What to do?

[Sazeby]

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[Penthesilea]

I'd certainly do something.

If you feel that reporting her to DOCS is too much, here is another option.

Could you talk to the child care centre her children attend? Surely they would have concerns of their own about the children and suspect their care at home is inadequate. They could talk to the mum and offer help and refer her to local services that would assist her - parenting classes, suggest she see a doctor for depression, for example.

What do you think?

[the_queen]

If she's claiming benefits illegally, I'd report that.

I'd definitely report her to DOCS as well - that 5 yr old could have hearing loss; a 2 yr old should have around 200 words!! Neglect, abuse - those kids are in danger, particularly with the coldness at night time, the poor little things!!

I'd report her, and I'd feel no remorse at doing so.

[naiwen]

I would report her, if her son had an asthma attack and died because she didnt give him his medication how would you feel?

I beleive as adults we have a duty of care to report children at risk. They might only take them for a few days or not at all. I beleive they only take children as a last resort and try many ways to improve the situation.

Hugs for you I realise this must be hard but think how hard it is for those kids shivering and crying alone.

[eastofeden]

I would be reporting it for sure. Those poor little cherubs need someone to look out for them. Please for their sake ,overcome any hesitation you may be feeling and make that call!

[mumkc]

Yup, I'd report her. That is disgraceful!

[gizmoduckus]

Please report it. Somebody has to look out for those poor children.

[Ange&Seth]

I'd be reporting it too - she might just need a kick up the bum which could come in the form of having the kids removed for a period of time but no child should have to live like that :no:

[MountainGirl]

report her.


I feel teary and emotional thinking about it,.. The least that children deserve is warmth, safety, a full belly and comfort,... The least.

[Lilys*mummy]

I would definately be reporting her.:shame:
The situation those kids are in sounds terrible!!

[the_original_duchess]

REPORT HER NOW
sorry to yell but if i ever put my children in that sort of situation i would expect people to dobb me in.
hoepfully they (DoCs)will ut her in parenting classes nad some sort of health and safety for children classes so she can see what she is doing to her chidrens health and lives. i hope that your "friend" can sort her self out for the sake of her children and keep them in a safe, loving and healthy home. if not then i hope that child welfare can provide them with a home that will give them all of their needs. obviously the children are already effected by this, but with the right guidance and help they can reverse any damage caused to them and give them what they need.
all the best with the difficult call you need to make.:hugs:
Dani

[kristi001]

Hun i would report her an get as many other people to report her aswel.

Those poor kids. :(

[Sazeby]

I'm not her friend, i was before i saw what was happening. Ok it's decided, i will make the call. I just needed a push in the right direction. thanks ladies. Can a call to docs be anonymous?

[the_queen]

Absolutely anonymous. They will probably ask for your name etc, but if you stress to them that you want to be anonymous they will honour that.

[Tracy79]

Report her!

[ComeBackKid]

I definitely think you would be doing the right thing by reporting her! Thats a terrible environment and a disgraceful situation. The kids would probably be taken away initially but then they'd give the mum parenting ed etc making sure it was a suitable environment for the kids to be returned to.
Good luck!

[Miss_Vicki]

Hope it went all well , If your can get photo proff of any of it , that would help alot to :)

[purplefairy]

In saying her kids go to childcare, the childcare provider is probably aware of the situation and has already got some evidence of their neglect. When you report her, tell them that they are in childcare and the name of the provider, this may help the children more.
May docs can provide information and education for her and some support so she can learn to be a better mother. You really dont know what her childhood was like and maybe she is repeating mistakes her parents made in how they were to her, so in saying that rreporting this is the maybe only way to help

[Jakois]

Its been a few days since you posted this, but I just wanted to say I hope that you have reported her.
Those poor little kids need a voice:(.

[Benji]

My XDP used to work with someone and her ex hubby reported her to DOCS (out of spite - she did nothing wrong) and apparantly they turned up at her door unnanounced, obviously saw that none of the things her X was saying was true and let her be.

I think when DOCS see a house and children that have obviously been neglected, they give the parents a checklist of what they have to prove that they are doing before they will leave them alone (or get the child back if they have to go and stay with the other parent).

I would definitely tell them!

Good luck, what a horrible experience that must have been seeing that :(

[RHJ]

I would certainly be calling, and i hope you were able to. I would be more worried about the Karma of not reporting and leaving children in that situation, especially if one of them became ill... and then thinking that i should have done something. Those poor children!