with the baby shower that she should have mentioned something ealrier, but perhaps she was hoping to be asked, rather than have to ask herself.

I guess if you were to mention that it's actually easier to have the baby shower at the pregnant sisters house as then she doesn't have to move any of the gifts etc, and it gives the guests a chance to look at the nursery/baby items etc that they've already organised.
Perhaps you could ask her if there is something she would like to do at the baby shower - there may be something specific that she would really love to do,but if not, then perhaps you could ask her to do a few jobs that you could give to her.

Hope it all turns out okay and that all you you have a really good time.